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He wanted love and a relationship ..started to complain from the first time we were together but kept on coming back and going on and off saying he was sorry to come back and sorry to leave …he drove me crazy !
Jon is so honest. 😳. I love it 👍🏾
Thank you Jonathan for the great knowledge on relationships and self learning….😊♥️🇨🇦🙏💯, ty also the great books tips to read up on….planning to purchase them all for healing self…
@@TheTulina c cfc sd5zpa8
True appreciation & gratitude for each other and our best interest at heart, I totally agree with.
So true, people run away and jump to conclusions instead of talking about the issues.
Loved this. Very funny and informative😁
Being passive means giving all control of the relationship to the other person. Women can’t afford to be passive, we need to speak up and not wait until date 10, wasting time and money with the wrong person!
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Well said Veronica 👏🏾❤
Hahaha.. yup you said it ! Wasting time and MONEY ! ..
You shouldn’t be giving men money at all
@@helena3631 Yes, many that are narcs want the women to pay for things and then when they get good jobs after you take care of kids, your costing too MUCH money…go figure, when He said to My Mom if she dies she will not suffer anymore because she left ME…lol…this is after I’m begging for help…two months..I had pancreatitis and gastroparesis and he didn’t want to go to the hospital…kid you not, Telling my attorney he treated me like a QUEEN…
If he doesnt want me and like me then I move on. I come from a place of abundance I only want man who want me I am not beggar for love. I have so much love to give and ready to recieve. I have my family who loves so much. I only want someone who loves me and stay away from who dont
You go honey!
Good for you girl . Loved them and leave them /move on .
Yes, this woman has said the right thing.
Exactly!👍
Word! 👍
I am really happy to hear you said the wrong person will get overwhelmed by our true selves.
Because my mom, despite she had gone through a divorce, still thinks the old way is the right way.
Mom’s right
Mine wants me to stay with an adulterer for financial security 😒. Nope, not doing it.
I asked after meeting my boyfriend by the 4 th date and said I am monogamous and will not settle for anything else… I so agree Jonathan you need to be upfront and say what I needed…. There’s no way I am overwhelming a man of what I want..
and if the guy takes it offensively that’s on him .. there’s the door!!
3 signs:
1. Communication between dates becomes scattered, random, or aloof.
2. They start complaining about life circumstances.
3. They prefer to spend time with friends, family, or work; instead of making time for us.
Uh oh. I have the triple threat situation with my guy
Yes, since when did I become a part time relationship and not included in your personal life? I’m a good woman, I deserve to be put in front row not on a back burner
Thank you🙏🏻♥️
Thank you!
Lol so true .. until they want something or got refused by someone else they are treating the same way ..
Can’t stand people who expect your sincerness yet don’t do the same in return .
I’m a 54 year old woman; a nurse and I’ve always been intentional; but I’m a deep spiritual lady and many men can’t handle me,….truth to point
It’s true. Many men can’t handle that. What’s worse is when they carry on in the beginning as if they DO get it, and ARE being transparent or deep, but as time goes by, it’s hard for them to keep up the façade, it’s too much work for a guy to keep up the ruse, and things begin to fall apart — and the unraveling generally begins with his behavior towards me.
That is the most heartbreaking, being led to believe we’re a match, we’re meant to be, led to believe he loved me deeply and truly, only to be crushed when it crashes all because he couldn’t fake it anymore.
I’m done for awhile. I’m getting back to taking care of myself and loving Me.
Perhaps, if/when I heal someday from the last 40 years of toxicity, then perhaps a real guy, a true match to my energy and values, will enter my life.
If he never does, I’ll still be happy and content, because I validate and love and honor myself.
Still, it’s been heartbreaking, because it’s been nearly all my life.
You perhaps say too much about being deeply spiritual. Hold this back and just be a woman who respects herself. Perhaps less of a daunting challenge. Mention spirituality later on when you get to know him.
@@AngelWingzzz sorry I’m not changing the good that I offer that’s what makes me
So true — when we are spiritual and self aware – it’s so much harder to ‘lower standards’ – just to be with someone who is ‘halfway’ there… sigh — ughhh —
@@phoenixmode6909 At least you know now.
Mutual Effort! It takes two to tango. I’m done being passive and waiting. I’m going full throttle and if he likes me great if not I’m not chasing. Jonathan you’re amazing.
WOW, thank you 😊
I am thankful for my Mother who taught me how to vet men and without her instruction I’m sure I would have had regrets. I learned from my Mother to give nothing for free and because of this it took a long time to find someone who respected my values. I thank my husband’s Mom for raising a son who is a gentleman.
May I ask why you’re listening to this YouTube if you’re settled and happy? 🌷
the key is finding a man who respects my values…no…a person who shares your values.
@@caroshmarow she helps the rest of us have hope
@@caroshmarow maybe she listens to help her friends, family or daughter- he gives a different perspective and way of talking about the issues of relationships. Not sure 🤔 but thats why I listen and for future reference.
@@caroshmarow just because someone listens to this, doesn’t mean they’re not settled and happy. Like me, I was scrolling on YouTube and seen this video and was just interested on what he had to say so I listened. I am happily married and been married for 13 years. Some of us just get curious when we see a title like this.
