6 Ways Too Many Men Mess Up New Relationships (Don’t Let This Be You)
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Overthinking is caused by the pressure from society that men are supposed to do everything for their date.
Yup most women are along for the ride. Men have to lead and plan everything indefinitely.
But woman also wanted to be treated as an independent boss…makes no sense in this current day and age
Overthinking is caused by watching too much social media and YT videos
@@michaeljjt1976 Kinda like a paradox right 😅
“the advice we gave men last month is now a crime but I dont understand why he’s nervous”
It’s better to mess up and do better next time than to overthink and end up messing up anyway. Trust your instincts.
❤️
This is where self-awareness is a big thing
A good friend or family member or a church pastor if that’s something you’re into would probably be way healthier than a therapist for the average man. Just my opinion. Smile.
@@michaeljohnson6019therapy isn’t structured for the average man
I would say going overboard to impress your date rather than showing up as your genuine self is the main obstacle men face on the first date. Another important topic, keep up the great work, Courtney!
Unfortunately, as much as women tell men to “be yourself”, they still expect to be impressed.
That makes sense. There’s no point in faking it because your true self will come out eventually anyway.
“being yourself” only works for women and Chads. Average men still need to put forward their best self, all the time. Women do not expect any less, anyway.
1. Overthinking has always been my biggest enemy. I really hate thinking about what I’ve done and I hate worrying about what might happen. Also, I hate when it seems I haven’t really listened. Perfectionism and self-doubt can be really crippling. It’s like what Taylor Swift says in “Anti-Hero”: “I’ll stare directly at the sun but never in the mirror
It must be exhausting always rooting for the anti-hero”.
2. I wish I wasn’t too available, but the thing is: I literally have no life outside of work and gym. Like…, at all. I have no friends and, sometimes, my family is too busy for me.
3. I really wish I didn’t have to be fast, but, sometimes, I’m not patient.
4. Not really sure if I really did mature or gotten cynical over time.
5. Yeah, I really gotta see that my girl is just my partner, not my therapist. Otherwise, I drain her mentally.
6. I really hate this “playing hard to get”. It’s so stupid. I’m always serious, loyal and honest when it comes to anybody in general.
2. Put effort into your hobbies. Bury yourself into a book, textbook, computer code page, writing, etc. Do something educational.
@@DDD11239 yeah, okay. I’ll do that.
Important things: 0:23 First Thing ÷ The Over-Thinking Trap; 2:13 Second Thing ÷ Being Too Available Or Eager; 4:29 Third Thing ÷ Moving Too Fast; 5:32 Fourth Thing ÷ Neglecting Personal Growth; 6:32 Fifth Thing ÷ Oversharing Too Soon; 8:08 Sixth Thing ÷ Being Inconsistent; and 9:54 to summarize all the told here.
What you have told there Courtney for men how can they mess up the relationships, similar things women can also mess up the relationships (honor exceptions to those who aren’t behaving like that, either we talk about men, or women).
Additional things what can also mess up relationships are these (few of them can be also seen in a long term relationship): Seventh Thing ÷ Not Paying Attention To What Your Interlocutor Says (in this case the dating person) (either is it a male, or female); Eighth Thing ÷ Showing No Empathy For The Things When Someone Is Struggling For Somethings (or if they have problems, for example); Ninth Thing ÷ Too Much Exaggeration When Thinking How Will Be In Future (but it can be also partly be told that in first thing that you have told).
The conclusion are in 2:40 (to have balance in doing things); 10:01 (get to the root why do you do these things). Also additional conclusion is this: Go with the flow.
A colon symbol work better than does a division symbol.
@@DDD11239 I understand that, but I have mentioned that in native language that I speak, the division symbol is also a colon symbol. Also I when I use the colon, I’m just trying to tell some things a bit more accurate, and precise as well.
1. Overthinking 0:28
2. Being too available or over-eager 2:16
3. Moving too fast 4:32
4. Neglecting personal growth 5:37
5. Oversharing too soon 6:35
6. Being inconsistent 8:10
Does this all apply for casual?
