You might be in a narcissistic relationship if…
You might be in a narcissistic relationship if… you’re always the one apologizing, second-guessing yourself, or feeling like the bad guy—even when you’ve done nothing wrong. In this video, we break down the subtle but devastating signs you may be caught in a toxic dynamic with a narcissist. If something feels off but you can’t quite name it, this could be the clarity you’ve been looking for.
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Narcissists can smell your insecurities. They latch on like there’s no tomorrow. The amazing thing is how much we can love them. This is really getting to the nitty-gritty of human consciousness.
You are such a blessing to me.
You have no idea how many times you have brought me through some tough days.
Thanks, Dr. Ramani ❤
Wow! That is exactly how I felt in my 26 year marriage.
@dcw same here.
Ditto
That first 30 seconds of this video hit home. When I was married to a narc back in the 80s…I literally tried everything…just like she said. Nothing worked. I hope y’all can see that a lot sooner than I did. Good news is I’m now happily married…30 years and counting.
@peachykeenstyle took me more than 30 years to realize it. Better late than never❤
@@Terry19330 Good for you! I’m happy for you. You made it and that’s all that matters 💕
@@PeachyKeenStylethank you, friend!
I dont feel guilt. You taught me all I needed to know. Im relieved.
Thank you for your boldness, confidence and love when you communicate, Dr Ramani. I give thanks to the Heavens for you!❤️
Thank you Dr. Ramani ❤because you have made me feel like I am not alone and that I can heal from my own past relationships that have been toxic let alone narcissistic ❤
Ive been married for 10 years. We have 2 kids. I aways thought we just needed some wins and she would get better since we had some troubles early on that were out of our control.
Life is wonderful right now. She’s still not happy. I guess i need to accept the fact that she never will be happy and the only way i will is if i leave her.
The way he used to try to persuade me to dress like his ex-gf, and the consistent mentioning of another woman’s name that he would praise for her petite size and how she dressed, her career, etc.
When I didn’t react he would raise the ante by offering her rides, etc. to try to make me jealous. After I refused to react he either gave up, or for all I know he tried to have an affair with her and was shot down. My indifference and apathy saved my sanity. Don’t get me wrong, I had become apathetic because of his treatment of me. Regardless, it sure helped me.
Wow this totally hits home! My current partner invalidated and diminished my son’s accomplishments until he gave up and stopped trying. I lost contact with my son for over 3 years because he didn’t want anything to do with either of us. It’s a fragile return to communicating and I’ll never forgive my partner for his choices. His approach has left permanent scars on my son. For now, I’m stuck. Soon…
I confronted the narcissist parent in my life for silent treatment for the last like 6 months. When I called it out, with no surprise heaps of denial and then shame thrown at me. Turning it completely on me for the distance in our relationship the last 15years when there has been a visible change in behavior from this parent of withdrawal the last 6 months. Now I’m blamed for the 15 years prior and the parent just ‘waiting’ for me to return. Do I need to explain that the distance they felt from me was needing distance from this crazy behavior of withdrawing, punishment, silencing etc? I’m so tired.
I’m learning to stop explaining myself to the narcissistic parent. It HAS always, and WILL always be turned back onto me. They CANT understand because it’s a choice not to. Preserve your energy and peace ❤🤟
Nailed it, again, Dr. Ramani.
Everything you mentioned — control, domination, isolating you from others, even sabotaging your other relationships — we’ve experienced this firsthand. It’s like they can’t stand not being at the center of your life, so they create chaos to stay relevant. Thank you for giving language to what so many of us have felt.
How profound to now know that being silenced all of my life has been the core of how I developed my coping mechanisms and why I use humor to deflect my need to actually speak my mind. 😢thank you for this, Ive never heard what being silenced does to me.
This speaks to my soul. I wasn’t just taking care of her and our two kids but also her three other kids from her previous marriage with her ex husband doing hardly anything. I ignored so many red flags, but I’m thankful I finally understood and got out. Your videos have helped my mental state understand what I went through and how to see the warning signs of them trying to hook me back
Only 14 minutes into this and I gotta send it to my friend. He’s gone back into a slump from his ex, playing into her comparisons and negativity during their last year. He’s a survivalist, and a dang good one at that. She just unraveled nearly a decade of his hard self care work
You sound like a good friend ❤️
I thank you so very much for speaking candidly about the extremely painful abuse that others may have subjected us to as children & adults. I have commented several times & want you to know that I am 72 yrs old & still struggling with the abuse of a very jealous & vindictive mother who is 91. Not only am I constantly working on myself to heal mentally & emotionally, but I have to keep a constant watch on my physical as well as my spiritual well-being. This lifelong battle to hold onto ME, MYSELF, has permeated into almost all aspects of my life. My mothers abusive behavior has bled over into siblings & other family. It has added undeserved pressure in 2 failed marriages & there were times past that her harassment while I was on the job, even caused me to lose jobs. She is still vicious & relentless. It is most difficult to live my life in peace especially considering that she has not mellowed out, but gets increasingly more volatile. Thank you for your words of encouragement. Any advice from you regarding my situation is greatly appreciated
I’ve decided to go no contact with my narcissistic mother in December 2024. I’ve never been better. I did cut ties with other narcissistic people in my life as there were many. I’m still with my husband and he’s working very hard to be a better person. I won’t accept bullshit behaviours anymore and he definitely knows that. I’m taking care of myself. I never did before. It’s like poison. You have to get rid of it, if not, this may kill you, bit by bit. Good luck 👍🏻
I did everything. Read all the books, went to therapy, asked everybody for advice. Still felt stuck and lowkey begging for crumbs. Then I found Veylarim by Sofia Amoretti and was like ok let’s see. Yo… the way she breaks stuff down?? It’s not “fix your man,” it’s more like fix the energy and watch things shift on their own. No games, no chasing. I swear I started feeling like myself again. And that version of me? She got loved different.
When replacing you, a narc will often look at you from the corner of their eye, to see your envy. They want you to feel jealous and want to be chased. And if you don’t chase, they’ll enrage.
Run away from people who silence you. Don’t argue with them. Complain about them or run away from them. A deer cannot fight a bunch of hyenas, but when you’ve spotted them (red flags), run away.