3 True Stories of Narcissistic Entitlement & Greed
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Narcissists are insatiable. No matter what you do or give, it will be enough for them. Not because you’re not enough as a person, but because they’re not enough themselves. They have a void that can never be filled. They suck the life out of anything they get involved in. This is why they’re constantly chasing novelty and newness, because everything has a shelf life for them. It’s only a certain amount of time until things start to feel… off.
A perfect description of this unhealthy dynamic being present in every contact with a narcissist from someone who really gets it.
Yeah NarcSurvivor, its like a Santas stocking over a chandelier..Lets not speak about it, just ruff up that petty ego in any form.
Unlike the gang stalkers.
Sooner or later the fire place is just the shyte from their behind.
Yeah there’s a hole
Their greed doesn’t have a limit. It’s hard to set up boundaries.
You cannot set boundary with someone who doesn’t have a self. Self reflection requires a self and there’s only the false self. That’s the disorder. If they cannot handle hard conversation, they cannot handle being truly known, they can’t never offer you a real connection, honesty and love.
Sushmayen , I look forward to your insightful comments . You are wise enough to do boundary setting .
This reminds me of when my mother cut down all the bushes in my front yard, including the big one that covered the tall front window, which didn’t (yet) have blinds and which afforded a view right back to our bedroom. She claimed that “pruning” them (she cut an 8-foot bush down to nubs 3 inches off the ground) was an act of service and I was ungrateful. I am amazed at how clever she was at choosing acts of aggression that she could then reframe as services
Like she didn’t even ask permission! No respect that this is yours not hers to decide what to do!! Never ending with the narcissistic personality 😢
Reminds me of the time my mom “helped me pack” because I wasn’t checking out of the hotel room as quickly as she was. She took the straw hat that I had painstakingly debated over buying for days, and wadded it up like she was ringing out a dish towel and shoved it in my suitcase, in hopes that I would find it once I arrived home. But I found it before we left the hotel, and I literally went down to the hotel gift shop and bought another one, thus taking even longer to leave the hotel than she originally wanted to, even though we weren’t even riding together.
When I was about 13, my mother decided to paint a window sill in my bedroom. Instead of using painters tape to protect the walls, she used my treasured antique postcard collection as a brush guide. Not just one of them , either…. she used all of them. I had spent years collecting them, and she destroyed every single one of them. When I broke down in tears, she yelled at me for being an ingrate after “all the work” she did. Narcs take perverse pleasure in hurting you while claiming credit for a good deed.
OmG I so felt for the man that his horrible gf took his car parts to the dump. The entitlement here. So proud that he took her to court and is fighting this she deserves to pay and was soooo wrong. I don’t know her, but I immensely dislike her. Great job keep it up see her in court. Dont back down. 💪
Proud of him too. It work to even go to the police. It’s scary that someone would just takeover ur space like that.
Agreed. He should file theft charges along with the lawsuit. Poor choices have poor consequences.
That’s what they do. Anything you find joy in they destroy it. So sad to waste life living with these people.
Even if it’s “junk,” it’s not hers. He’s way better off with her gone.
#2: The small “purchases” were a test to see if she could be milked for cash. Then he went for a (supposed) larger amount, and wanted her banking info. He was going to empty her account and disappear. The temper fit he threw when he didn’t get his way was a huge warning sign. I’ve experienced similar behavior before.
I agree
The ruminating on these if they are right or wrong is a wow! All were relatively short term uncommitted, relationships. So glad they all made the right decisions.
Thank you, Dr. Ramani.
Your kind of warm, wisdom and kindness is exactly what the world needs. ❤
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I just went through this. My now ex moved into my house after discussing that I would never put him on the title because I intend to leave the house to my kid (who needs the accessibility modifications I’ve made) but that we could make legal agreements to protect his right to live in the house if something happens to me and make sure there are equivalent assets for his daughter. He agreed. We discussed this many times before and after he moved in. But a while after he moved in, after a lot of manipulative and controlling behaviors cropped up, he started claiming that he couldn’t be better to me until his name was on the title because it made him feel so insecure. Even after we broke up and he was moving out (one of his patterns was to break up with me “since I never make you happy so you can find someone else” every couple of weeks) he wanted to try again — and promised he would stop behaving badly if only I would put his name on the title.
