10 Signs That a Man is Emotionally Invested in You
Is he falling in love with you… or not? Here are 10 powerful signs that will give you a CLEAR PICTURE on whether a man is becoming more emotionally invested in you!
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How do I know he loves me? How can I tell if a guy is falling for me? What are signs that a man is falling in love? I get asked questions like these ALL THE TIME by clients, students and women in my life… so I created a video that shares the 10 biggest and most telling ways to tell if a guy is truly opening his heart to you 
TIMELINE
0:00 Intro
0:37 Subscribe
0:50 How Emotional Investment Creates Love for Men
1:17 – 1) They Embrace Your Flaws with a Smile
2:31 – 2) They Are Exceptionally Present and Proactive to Your Needs
3:33 – 3) They Go "Above and Beyond" to Make You Happy
4:50 – 4) They Make Time for You (no matter how busy they are)
6:15 – 5) They're Genuinely Curious about the Details of Your Life
7:26 – 6) They Get a Little Protective Over You (in a healthy way)
9:09 – 7) Quick and Thoughtful Responses to Texts
10:11 – 8) He Talks About You to his Friends and Family
10:42 – 9) He introduces You to His Friends and Family in a Reasonable Amount of Time
11:44 – 10) He Future-Builds with You
13:50 – Recap of All 10 Signs
16:31 – Closing Comments
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QUESTION OF THE DAY – Which of these 10 signs is the most “foolproof” one in your experience with men? Are there any big ones that I’ve missed that you’d like me to address in a follow up video?
He looks at you like a puppy in love, he will go out of his way to pleasure you and he will give you a bite of his meal without complaining
It’s the little things, he’s attentive and he will just kiss me for no particular reason. When he first told me he loved me it felt like fireworks went off. I’ve been in showy relationships, and I appreciate him more as when he does somethimg special. He opens doors for me, he pulls out my chair for he at a restaurant and he puts my wine glass in the freezer for me in a hot day. For me it’s those attentive things.
The protective behavior is a big sign, like even gently grabbing your arm to cross the street. But another tell sign would be if he show up as soon as another man comes near, like subtlely checking what the conversation was about…Also this week discovered the guy who as the 10 points above, he is very submissive and gentle with me but I was surprised to discovered he can be really assertive and autority in the rest of his social interactions. He soften when he is with me.
My guy has and does ALL 10! Mat Shafer, you are the best relationship guru!
If you get hurt he will move Heaven and earth to make sure you don’t need to do anything but rest and recover and tells you not to apologize or feel guilty for him doing so much for you till you are healed. Personally I had fallen down the stairs and my man got a bucket with warm water and sea salt, helped me up and to the couch insisted for me to just sit there and let him take care of everything and not to worry l. Cleaned my wound and just cuddled me intimately not sexually if you get what I mean. I have a high sex drive but want to wait till I’m married he was told this and I have tried to come on to him and he pushes me off saying no I want to respect your choice to wait. Yes okay we have slipped up a few times before I made the choice I’m only human
but he truly respects me that much. It was hard for him but he helped support me to keep me strong. He has canceled plans to be with me. One huge thing in every day getting not only good morning beautiful with kisses but also good night sweetheart with blow kisses on video before bed. We talk all the time we can’t seem to get enough of each other. We can be washing dishes or taking out garbage together yet we still have the best time ever together! He also will wake up first make me coffee then come lay next to me and watch me sleep and smile and kiss me when I look awful and have bad breath in the morning 
.I’ve never been so connected to another man who feels the same in my life! Also I notice he will tell you about dreams or visions he has for the future. Biggest thing is that you see the hidden him the side that men hide from those he’s not insanely close with. He’ll cry in front of you and open up about intimate details about their past that he holds dear to his heart. He’ll trip up if you are. listening to him talk and he gets lost in your eyes. He’ll shower you immensely with his particular main love language/love languages, all because he wants to see your smile he adores so much he can’t get enough of looking into your eyes or seeing you smile. He’s litt from within when he around you, you’ll see and feel this. He gets concerned if you don’t text back after a few Hour’s if you didn’t tell him a reason why you might not be able to message back at that time. He will even do things he doesn’t like to do or care for with me if I ask him to. Like go to church or read the Bible with me even though he isn’t Christian himself. If you have kids he welcomes them with open arms and loves them as if they were his own.
Top 10
1. He accepts your flaws.
2. He is proactive to your needs.
3. He goes above and beyond to make you happy.
4. He will make time for you.
5. He is interested with your personal life.
6. He is protected over you, emotional and physical well being.
7. He is supportive to you when you are stress.He is responsive to your text.
8. He talks about you to his family.
9. He introduces you to his friends and family within 6 months.
10. He future build with you.
well done my dear!!
TY~
Girl thx for the recap.
This deserves a screenshot
Thank you everyone! I just wrote it down too for my future reference
I need to memorize and remember these important notes 
Wow! I’m super blessed! After a horrible year of dating unavailable men, I finally found the one!!
I need to go kiss my man now!! lol
How did you find him girl? Or rather how did he find you?
Brenda Marie the grace of God. I was about to delete my dating app and he appeared. He looked like he was from where I’m from (California) so I took a chance and I’m so glad I did.
i think i am dating an unavailable men right now and i am crying. i deserve a good relationship, i dont understand why everything happens
Same
@@meliholland same story with me and my new person
hoping for the best
I remember dating my boyfriend last year and we move slowly. And when he started talking about his future with me I know where we were heading. He is amazing.
