5 Evidence Based Tips To Help You Find A Relationship
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I just go with the boomhauer approach. Ask every woman until one says yes. You only need one to win, so the odds are in your favor.
Funny when I was in my teens and twenties I did that and it worked very well LOL the Boomhauer method works trust me. Now in my 30s at 35 it does in the right area. Sadly i live in a family starting town😵😤😫😭
80% of women date 10% of the men today. If you are an average guy the chances of dating a great woman in the US is very low. The 80% tend to have very high body counts, in other words they freely share the 10% of men.
For long term, it’s now very common for women to initiate the breakup of long term relationships. It’s very easy for women to leave these relationships and usually they do well financially.
This method used to work in the past before dating apps became popular. Now, men to have go through 100s of rejections before finding that one person. The rejection and ghosting rate has increased significantly from past years. most guy’s self confidence is going to hit rock bottom and give up before they find that one girl into them
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The other day I was feeling a bit lonely, and I’ll admit that I felt a mixture of emotions. The timing for the topic of this video is perfect, and I’m ready to listen with an open mind!
❤️ hugs!
@@CourtneyRyan Thanks! I’m exploring different ways of putting myself out there, and even though I haven’t gone on a date since I re-entered the dating scene last month, I’m not giving up any time soon! After watching your video, I have decided to try online dating, though I might wait until after the holidays pass.
Your future partner might be a friend of a friend, so definitely should go out more and meet new people.
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You’re the best Courtney! Wish you can make it to the million subscribers before year ends! 🙌
Thank you! You’re so kind 🥹
@@CourtneyRyan you’re an amazing person. Thank you for being so nice to everyone of your fans especially me. I know you live in Cleveland. But I have a Philadelphia sports podcast. It’s called sports live in the 215 and I chose that name because of the alliteration even though I live in Maryland.
I agree, she made one last week….me. One at a time, you will get there soon as awesome as you are.
All I can say is if you want hookups, go follow the advice of pickup artists and some “dating coaches that aren’t even in relationships themselves long term
If you want something serious and meaningful, follow Courtney’s tips. During the hurricane, my lady friend and I spent half the night talking about anything, just to get our minds off it. Getting to know her has been like unwrapping a present on Christmas morning.
And final note, I decided to go back to therapy but it’s on my terms and I call the shots
🥹🥹🥹❤️ I’m so happy for you Tommy!!
@@CourtneyRyan thank you as always
Not to throw shade but men are always gaslighted to think that in the context of relationships, any choice is their choice. You would think the discourse of therapy is your choice, your terms …..very doubtful.
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Courtney is giving great advice. She’s like a female Corey Wayne without the tiresome “bro” overload attitude. If you can ignore Wayne’s demeanor, he actually gives excellent advice which is very similar to Courtney’s advice.
🎯 Key points for quick navigation:
00:27 *🎯 Focus on personal growth goals rather than finding “the one” – it’s more realistic and productive*
01:35 *🌱 Self-improvement builds resilience and confidence, making you more attractive and ready for healthy relationships*
02:29 *🧠 Professional therapy can provide valuable tools and insights for better dating approaches*
03:26 *🤝 Expanding social networks increases chances of meeting compatible partners organically*
04:51 *💪 Regular exercise boosts attractiveness, self-esteem, and confidence – key factors in dating success*
05:47 *🔍 Self-awareness and emotional intelligence are crucial for creating lasting relationships*
06:29 *❤️ Understanding attachment styles can improve relationship dynamics and partner selection*
07:24 *📱 Online dating can be effective but should be approached mindfully and balanced with other methods*
Hi Courtney. Off topic, but I recently opened up to a woman about past traumas with whom I’ve known for over a year. I made a mistake by acting insecure when she stopped responding to my texts for 2 weeks. She was very cold and distant. (Bad move. I know) It made me feel unwanted. When we got back in contact, I said to her the following:
“Have you ever been stood up and ghosted by someone when you thought everything was going just fine? No explanation no nothing? Guess my past experiences make me think the way I do sometimes. I don’t like to make women I’m attracted to my therapist. I just want you to understand. Apology accepted though.”
I followed up not longer after that acknowledging I’m healing from past traumas and owning them. I told her thank you for helping me see where I can grow and improve as a man. I blamed myself for my reactions not her. I also told her I could have asked the right questions and communicated more effectively. Thoughts and comments please.
“blamed myself for my reaction”
you’re apologizing for being yourself/genuine, that’s woman repellent
If what you say is accurate, I think she was in the wrong, not you. Ghosting is rude and never acceptable. Frankly you’re making yourself look weak by thanking her and blaming yourself.
@@redroversk I disagree. Weak men blame others. Strong men blame themselves. I’m not saying she’s completely innocent either.
@@trillmix0652 It depends entirely on situation – whether the man was in the wrong or not. Being man enough to own up to your own mistakes is strength, but taking responsibility for other people’s failings just makes you look like a doormat.
@jez49647 I’m not taking responsibility for the way she showed up. Why would I do that? I’m taking responsibility for the way I reacted.
0:28 Focusing on growth oriented goals
(2:18 – 3:25 Better Help sponsor ad)
3:26 Expand your social network
4:46 Exercising regularly
5:45 Dig deep & understand yourself
7:23 Be open to online dating
Thank you
Thank you. This allowed me to skip the whole video (which is a duplicate from the past).
@@JasonNortwich And also a waste of time because she’ll never actually understand what it’s like to sit there and swipe and swipe and swipe to get literally no matches.
@@JasonNortwichI’m 25, have literally one close friend and even though I live in a college town I wouldn’t even know where to start to try to get invited to a party or something. The only bar in town got shut down after covid. I met a girl at work but she has a boyfriend but we’re still talking it’s kind of complicated I don’t know exactly how she feels about me or she likes me back at all I think she does but it’s really complicated.