Courtney is great. I come from a home where I was scapegoated and traumatized.. and have been working poor 2nd class citizen black listed by the CIA..
Thanks
What can we do if we can’t get a date? I’m tall, handsome, employed, smart, funny, and much more. Every woman I ask out says they have a boyfriend or they express they are not interested.
@@hike824-9 you’re probably coming off as desperate, hanging around the wrong women, rushing your stages, delusional about your attractiveness or a combination of these things
0:24 Over-thinking trap
2:16 Being too available or eager
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4:32 Moving too fast
5:34 Neglecting personal growth
6:34 Oversharing too soon
8:10 Being inconsistent
What if you’re aiming for casual action?
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu then you should stay away
If she doesn’t like my interest level that’s on her not me, I don’t care if I’m “doing too much” if I respond to a text within 5 minutes of people sending that to me. I won’t trample over myself to be available to her, but I also am not gonna try and hide what I’m truly feeling.
That point kind of forces the person to overthink, doesn’t it?
Can’t mess up a new relationship if you don’t get in one to begin with
Love is a war game. The only way to win is not to play at all.
Lmao i am an idiot
@@heikojakob6491 How do you get action?
Escorts
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu You can just buy a hoe for an hour, you don’t have to marry a hoe. But you’ll have to pay either way for the fun.
Fellas, it is important to think, even overthink, if the woman you are attracted to is worthy of your time. Screen to disqualify. If she’s a college student, college grad, a single mother (who is not a widow), doesn’t believe in God, and/or has a large social media following…don’t bother
All of the tips Courtney shares are good. Just keep in mind to NEVER put a woman on a pedestal. You are the prize 🏆
How about if she has a pulse and shows vital signs? Would that be okay to date? I really don’t think necrophilia is something I would want to try, kno wha ah mean, Vern?
Don’t over share boys! Women always say be vulnerable, but it is the worst advice ever. She will quickly lose interest in you and think you are emotionally unstable for a man.
Unfortunately, I’m an overthinker and that messed up my last interaction.
I feel that you are beautiful, intelligent, wise, good, special and I love who you are. You are earlier in your journey so contine on your way, believe in who you are, be careful when compromising and any changes you make do them to make you stronger and reinforce your beliefs. I also can only imagine that who you are on the inside is a mirror reflection of the beauty you show on the outside. I wish the best for you and that you have an awsome and amazing life
Can’t mess up if you just don’t date or bother to work on a relationship either that’s honestly easier and better spent time
Great video! After being single for over three years, from a 5 and a half year relationship, and slowly talking to more girls and approaching them, it’s good to watch this and many videos like this and keep re watching them so you’ll understand; once or twice isn’t really enough, keep on watching them.
Overthinking is a logical outworking or result of the current “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” dating scene, or “culture”. If men experienced an overarching sense of grace rather than condemnation, there would a lot closer to zero overthinking. Never truly zero, but closer for sure.
I think the biggest mistake is to stop looking for new relationships. She certainly won’t be so neither should you be. That’s is, indeed, the definition of dating. ABL (Always Be Looking) and ABB (Always Be Blocking).
Messing up relationships is a valuable skill!
Learn to gaslight women and make them think that they’re the problem so they’ll leave.
You won’t have to deal with stalkers and unflushable chicks if they believe the break-up was their decision.
There is absolutely no reason for a man to have to deal with an awkward break-up.
Morale of the story. Dont need someone. Teach yourself to not need someone then you will get what you taught yourself not to need..
1000% amazing advice. As a woman who has encountered some of these examples, this is dead on it.
I once did a FaceTime date before meeting someone and the guy told me the entire 1 hour story of his parent’s dying within the first 5 minutes. Literally, that was the first date and nothing else came up. It was tough.
And I know often times it’s younger or inexperienced men who go too hard too fast and expect something romantic to happen straight away. The simmer and build up is the best part! Going too fast really takes away the fun of having a relationship build and celebrating each step together.