@@Wowyana we are talking like 6 months and we are in a relationship kind of slowly haha. Taking our time knowing each other. Just being friends. Getting comfortable. Being ourselves. Almost a year now
Ya, exactly. We went through a drive-thru recently and we were eating in my car and he randomly brought up “names we wouldn’t use for our kids.” Lol it’s silly, but he has brought up kids/marriage a lot. All the time, he is certain of his intentions for me
By the way … I am 77 + …. who says you can’t find happiness at my age? I was just about to “throw in the towel” when I met Edward, thought it was going to be my last date and then what happened …. it is incredible. So happy now. Now I see what you say makes sense.
Congrats to you &Edward. X
Awww lovely
thank you fpr shared it with us
So happy for you Inga!! Thank you for the beautiful share, love is TRULY possible at any point in our lives
Thank you for sharing , Inga! Great to hear that yoe found love at the age of 77! I’m sure this will last until the end… Hopefully I too will be finding my ‘Edvard’ soon… I’m 71 now. Great to know that it is never too late
Congratulations! It makes me so happy to know it’s never too late to find love
This man knows his stuff. I’m impressed.
Thanks so much Karen M!
Yes now its just trying to find these men lol.
@@makedafindlay9398 Right!
He definitely is invested
Ikr
My husband does these things! I am So happy
I Thank God for him he is such a blessing to me!
Please pray4 me x my guy is asking abt God x its good
My guy does everything but sometimes takes several hours 2 reply2 my texts. Should I worry
Amen!
That is awesome! Happy for you
Oh gosh I was finding reasons to convince myself that he just cares as a friend but you make some good points here that I can’t deny lol
Awesome! Thank you
Wow, I’ve been dating a guy for a little over 2 months and this is all so him. It’s so refreshingly different from most of dating experiences I’ve had before, just so natural and comfortable and easy.
what’s his zodiac sign by the way??
Are you in love with him and are you still together?
@@hellomiss7177 Virgo!
@@lucyk2634 yes it’s been 7 months now and I’m very happy! (:
As a man. I really appreciate the traits you exposed in this video.
Happy I could be of help!
The moment when you watch this video till the end and realize that you have been suffering in a relation for 10 years with a man that has not invested a dime emotionally into me. None of the 10 signs present……… I guess I need to take action now…
@Mat: thank you so much for opening my eyes!
Yep get ride of him.
Listen to a lady on YouTube called Shera seven. She can change your life for the better.
That is how my ex was.. Good luck to you.
I know. Right?
Very sad. Hope you have better luck soon
Ladies he has given YOU the keys. Without these actions YOU mean very little to that man!!
#4 is very true. I’m dating a man with two small children & whenever I’m free (which isn’t often) he rearranges his whole schedule to see me. It’s very sweet.
You are so lucky
I’m so happy for you my dear!
I’m 40. I’ve never had such a man in my life. I can only hope for the future. I’ve never been in love….well, one sided, of course. I have a cat now. It’s fills some of the void.
I am 39 and it took this long for it to find me
Do the things that make you happy, embrace your singleness, it will make you more attractive and the right one will come along. I found love again at the age of 56, 5 years after the end of my 25 year marriage. The Lord kept me and blessed me. Love
you first.
You sound so bitter shift your energy
@@sofialovinglife597 she didn’t sound bitter to me, she was merely stating her truth. Being kind is always cool.
Me too I have cats and dogs they’re much better than men they’re extremely loyal and loving they’re enough for me
“Emotional investment is the currency of love.”
Way to break it down, man.
Thank you!
just have to say this; spending time on a date in the park is really nice, and not every guy has the kind of money to book a vacation *like that*!
Thanks for sharing<3
This makes me appreciate my husband even more because he did all those things when we were dating. He is my love and my best friend. Thank you for reminding me to take care of him better as we grow old together.
My mom & step dad were together for 40 years. They met when I was 19 y.o..Jack was an AMAZING husband for my mom, terrific dad To me & my sisters, à perfect grandfather & Great GrandPa To My grandchildren
.He just passes away last year @ the age of 92& 1/2. We all Loved him dearly ! . THEY WERE TRULY A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN !!
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
Yeah. And, did you need a “coach” to tell you those were the signs of love? I thought so…
I’m 62 and have been through a lot of toxicity and abuse … Married 3 terrible times and grew up with an abusive father and mother …. I’ve now gotten to know the most wonderful man… he is so kind and fun … We really are doing well … So much of what you talk about is actually the norm in this relationship … He is 10 years older than me …. but that doesn’t matter to me at all … I can tell that we are both invested …. I feel so blessed ….
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
Who would understand this than me
but I am glad you are strong enough to break through! And able to build a health relationship! Remain blessed !
Thanks for this video I’m over 70, thought I’d never find someone as wonderful as my new man. Most all the points you gave are present in our relationship
AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! And thank you
Thank you so much Mat.
I am 71 and met the man of my dreams over 11 months ago. We are INCREDIBLY happy!!! He does all of these things and more!! I am VERY BLESSED!!!!
Thank you so much for sharing!