The last man I dated told me he was looking for a relationship. We had what seemed like a great connection. Then we were intimate. And suddenly, he wasn’t. So, don’t always believe what people tell you, but always ask.
Men say they want a relationship so they can have sex with you…it’s just game very few genuine people out there
Perhaps you have to look closely at what you think is a good relationship. Maybe figure out your standards in different areas. Not what they say, but what they do!
@@AngelWingzzz I think you misunderstood my post. The moral of the story was – don’t always believe what people tell you, but always ask.
@@lucythepug3116 but they lie so look at his actions
@@samboriboun2213 I’m just not sure if people don’t read my posts, or don’t understand my posts. Again I will say – the moral of the story is – don’t always believe what people tell you, but always ask.
all of this is so true. I noticed it with signs like:
1) texts went from good morrning, and good night with texts in between to fewer and fewer per day, to going entire days without a text or call
2) texts were less emotional
3) not responding to my questions or when I shared news of my life, songs, articles etc over text. Seems like he didnt even read them.
4) When I texted that I was feeling down or going through a rough time he suggested I go for a walk and “walk it out” where as in the past he would have called and talked with me about it. Even texts where I explicitly asked for his help or advice would get ignored.
5) After we would get together and be intimate, plans we had for subsequent dates the next day would suddenly become very inconvenient or forgotten or there would be some excuse why they couldnt happen.
6) Little things he used to do to show he cared like walking me to my car after a visit, he was now too busy, too tired, had too much work.
7) Didnt look me in the eye during sex.. didnt return words of affection.. Attributed our bond to “dopamine” chemicals in our brain.
Once I started paying attention to these small signs of neglect and uncaring, I decided I needed and wanted more and I was going to stop settling for breadcrumbs.. It’s been 2 weeks now of no contact. Thank you Jonathan for your (sometimes obnoxious) but always on the mark videos and advice to make me see the light and see his behaviour for what it truly was. It is really validating when I hear it in your videos and gives me the strength to keep going with the no contact and not cave for my desire to see him (despite it all I DO misshim!)
Watched a video about childhood neglect crappy childhood. Hooked on breadcrumbs means you’re like the kid waiting for your mom or dad to come home & pay attention to you. Many do this and when a person is good to you then they get labelled as too nice ! Make sense ??
My last relationship I picked Up quickly that he was not interested anymore. Less communication, family excuses. So I asked him straight and I confirmed what I already knew.
Love the approach of treating my man. Most men don’t allow it but I am a firm believer of sharing. So thanks for giving me this excellent line to show him how much i appreciate him paying for everything. Great Video Jonathon!
So exhausting…simplify. No sex for several months. Take the time to see if they can be your best friend. Talk a lot about everything. If they want no part of this they aren’t ready for a mature and real relationship. He’s correct. Ask questions. Spend time getting to know each other. I agree. Don’t just let men pick you. Know what you want and choose who you want as a woman. Set boundaries. He is correct about getting hooked on the fantasy. Be real with yourself and honest. There are no games in real love. Be brave and be straight forward. It’s cathartic.
Kimberly Loftus well said.
That sounds like me
It’s insulting to put someone in the friend zone. That’s the end of any romantic involvement. I don’t think men and women can be true friends. Sex always comes up, esp if they’ve slept together before. They can be friendLY acquaintances, say hi when they run across each other. But they’re not going to pal around together, go to lunch with each other to meet their new significant others, go on out of town trips together whether a fishing trip or to the beach. When a man says “let’s be good friends,” he’s telling you he knows you’re not “the one.” You’ve been friend zoned. He wants to “be friends” so he can keep your number and possibly have sex with you again in the future. Women also say “let’s be friends” to let the man down easy. She knows they won’t be real friends. If he or she wants to be “friends,” the romantic involvement is over. I wouldn’t accept being friends, because you can’t really be friends, so why pretend. You can be friendLY. No need to be hostile.
I’ve chosen all of my guys, walked right up and asked them out. One of them was “the one”, I knew it from the start but he didn’t and that was fine…it took a while for him to figure it out and I respected that. Two of the others were relationships for years, I chose a few duds, they didn’t last long- I just walked away bc it just wasn’t happening so never went further than a couple of dates with them. Been together with my husband almost 30 years, married over 20.
Agreed w/no sex and seek friendship first!
Thank you!! This is the first straight talk from a male, concerning relationships! And yes, I’ve done healing work!!
I’m so glad I found your channel. I’m a widow and recently saw the widower of my late best friend at a family function. For some strange reason we both felt an electric energy between us. We are both shocked. But we are dear friends who have known each other for 42 years….so….we will see. We have great communication, trust, and comfort with each other already.
Good for you Helen it’s ok to love again 💕
@@Sharon-777 several widowed friends of mine married other widows they had known for years. They are happy.
Why waste time trying to vet strangers when someone with whom there is mutual trust and care is right there?
I declined (3 times now) going out with this guy that led me on for so long…Im now beginning to respect myself finally.
Rule #1 is never give a friend or a bf a husband privilege until you are sure he is the one. Period!
It’s okay to be a person who attaches too quickly or get hooked. Just time to recognize it and not let it control the show
I am one of the kind. It’s hard to take back control and let go and forget…
Basically listen to your instincts, trust your gut feeling because if you feel something’s not right then nine times out of ten it isn’t.