4 VITAL rules to follow when interacting with a narcissist
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November 1-3, 2024
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This video is amazing Insight it saves a lot of people a lot of heartbreak, just thinking logically.And mentally about the narcissist relationship
Don’t share your secrets with them. Don’t confide in them or trust them. Don’t depend on them for anything. Use grey rock. Don’t give them your emotions.
Easier said than done when they’re supposed to be your “life partner”. They’re not even capable of being simple roommates. 😢
I understand, I’m having to ask God to help me…
that’s the only way I will make it.
🙏🫂
I’ve dealt with this for 39 yrs and I completely approve of your message.
@@dk5755be kind to yourself in all of this. You did not know what you did not know. Research all you can and learn to protect yourself. Your quiet is for you to heal. The Little Shaman on YouTube had a video that said a narcissist is a blank canvas waiting for someone to give them something to be put on that canvas, give them nothing. Like Dr. Ramani has said “ they are not listening to you.” Also Dr. Ramani has said “This world needs you.” I hope you find peace in your life journey and I am sorry you are going through this. You are not alone. Stay strong. 💕💪
1/ Never Over Sharing Anything with A Narcissit.
2/ Being Careful in Your Choice Of Words.
3/ Detecting Manipulations.
4/ Setting Firm Boundaries
My Most Important Rule I’ve Learned Is Stopping All Communication Avoiding Them..
The last rule is the most effective and the most necessary thing to remember
@@1stBorn538 Absolutely
wisdom
Me too. I’ve had a lifetime of abuse,neglect, sarcasm, and manipulation. Being by myself is my answer I’m 76 years old. At this point, I’m getting to know my inner child and being happy for the calm and peace that is in my life for the first time.
In their immature minds while you continue to interact with them you continue in their game, in their supply matrix. You have to use their language: When they discard a supply you literally do not exist. When they feel discarded as not useful, ignored, minimized, that is when they understand that you are no longer in the game.
They are not normal people, you have to be radical with them. They know that if you could see them you wouldn’t even talk to them, do it and they know that you still don’t see their scam.
Don’t you see me? Don’t you see that I use you and scam you? Do you speak to me? Do you share information about your life, your emotions, your thoughts, what are you going to do? Then you don’t see me because no one would talk to a scammer without any emotional connection, so you continue in my game… you still don’t know who I am and what I am capable of… let’s continue.
OMG! Doctor Ramani, this is the most hepful video for me!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Don’t make anything personal, keep it strictly business.
7:27 just saying this for those new to the system. They WILL go the extra mile if they still need you for their ego or for something else in their life. But once they feel they have you, abuse resurfaces again. Watch more of Dr Ramani’s for a well rounded understanding.
It’s so whacked. If they’d just been normal we never would have left / kicked them out but they won’t hear it or own up to their difference from the norm.
yes, when they need something, or when you have something that they want, or when they think they’re losing you. THEN they’ll treat you better and promise you anything…until you commit to them, again.
My ex wife frequently lied and gaslighted the kids and me. It took me a long time to give up on the relationship. In the end it was worth it though.
Thanks for shifting over to managing a narc relationship Doc, as you say some of us can not just “get out” or “leave the relationship” like I have been advised by so many in the comments… wish I could !
Same
A lot of well-meaning but ignorant people advise “leaving” and “getting out.” A lot of abusive people advise that, too, just to be hurtful. Then they pretend that you don’t leave because you’re somehow “hooked” to being abused, and they decide that since you’re Fair Game for Narky; then they may as well take a few pokes at you, too.
Sometimes, you’ve over shared, unaware of them being narcs… So in those cases, once you see red flags, handle them accordingly.
YES
You are SO RIGHT about hesitating to give up because you want them to get better! 🥴
Radical acceptance…
of the persons limitations
Love, Love!!
Thank you for helping me so.
Dr. ramani- you are saving my life. Such powerful and usable information every single time!
Staying calm . Staying silent … it’s so very hard but worth it 🫤
When you realize that you where all your life surrounded by untrusted narcissists, and that they will always betray you and your trust (mother, father, brothers, relatives), is really hard.
It is really, REALLY hard 😢 And you are not alone ❤
Seeing what was really happening in my relationship with my daughters gave me the strength to walk away from them. I stopped wondering what I was doing wrong, what I needed to do differently, begging for a little bit of their time, being their dog walker, housecleaner, cook,laundress, And punching bag. Thank God, those days are over. I live by myself. the rest of the family blames me for walking away from my daughters so they have nothing to do with me either. It’s difficult reframing your entire life at 75 years old. But the idea of walking back into that dysfunction makes me sick.
Live YOUR life
Absolutely valuable info. You’re right, not taking it personally does help but I AM still exhausted. Using skills is exhausting and I am using skills constantly to Grey or yellow rock. To anchor my reality, to “CBT ” the unreality projected upon me and remind myself who I actually am. It’s an ugly dance.
This is my favorite video so far because what you’re advising is extremely practical . I really want to thank you for helping people.
The difficul thing, is one you recieve the disdain, attacks and contempts of many narcissists in a family. That happened to me: Mother, uncle, cousins, brother, really, a hell of a situation, without any sense. A narcissistic family system it is possible the worst thing you can even experience.
Yes it is. Family is the worst.
I grasp your hand.
Thank you for your time and these videos. I honestly don’t know where I would be at this point in my mind if I didn’t have these and Dr. Carter’s videos. You have helped me understand so much. ❤