3 powerful models of understanding narcissism
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ฮarcissists are very โsweetโ very charming and tempting like a cake . But itโs up to us to avoid falling in their trap. As always they need an audience.
Sure, and so many of us who fall for cake have an eating disorder.
Thank you So much! These ARE powerful. I don’t know how I missed them in the original videos, but perhaps my cptsd brain just didn’t remember. ๐ but these are pretty clear and your clearly showing the discernment necessary and how to see the difference is so important.
When I started to listen to Dr. Ramani I felt like it was “Beginning Narcissism”, then it was “Intermediate Narcissism” and now it is “Advanced Narcissism.” I suspect it has more to do with my maturing and being able to “hear it” rather than her presentations.
@marysisak2359ย same! Well stated. I love hearing the older videos in this compiled longer ones. Some I know I’ve heard and bookmarked abs linked before, but I hear different stuff all the time. Especially after I got past the 101 stage of understanding narcissism, Narcissistic abuse and it’s impacts.
Here’s to us continuing to grow and heal into our best selves!
I had an emotional dream about my sister last night and woke up. It must’ve been brought on because I listened to the videos just before I went to sleep.
Mine was a cake I never ate but had a hard time divorcing because I want an annulment. He goes from job to job and ruins people gets them fired so he can get their positions and never pays what he has too. He says he will be a big dj one day as a means so that I don’t throw him out. He is the most horrid person I have ever met.
Narcs often calls the victim as paranoid. It really is the narc that is paranoid
The Smartphone the greatest gift to narcs. They need surgery to remove the phone. It is the best excuse to see the reality of what a jerk they are.
Iโm just dreaming here but you know what would be really helpful? If there was a community or place where โrefugeesโ from narcissistic abuse could go, rent a room or live where people understand narcissism or have had similar experiences. Where you can speak your truth. People who are not so easily taken in. Where you donโt have to prove yourself so much, or cause damage to your children. Where you can build a new family, not be criticized, talk freely, spend time detoxing, hang out with more โnormalโ people. Get away from a toxic environment. Yes having money would make it a lot easier but you still have to face a lot of criticism, struggle to meet new people, start over.
Shelters do exist.
A retreat center for victims of narcissistic abuse.
โ@drvpscott Shelters are a last option since they are incredibly dangerous especially for women and children. I’d much rather be homeless in my car than have to go to a shelter and get SAed and have all my things stolen.
During his final hoover attempt my ex borrowed John Gottman’s book from me, supposedly determined to read it. He later gave it back to me saying he didn’t get through it because “he didn’t like the style of writing” but forgot his bookmark on a page with the title “How cheating becomes an option”. Even while completely trauma bonded I could see the irony in that, because he denied having cheated on me right until the end, even after I got an STD from him.
I had bought the book “What Makes Love Last?” before breaking up with my ex and had only skimmed through the first chapters before understanding that our relationship had never at any point met ANY of the most basic standards needed for relationships to last. I can only recommend the book!
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I had ‘What Makes Marriages Survive or Fail’. Took him a long time to agree to do the questionnaires. He felt justified in his answers. Not caring about any hurt. That was the end of couples therapy. Prior he said he becomes too angry at the appts and the last visit he took it out on my car.
The book actually got me along a lot further than I thought in closure, even though we are still living together.
Your story reminds me of something I experienced. My therapist and I were working with The Complex PTSD Workbook by Arielle Schwartz. I asked if it would be a good idea to share it with my (now) Ex and I did with her endorsement. When the Ex returned the book my therapist looked for her bookmark. “Did you notice where she stopped reading?” she asked me. It was page 73, Avoidance and Defenses. ๐ถ
@@SpiritProofShield Why are they so predictable! Sounds like an absolute nightmare ๐I feel like the worst part towards of the end of the relationship is that while they’re being ice cold, angry, rageful, and physically aggressive, we’re desperately trying to save the relationship/marriage and our sanity. Going to therapy, educating ourselves, buying books. Just to be met with contempt and indifference. Thanks for sharing! Sending you strength ๐ซ
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Brilliant compilation of videos. Inspiring!
Dr John Gottman is very good at showing the seriousness of the relationship dynamic.
I was recommended to read his book from a conversation after hearing about it on Catholic radio.
When I finally got answers to the questions he puts forward I was shocked and fortunately we had a remote appt with the therapist following.
The questions that really settled it for me was the refusal to say what he thought or how he remembered the dating/proposal/planning/having a family. He repeatedly said ‘I don’t think that way’ then give any approval as his family. He ‘wasn’t even sure it was a proposal’. To which I removed my ring. He tried to say he didn’t think he planned having children. A real rewriting of all he prided himself on.
My spouse, in therapy, was told to say ‘we’ because he ONLY spoke of ‘I’ (himself). There was no we or us. He would not recognize me at all, even when asked directly.
i think the original 4 horsemen describe my narc marriage too
Misread that as the “Chocolate Cake Meal” and I was like “I need to know more about this diet lol”
I will now look at people like โok are you unhealthy chocolate cake or super healthy yummy vegan protein brownies?โ..I will choose the vegan protein brownies always now โค๐