5 signs your friend is a narcissist
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It’s the “won’t” that hurts more than the “can’t”.
Then dont.
They are so pesky.
Naught that they will.
The generosity of people are absolute perfection.
Rameny gives it her best shot.
Sometimes Americano, other times double expresso.
Or the will not be.
Everyone’s in disparage.
A yearn to love.
A freedoms traveller.
Everyone’s someone.
Its eye opening.
Oh my…. This is my husband to a T. He told our family it’s because he can’t/ or should not have to do anything for me including any chores around the house/ garden. But he runs after others to extreme thinking he’ll look good of to impress. He treats home like a hotel. Yuk
Same
This sounds awful!! God bless you and give you the strength you need. You deserve better!
Your husband and my dad wld get along.. or maybe they’ll piss each other off 😂
My ex was like that. He would complain any time I hadn’t done a full shift of cleaning while he was at work, even when I was in full time education and when I was physically disabled
Edit to add: “full shift” he meant 8 hours of non stop cleaning, which was apparently equal to his self employed gardening job, where he overworked his employees and did nothing himself
I can’t say if my friends were narcissists but I had friends that I’ve known for many years who I stopped talking to because as someone who struggles with mental health issues, they never showed any empathy, and everytime I tried to open up about my struggles, they would just say things like “man up” indicating that I was just being weak and making excuses. I tried to ignore it at first, but after a while, it really started to feel like I was constantly being shamed and that these people weren’t truly my friends. Because real friends won’t always make you feel bad about yourself. I felt like I was being gaslighted all the time when they would tell me that “it’s all in my head.” And this type of response only makes my struggles worse and it comes off as being very dismissive. So I made the choice to let them go, as I really needed to take care of myself.
I’m going through this now, ive almost totally isolated from family and all. I’ve got a few close ones
Empathy is incredibly rare as it turns out, but telling someone with health problems (physical or mental) to man up is unhelpful, unproductive and unempathetic. Sorry you had to deal with that.
Dear Doctor Ramani this is a well put together title. I would strongly advise making a partner/spouse version. This would attract views, introduce the concept to the uneducated and save a lot of people! Thanks for reading my suggestion.
I almost feel like the shaming thing that the narcissist wants to make you feel by punishing you is some sort of relic from the child who wants to punish the parent.
Absolutely yes ! Because the phrase : “I won’t “ is so important mirroring someone, who is narcissist. In my own reality, since my childhood my sister was and still is like that. Apathy also describes such persons whereas they care only for everyone who is dealing with them only , let’s say , in their professional path.
Other people even family members don’t count for them.
With lack of empathy all their relationships are based on the sick pattern to just give and take like their bosses or employers ask them to.
So sick, so sad, such a pity, doc.
Just love you!!! Dr Ramani…lived sooo many years worried that I was always talking too much and seemed to me I always connected a friend’s sharing back to something about me!!! Was so afraid I was self-centered….only to find out I was so empathic and was born into all this narcissistic cesspool of people…I always seemed to be helpful in understanding others hurts and concerns …and I realized after soo many years of self-doubt that I was merely pulling from personal hurts and how I thought them through to a conclusion( 78 and still learning to love myself !!!!
Thank you for your teaching Dr. Ramani! I definitely need to be a better listener.
Constantly learning. Thank you =) morning
I’m so tried of these demon ‘s. They are lucky that empathy don’t take matters into their own hands
When my husband was on life support, I called my only brother to ask if he would get me a spare tire for my car. I would be doing lots of driving. My brother was newly fired and living off our mommy and doing nothing but standing around drinking. Plus he was a mechanic and had connections. He did nothing! My husband survived. We went no-contact!
1. dominate all conversations / make it about them
2. won’t show up / but will be demanding on you
3. gotcha moments used as humiliation and coercion
4. won’t let your mistake go
5. vindictiveness
Thank you for clarifying another pattern. I am not sure though, if I talk too much about myself in conversations instead of listening to the other person. Thank you for your reminder… 😊
Great. Could you do a video about severe narcicisstic lies, lack of empathy and “that’s not my problem”?
That would be awesome. I was stuck in a trauma Bond without me wanting to be there. Only to find out – it has all been severe lies. Plus the Flying Monkeys. It wouldn’t be possible without it. Iam very proud of me I can’t be bothered anymore and have my full life ahead of me 🙂 thx ❤
I rarely ask for anything more than some basic understanding for whatever situation. Whatever is said as a result of that request tells me all I need to know. My ex couldn’t be in a simple conversation unless he was doing the talking. The second I began talking he checked out. Every. Time.
Have narcissist relatives so when I ended up with a direct supervisor who said “Not my problem” to absolutely everything (It was her trademark reply), I recognized that bringing anything to her would get no action unless higher level people she wanted to look good with came into the conversation. I was told by a coworker that I had a bad attitude when I was holding back from bringing up something with the supervisor so I went to her front of them and received the good old “Not my problem”. I reframed the information that needed to be acted on the next day and was able to get the action required😊
I feel like I used to be a good listener and now I get so anxious I turn conversation to myself and then feel super guilty abt it. I notice it in real time and don’t course correct. Thanks for this video. It’s helpful to hear perspective and feedback from another.
There’s a quote from Ted Lasso (Episode “For the Children”) where Ted says to Rebecca regarding her narcissistic ex husband, Rupert.. You know you may think you’re the only one who can see who he really is, but you’re not”. I totally related to that quote being married to a narcissist and it gave me comfort.
My 83 year old mother stole my 60th birthday party, and with non-stop bragging about her lifelong legacy, she celebrated herself all day. No one there, among my blood relatives, spoke a single word to me all day long. Not even my own daughter who threw the party. This seemed conspiratorial, but like an expensive one. My daughter rented a house on the ocean to pull this off.
Wow , that is awful
This is my narcissist boss – They may interfere excessively in tasks, claiming only they can do it “right.”
Favoritism and manipulation: They pit employees against each other, rewarding loyalty over competence.
Gaslighting: They may distort facts, deny promises, or rewrite history to maintain control and superiority.