5 shocking things narcissists do that you NEVER saw coming
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November 1-3, 2024
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Just left a narsistic man.
Feeling relieved but panicked. You just described him to a t.
How about the narcissist you’re married to for over 18 years that pretty much dismisses that you even exist but treat everyone including the waitresses with such respect and kindness
That’s why I divorced mine after 14 years and with a baby. Up to this day he had never asked me for forgiveness nor acknowledges the emotional damage, etc. He did to me, and I’m sure he never will. That’s why I “think” I have forgiven him, I just have not forgiven myself for putting up for so long.
This is me… 28 years, but today 23 months divorced. Covert narcissist is mind blowing!!
My ex father in law
@@lilyolive2669 I can so relate to this
@@SJHsolutions Be happy and God Bless You!
Now I’m not shocked by anything they say or do. I only think..oh I should have seen that coming..
But I still get shocked
You got that right.
What?
The psychopath I met treats his friends badly, except me (which baffled me), but it was only a matter of time before he started treating me super badly too.
They are novelty seekers.
Yes serial killers will treat their wife great. Watched on true crime or something. The wife was clueless ..😢
Its always the matter of time…
My ex did actually apologize using ‘I’ statements. But not until I had left him. And he was vague. “Sorry I ruined everything “. And he didn’t commit to making any changes.
And anyway. The apology didn’t mean anything to me. I would not have believed him even if he gave a perfect apology. Because he has apologized a bunch over the years and never changes his behavior. So I have realized that I will believe him when I see long term, genuine hard fought positive change.
I’ll never go back though. That ship has sailed.
My ex just said…..” I’m sorry for whatever I did”…… Wow,so glad I left!
In narcissistic relationships I always wonder what is the supply they are getting??
Great! My Ex said “I’m sorry for everything I did to you that hurt you” but he could not name anything specifically… I’m sooo glad I don’t have to deal with his lies and eintitlement anymore! Take care and live your life happily🙏🏻🩷
My ex would apologize for having admitted a truth, and was unable to maintain any commitments otherwise that inolved acknowledement or improving our relationship with each other. He was covert, and mpstly passive-aggressive. Almost every thing he accused me of was exactly what he was doing, or was a preconceived notion about me or a personal judgement about my tolerance level. Leaving was extremely difficult to do with special needs children, both influenced by similar shameful and blaming behavior previously witnessed. The setup was unbearable, and had a lot to do with why I left when I did, just wish I could have gotten out sooner. There was also the financial abuse issue…a strong deterrent. Nothing I did was ever good enough, and when I was happy he just had to pile on more responsibilities so that I was never in balance.
Kinda ironic because more people died playing the game “TWISTER” than any other game.
Died?!?! 😢what??
My friend is well to do. Her father bought her a home in the same neighborhood as doctors and lawyers. For 5 years her x narc wants to come back. They do have a child. It took forever for me to explain to her- he has always had his eyes on her money. Finally she caught on! Narc was like a pit bull won’t let loose. She finally got a good lawyer involved! Yes, I remember feeling shame when my narc father mistreated others. It was awful! It’s crazy being raised in this mess.
I never understood the shame I have always felt, now I know it comes from how my parents acted with other people, now I understand. Also be ignore by someone i though I loved and see this person treat others in my presence so nicely, feeling ashamed and invisible.
The one I am dealing with sizes people up. figures out what they need, craftily morphs himself into whatEver it is they need, poses as their “savior” relishes in the adoring grattitude, but became vindictiveand covertly retaliatory as soon as they didn’t cowtow or bow down to whatever it was he thought he ‘needed’ in the moment . For me , it was confusing as all hell and mindfukery to the Extreme !
My daughter’s bff narc friend. Turned my daughter against me, controls her. And I sit back and see right through the narcissist it’s maddening!
My mother issued an ‘apology’ via my brother. A generic ‘sorry things didn’t work out’ fauxpology. And a free lecture from my brother about how brave that was of her, and how difficult it was fór her.
I had this experience in grade school and throughout college. The bullies treated me really well and treated others really badly. I did nothing to solicit this treatment. In fact, I avoided them because I’d fought off bullies many times before. These bullies were women, mean girls. It’s always a setup before they attempt to humiliate you or get others to treat you poorly since they are so mean.
My dad’s mom is the worst narcissist I’d encountered growing up. I went no contact several times as a kid. My cousins hated me because she was so nice to me and hateful to them. My dad was her only son. I saw what was happening early on. The relationships with my cousins never recovered even though I removed myself from the situation.
It’s like they choose certain people to destroy any potential for a support system very early. They get people to hate you because of their behavior.
Horrible to others but nice to you might mean that they are love bombing you.
“If they do it with you, they’ll do it TO you.” This is a statement often used in terms of cheating, but it might work with this topic, too. It’d be only a matter of time until the chosen one trips into the cross hairs. 😢 And if this is a family of origin context for the dynamic… then siblings even start turning home into Thunderdome … 😞
In my experience with narcissists, every single time they did it to others, it was only a matter of time before they did it to me. It reminds me of the saying: ‘If you see your neighbor’s beard on fire, water your own.”
@@rayarena879 That’s a good one … Sounds biblical! 🙂☺️ (It’s a Sunday, today) 🙏💙❣️
@@b8akaratn I don’t know if it’s biblical, but it’s really old and it goes to show that we’ve been plagued by narcs since time immemorial!
Am friends with a my exes but when the narc asked for a friendship, i declined that offer on the spot and I didn’t even know what NPD is. Now am so proud of myself right there. Psychotic is when someone wants your friendship yet they treated you horribly
Love your ending you are absolutely right. I’ve lived that projection and going through it today. Thanks again.
It is part of the “love-bombing” that fades over time and then you become the villain and they eventually turn on you.
Family first. Heard that one before phrased exactly the same:)
An apology is just a delaying tactic. It’s strategic. It buys them time and confusion.
I’ve seen that happen where the narc actually told me how he treated others and then told me that he’d NEVER treat me like that. I said to him, “but it’s in you – what makes me so special” yet I stayed. And I was right – what a pos he was after a time! Thankfully, I walked away.