4 types of people narcissists seek out
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Narcissists seek out high value people, people who have something to provide. But also people with a lack of boundaries, support network and self-esteem.
Why are you piggy backing on the great work of Dr Ramani’s? Do you need her followers to support you😢
I needed to hear this
I had self esteem, but until I was healing, I realized my boundaries should have been stronger! Being kind hearted and a empath, I should have been stricter.
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@@kimberly0717Same. ❤. It happens. Don’t beat yourself up about it. We are human and make mistakes. Now you know better and can do better. Stay strong ❤❤
Not far down the road they cry that you don’t need them. Then they become set on taking that out of you.
Our needs were shattered. Our hearts were broken. This is to condition us to become needless person.
Yes souls were sucked up by these toxic entities.😕😕
What do u mean by needless ? Ion get it explain
What a wise person , to simplify the most complicated relationships in an understandable way. ❤
A childhood of emotional deprivation and neglect left me suffering the same fate. Though less so these days, still, I’ve always felt “lucky” to be lked or noticed by those I admire and respect. I was called out on it several years ago, which was mortifying, but ultimately helpful to recognize.
Ive been a needless person my entire life — “I go with the flow” I tell people!
I expressed three needs very clearly to my husband: to be able to share stories I love (movies, tv), having a made bed to crawl into, and to be wrapped up in a tight hug when I’m letting my emotions take the wheel.
In the end I decided I was being a nag, sweating the small stuff. I believed the illusion of the big picture. I regret not sweating the smaller stuff more early on.
Telling a narc ” this does not feel good to me” is NOT good..they love making you feel not good. In my opinion, is better to give a clear verbal boundary like ” i do not accept that”
Thanks Dr. Ramani it took Me 52 Years and You helped Me so much ❤️ to finally Get it!!! Blessings 🙌
same here, but I always say better late than never
This is a GREAT topic I’ve not heard anyone cover before but it’s exactly what happened to me my whole life. It wasn’t until I was seriously ill and literally fighting for my life with Autoimmune conditions that I started studying Narscissism in depth 10 years ago. If it wasn’t for YouTube and primarily Dr Ramani but also Dr Berg, I never would have figured it out and began a long hard healing journey. Looking back, I can’t believe how far I’ve come.
I was/am in a similar boat
I used to think it was my job to do all the work in relationships, and my close friends and family members got very used to it. After I learned I was partly responsible for my situation and stopped giving too much, I lost a lot of friends. Now that I’m only willing to meet someone in the middle, the narcs seem to lose interest in me. I’m not cool anymore with being the only one putting in the work.
Felt. This. Deeply.
I’m glad you stood up for yourself. The trash eventually takes itself out.
When I was a kid, it one day occurred to me that none of my other friends had asked to hang out or plan anything in years. Hurt like hell that summer when I wanted to see if any of them would ask themselves and no one did. Now I have new friends who want to spend time with me
Wow! I needed this information. Wow! My mind is blown! It explains a lot! Thank You!
My motto as a teenager was, “If I can just be perfect, they will leave me the f¥ck alone.” This makes me sad to think about at the age of 61.
Well wow! All your counsel is really good, but this one for me was over the top…thank you🙏💖
My narcissist is a therapist in charge of the crisis department of our local mental health care. She is seen as a god for her incredible skills at manipulation… and I have to admit, that in a crisis situation, she is unmatched.
For the first time I picked up her mention of attachment style. Never really honed in on it before until I started looking into Fearful Avoidants insecure attachment styles. Game changer.
You just described my life and relationships. Not just romantically. If you push back and say “no”, you are called the B word. They claim you’ll have a bad reputation. Primarily because they want to use you. After my emotionally abusive relationship, my ex called me and said “well, you really don’t need much to be happy”. Then served me with papers suing me for divorce a week later, asking for the world financially. Thank you for this video, it gives me a lot to think about.
Watching this video made me cry, it was like listening to my entire story.
This was my entire life. Need-less and the cool girl. This video made me sick to my stomach because I was that pathetic person and allowed all those horrible things to go on either with my family, my marriage, and my friendships.
The moment you stand up for yourself after decades of neglect and abuse and being amenable to every awful manipulation and behavior, you have made enemies of people who you thought you could trust and who you thought cared about you. The trash will take itself out once you say you’ve had enough. No more settling for crumbs. No more going along to get along.
Thanks, Dr. Ramani. Hang in there, survivors. You will get through this!
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There are still alot of good people in the world. Healing after trauma will always be ongoing. Remain aware and set boundaries ( hard ones where needed) give yourself a break often.
Thanks Dr Ramani. Im getting it before 60❤
‘A big ole human back of vulnerabilities and wounds’ how those words resonate with me!