4 dangerous BELIEFS about love that DRAW YOU to narcissists
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Thanks, Doctor Ramani: 1) wanting to be chased … 2) believing in soulmates … 3) believing in love at first sight … 4) believing in destiny and magic … Although I rarely ever deal with the cruel dating world, I always appreciate you keeping it real and helping us stay with reality in real life. You are the strong warrior against the cruel nonsense from cultures and societies. We love you!!!!!
We have learn it from fairy tales, novels and movies, Love was somethings else before the movies came.
When you play stupid love games with a narcissist, you win STUPID PRIZES!
🤣 Do you ever!!!!
FACTS! Return them.
“Just 2 lost souls swimming in a fish bowl…year after year..” 😂Pink Floyd lyrics
@@ktbiwk That’s by Pink Floyd? 😯 Which song do you mean?
“Oooh I one a ticket to trauma and tickets to 3 years of therapy what did you get?”
We just gotta laugh at it sometimes, and the realization the narcs functionally can’t do that is a pleasant reminder of what divides us from them. I learned to appreciate humility, humanity, and love bc I realize some don’t have them or outright choose to not express them. Worst offenders being the narc, will apply and pervert them. These sacrade things.
I realized the other day that I romanticize trauma bonding … Something I have to unlearn and stop fantasizing about, so I don’t get sucked into the wrong relationship again. I was married to a narc for 15 years and I’ve been single for over a year now, loving my freedom but BOY is there a lot of emotional crap to clear out and heal, and so much de-programming to do!
In the narcissist’s mind they’re a soul mate for everyone at the same time. They’ll order a thousand “I love you, you’re the only one”, love cards and hand them out to everyone they meet. 😅😂
Never believed in the soulmates ‘lovey dovey’ idea. But am absolutely convinced that the narcissist is a ‘soulless mate’ straight to their core.
😂 Like what you did there! Agree.
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Lol truth- I remember the beginning of soul train a music a dance tv show- S-O-U-l-T-R-A-I-N😊
Omg you and I think alike!! I just had a question for Dr Ramani on her take on souls and the soulless narcissists.
Thank you Dr Ramini.
I’ve finally walked away after battling with the trauma bond I’ve carried for so long.
He hoovered me over various times over the past 18 months and I was weak.
After the most recent (4 months )relationship and trying to make it work…..again….I can’t take any more.
I watch your video’s with new eyes now and radical acceptance has finally clicked into place.
My heart still breaks but I know he’ll never treat me with the love and respect I long for from him.
Thank you for being there❤x
Having a number of friends who fell into that downward spiral of progressively more destructive relationships with more narcissistic, more abusive partners, my first line of advice I have is the more the person rushes you, the more hyper-idealized they seem, the more you need to slow down. Maybe even flee.
Sadly there’s this addictive quality to being love-bombed that some people are particularly predisposed to fall prey to making them progressively more vulnerable to worse and worse cycles of abuse.
Instead of taking each rejection as an indication of personal inadequacy compelling you to believe you need to take even worse abuse the next cycle, you need to step back, evaluate your selection process, your excessive dependence on being love-bombed and not seeing through it to recognize the predator who is propositioning you, and this is exactly what you need to learn to avoid.
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 YES, well said
Find your magic in yourself! 💜 💜 💜
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Yes. Best comment.
Yes – I know no one actually loves me was thinking this this morning. I thought how about loving yourself. So I said screw the world it’s cold and went back to sleep.. lazy day❤
I was too rational to believe in love at first sight or soul mates…and then a narcissist found me.
Thank you Dr Ramani. Nice to be reminded to keep us on track.
Yes, find the magic in you ❤
Thank you for doing this work. It has helped me be real in my situation and end the doubt. I am getting out of blaming myself and also accepting the work I need to do. ❤️💜💚
I actually have found my soul mate, and it’s my beagle! He gets me and I get him, and that’s the only soul mate I need.
Omg how true! I’m living in a tent. I have the most beautiful cat I’ve ever seen in my life checks in on me sometimes sleeps with me and I feed him. I believe his hat is hanging in my tent lol
Dang girl you nailed that one! A planet full of people and we are completely alone. Too many people choose to be reptilian.
Shapeshifters
I’m almost 2 years out of a relatively short narcissistic relationship 3 years. My daughter is just leaving a 18 year narcissistic relationship with 3 kids 14,12 & 8. I still have not attempted to forge any new relationships never mind a partner relationship. You’ve helped me greatly in my journey to understand myself. My daughter saw you on a podcast and brought your book. 😊 Thank you 🙏 for doing these videos. God bless you my dear
Good afternoon Dr. Ramani, thank you for your words of wisdom. My body is still recovering from the evil i have endured, after falling in the beginning with demonic love bombing 😢. Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150👑🙏👍
I don’t see the “signs” I’ve received as guides telling me what to do or whom to love or pursue. But they have been so profound in their synchronicity that they compel me to wonder about the energy in the universe. They are magnificent reminders of existence, or time, or something!, beyond this existence that we cannot (yet?) understand. I don’t know what they mean outside of that, if anything. That is more than enough for me. And again, you don’t go looking for them. You just remain open to the possibility.
As for “the stars,” it intrigues me that more and more studies are finding a correlation between moon phases and human biology. It has been found that the reproductive cycles of marine organisms, for instance, are linked to phases of the moon. There is so much we do not know. … And it is all so fascinating! But, yes, always ALWAYS proceed with a healthy dose of skepticism, especially in this age of disinformation, misinfirmation, AI, and NARCISSISM.
“Do I text now? Am I being too needy?”
They are NOT thinking about you, that’s why they’re not getting back to you.”
Don’t feel insecure. “They’re just doing what works for them.”
Someone who hasn’t been SEEN or heard at crucial developmental stages or being conditionally valued as a child makes you NEED validation. The attention the Narc is so good at giving feels validating.