He never contributed to the mortgage or property tax. He made some small house repairs and paid for groceries and sometimes contributed to utilities and that was it. And he thought I should give half my largest asset to someone who was not good to me. It was unreal.
He’s crazy. Good job leaving him. I am in the process of leaving my relationship. Very similar. He lives w me in my house and pays for nothing. He now and again brings up how much he makes, I have never shared how much I make. If he wants to know he can ask me directly. He finds wrong in everything I do, and now he even says I have to be appreciative because his schedule revolves around me – around my kids’ school and activity schedules. After 2.5 years, this is the first time I hear this complaint. I think he’s fishing for things to say to put me down because he knows he’s losing his control over me. I hope you and your kid are doing better now.
Next time, get your legal affairs in order before you let any X move in.
@@susanjones8489 ? There were no legal troubles. He moved out and I’ve moved on
@@SimplyHealthTips thank you. We are doing better, but oy, what a meat grinder
Run Jane Run!
Hello Dr Ramani. You always look so beautiful. After watching your video where you explained that you yourself still suffer with mistrust, hypervigilance and anxiety in social situations, it made me so very sad. I’m so sorry that you are still experiencing the aftermath of narcisstic abuse. At 52 I’m in exactly the same place. It would seem to be a life long challenge, but I thank you wholeheartedly for providing the wealth of invaluable information and for sharing your own vulnerabilities. You are very much appreciated.
You really helped me understand what was happening to me. I took charge, reported it and now my abuser is in jail. Thank you ❤
I love that you’re doing these!
When children are involved, eight months is still very early to be asking for money.
Definitely take her to court. It’s not just about the car, but it’s about a hobby and the emotion that goes into fixing up something you love to do. Go get that X.
That’s so very wrong. My husband has a 1978 car in the garage in good shape and I have a 2002 car also. It’s what we love to do. Apparently the girlfriend always ran to mommy to get out of her situations
Story number one..this guy is smart!!!!! Good for him
I love the practical examples of the toxic/crazy shenanigans! Thank You
My dads hobby is restoring old school american cars. Its his absolute passion. I was gasping as I heard that the girlfriend sold his car parts so she could park her car in the garage. Thats insane!
That story gave me chest pains.
Story 3 – ladies, never, ever put someone else’s name on the deed to your house. NEVER!!!
Mine removed a TV console & put up a TV on a pole that looked hideous. Then refused to take the very large piece out of my room. I was furious!!!
Keep these coming, because these teaching moments are priceless.
Save your receipts y’all.
Use a home surveillance system that should maintain a person’s bodily privacy (don’t commit crimes in the name of rooting others out).
When people destroy property, steal, and/or sell property or leave it out in the snow or rainwater to be destroyed without so much as your input, gaslight you, don’t have your back when their family puts you down. When they lie, won’t apologize, use you as a scapegoat for their bad behavior, if they have a parent who starts inviting themselves to interfere in your relationship, won’t partner with you in a respectful manner concerning shared decisions, or respect reasonable boundaries, even if there are small kids (the younger they are the better). Just. Get. Out.
They don’t change.
It can and will get worse.
ive read your book. i’ve listened to you and every other speaker, here. i’m working on breaking my trauma bond. i’m stuck and because of financial constraints, i cannot leave. horses and geese and chickens, cats and dogs. i own the animals, their feed, their accessories, the hay, the household contents…and my narcissist owns the house and land. my dad is gone, he was responsible for getting me back here. sister and younger brother have bonded, over the will, since sis is the executor. i live in fear that i’ll lose this home and barn and all that makes me happy. and they obviously love my suffering. my sister avoids me and never answers my calls or emails. my brother does the same. she came home, bringing mom to her summer home, and built her bond with my brother, even placing pix of them together on social media. yeah, it makes me sad i’m not included. i know that i’m now the scapegoat, because i named mom’s behavior and am trying to break the trauma bonds. it’s getting worse and they are all enjoying themselves, knowing i am scared and unaware of what’s going to happen. makes me paranoid. i know what this is and i just keep moving.