The hidden reasons you can’t break free from trauma bonded relationships
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They give orders, instructions or information. Never available for meaningful discussion. Never give attention to anything happening to you.
But they do complain about anything you express interest in.
What a great analogy–“…like trying to save an injured porcupine.”
8:42 OMG… this explains EVERYTHING. My mother was that Most Important parent. She was well known in the Wellness community in Chicago. She had celebrity clients. I was the “helper” and the time with her in this space was the best that I was going to get from her. I found myself not wanting to be alone with her for more than an hour or two because it was going to turn into projecting or being conned into doing something financially that was only beneficial for her.
I found myself spending time with people in their space just to have that time with them although I didn’t care too much for the environment or activity. I stopped doing that.
Dr. Ramani nails these situations soo perfectly! This is by far my most shared channel on the platform! It’s time to wake those around us up🙌🏻
Totally hit home with me 😮 like wow !
Like always…. Thank you Dr. Ramani….
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Trauma bonded with my brother but we have drifted away
I felt like I was often bad and just sometimes good. He even said I had two “sides” and he hated the “thing I turn into” anytime we disagreed. So damn exhausting and traumatizing.
If you disagree, you become the enemy. Everything shuts down.
Great video. I never imagined writing about a breakup after 25 years of been together with the love of my life. I have never felt such pains in my life, my heart is shattered. I still hope we can be together someday
leaving a 25 years relationship isn’t easy. I’ve been through it and i know how it feel to lose the love of your life, but with the help of a spiritual guide, I was able to get my partner back. You should reach out to him for help
It’s fascinating! How did you locate a spiritual counselor and how can I get in touch with him to help me?
His name is Father Osoba Salama and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people to reconcile with their ex and you can find him online
Thank u so much🙏 indeed sharing problems bring solution and I curiously make a research online with the name and found his website, Thanks
I love the terms that Dr Ramini uses in this video, being: “scarcity dance” and “mainlining drugs.”
Nothing even went his way….i always felt bad until i understood that he caused it
One “calibrates his / her behavior” til there’s nothing left of one’s self . . .
We were taught how to mix drinks for parents from a very young age. 7-8 for me. Back in the 60s. I wasn’t aware this was abnormal.
Oh oh oh. Nailed it
I learned how to play my dad’s favorite games/sports just to spend time with him. It was a waste of time but I didn’t know it initially. I got good at them and would eventually win just one time at each of them, and he’d never do them with me again. He did it with Chess, Basketball, and Bowling.
I learned the pattern before I was 18, so it was really satisfying to learn to play billiard tables and win against him knowing he’d never want to play again but be stuck remembering his daughter beat him. Again.
Thanks to your videos, I finally broke free from 5 years in a narc relationship. At exactly the same time, I had to endure post-break up abuse and triangulation, all the while going through an abortion… couldn’t imagine having a child with this person.
Took years to realise the trauma-bond and seeing the bond, made it easier to take the decision. Thank you for spreading the awareness ❤
I want to watch this video every day. I think it will help reprogram my mind. Dr. Ramani… you are an angel. I needed this today. I just talked to my therapist this morning about this exact topic with my narcissistic parents. And I’m 50 years old! I’m frankly sick of them taking up so much space in my head. That’s really the main problem since I moved out. I’ve already enforced physical boundaries, but they are still in my head. One is currently upset with me and giving me the silent treatment 🙄… again. I’ve already told them I’m not okay with this behavior. If you don’t want to talk to me, then don’t talk to me. I’m done. Problem, however, as you perfectly described, is the feeling of guilt and shame still persists. I want myself back. I’m too old for this sh*t. I don’t have a lot of time left either… does anyone think about me???!!!! I’m actively training my mind to remind myself to also ask this question: What about me? ❤
I don’t mind making myself scarce these days. After doing the shame work (worthiness wound), I require someone to make a decent effort to move towards me. I’m not chasing or hoping anymore. Being my own best friend has revealed to me what a valuable kindred spirit I really am. Belonging to my chosen inner circle is abundance to me.