Every time that I try to start a relationship with someone they lead me on and choose someone else or they lie to me and cheat on me honestly I have no idea what’s wrong with me
The only thing I’ve ever found is problems and pain, so I will just stick to my path of solitude. I appreciate the advice and all the hard work you do, and truly hope it helps people find real love and a lifelong companion! 👍
Try adult classes like Tai Chi, Yoga, and Zumba. It is more interactive than just going to a gym. Gyms are often risky places to meet women these days.
I like the concept of online dating. It is the applications that I dislike. They are NOT designed to help you find a mate. They are designed to make you think you can if you just re-up one more time, and buy more cartoon flowers. I chose to meet women organically, but Courtney is 100% correct, you must place yourself among them often. Live music venues, craft fairs, farmers markets, car shows, are all good, but an adult exercise/dance classes get adrenaline going. When meeting women, adrenaline greases the skids. Women won’t be knocking on your door, go be where they are.
I am single by choice. After my divorce, I chose to be a dad to my 2 daughters and not bring someone else in their lives. I’ve had a chance to grow as a person, in my faith, learn about myself, and learn about how I can be a great partner if and when I do meet someone. Best choice of my life even if it’s been 10+ years. My youngest is 18 now and have zero regrets. Take time for yourself folks, no matter how long it takes. ☺️🙏🏼
*Developing genuine connections and being proactive about meeting people makes a huge difference. Plus, focusing on self-improvement isn’t just for attracting someone; it makes you feel great, too!*
Congrats on 800k girl. You’re very intelligent….you deserve it. Too many get followings and lack the former. I think you’re genuinely saying a lotta things here that can help dudes. And not just being a woman in the social media topic of dating, to grift themselves.
You’re so kind, thank you! This means so much to me.
The social circle/friends part is a bit of a misnomer as it now seems that that portion has been outsourced to “others.” I remember years ago when friends wives would say that “only an idiot would go to the bar or online or a singles mingle “.
When I or some of the single friends in the group is when the pushback came….the ‘ we only do couples things with other couples ” , ” if something happens we don’t want to take the blame”, ” remember how you guys got rejected at the last party…now the other girls (which we haven’t met) won’t like you”, ” why don’t you try the other friends instead???” .
So much for friends. Several colleagues experienced the same thing with their friends groups.
I remember commenting on my groups hypocrisy and I’ve been ghosted for the past 20 yrs.
Too many of these classes are full of couples (especially dance) while others have people only interested in the class with little interest in socializing/new friends etc. I gave up trying to make new connections. I go to the programs/classes because they interest me.
This right here. In my area, many hobby groups are implementing rules against hitting/asking out women after women complaining about men in these groups. It’s so freaking weird how the typical dating advice is to go to hobby groups to find dates, but then women complain about getting hit on by men they aren’t attracted to and then codify rules banning everyone in the hobby groups in shooting their shot. Essentially, there’s pretty much no real world platforms to ask a woman out unless it’s explicitly catered to find dates.. People then wonder why there’s a male loneliness epidemic
Thanks for your advice. I’ll concentrate on 1 – 4 for now. I’ve haven’t had much luck with online dating. On dating sites the problem I’ve had is that either the dating pool is small and you run out of options quickly or on larger sites it seems like people have one or two exchanges and then stop talking to you before you even get to meet them.
Have you thought about going to single events/mixers or Meetups in your State or a bigger State?
Interesting. As guys we know dating apps are highly skewed towards women. I find real life is far better. Talking with a French woman at the grocery store last night. She gave me her number because we made a great connection talking about baking bread. Never tried a dating app and never had a problem getting dates except when I don’t have time-like now. We were both in a rush and said what the heck? Can’t hurt to chat. I imagine dating apps as writing a resume, doing selfies (I’m used to a professional photographer for promo photos for business and those types of photos aren’t real life per se) so my selfie acumen in making quality photos once again requires time investment. Dating apps require wading through, applying, texting, video chat and then arranging a date. From what hear from guys and girls is there’s quite a bit of hookup and it’s hard to find someone serious. People are either cautious or they’re the opposite. Not much realness on the apps. When I meet a woman in person we can tell if there’s attraction, rapport and possibilities within minutes. I prefer quality time and acts of service. Apps aren’t going to prove these qualities and love languages etc until? Am I incorrect? Online dating band finding someone to date and finding some one serious enough is almost a full time job? For that I could pay an old fashioned style matchmaker. Then she does the wading through the ocean and also looks for a keeper (to put things in fishing vernacular).
I’m having the same problem with dating sites, it’s like people get bored and forget why they’re there, to begin with. Or maybe they just want the validation of someone reaching out, feeling wanted.
Therapy is helpful, Better Help is not. You should seriously reconsider your partnership with them.
I chose to remain single back in 1991 when I was in my 20’s, even back then, before the internet and social media, I was told that I’m too short, ugly, even then, I looked old, and, being working class, doing a working class job, earning working class wages wasn’t enough, fast forward to the present, I’ve had false accusations, been accused of being a creep, I had to give up the gym due to false accusations, I’ve been physically assaulted for being ugly, all by women, I changed my lifestyle, I work nights and sleep by day, apart from going to the bank or the stores, I have avoided going out in public during busy times, I like the single life, I do advise people to look at relevant videos, many of yours have been recommended, but for myself at nearly 60, I’m single for life
Hi Courtney, thank you for your insights and encouragement! I echo some other comments here that mention Better Help has a bad reputation as a scam. Definitely worth looking into their controversies so you can vet them as a sponsor and preserve the value of your recommendations to the YouTube community. 🙏