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I think one of my biggest issues with dating is trying to rationalize it and see it as a coherent process. When in reality, dating is anything but logical and there’s no set steps for it
You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way!
@@CourtneyRyanI appreciate that! It’s reassuring to know it’s not unique to me at least
Dating is new social technology that is minimally developed and so is highly dysfunctional. It’s the wild west of getting together in that everyone has their own ideas about how it should work.
Thankfully marriage science has been done so we can reverse engineer the best practices for dating.
Note… marriage was done by John Gottman. Tons of books about it.
Love that you say that. I also think a huge part of the problem is that the dating process has become over strategized, which only makes men get stuck in their heads even more and not come across authentically in interactions.
@@CourtneyRyan Wow, Courtney has a brand new list of hostage demands for good and intelligent men. Meanwhile, bad boys, cheaters, criminals and wife abusers can do whatever they want and get sex. Courtney always gives the bad boys a free pass, always.
Because they are intelligent….
This statement did indeed cause a substantial amount of amusement for myself. Very much appreciated.
Too smart to deal with the BS
Lol
Exactly what I wanted to say
LOL
Because we don’t have time for nonsense and drama.
And gossip 😂
True but some men love it its weird
Women should also adapt their acceptable definition of connection to something that the average man can accomplish. There’s way too much demand from women that connection with a man only equals what she imagines it is.
this right here.
The connection they are looking for is the connection with themselves. They are too ego-identified, and blame their emotions on other people and the environment. I think the biggest lie told to women is that they are emotional. That’s just a cover-up for all the emotional dysfunction they should deal with.
Reason #7! The media has made stupidity fashionable.
Seriously!
1) Young women (and increasingly older ones unfortunately) are taken in by popular culture. They have this weird need to join in what what is deemed to be hip. It’s why so many of them became blue-haired, angry, tatted-up leftist sl*ts in the last 10 years.
2) It’s also why there is also a disturbing number of women pushing 50 years old that listen to music made for 15-year-olds. Stop trying to be “cool”…the game is over, ladies.
Social Media specifically
it was always like that tbh
Especially in commercials–they feel free to portray the man as a dummy, needing the woman to point the way. But they’d NEVER portray it the other way around!
I have to admit, Intelligence doesn’t mean they earn money or have a top job.
Checks out, most physicists die in debt or extremely poor.
This is the key thing. Who said women should even care about intelligence. If a dumb former ball players makes 200k per year compared to a research scientist making 75k as far as most women are concerned the insurance guy is smarter in a way. Most especially young women care much more about how well a man can provide than how smart he really is.
When you actually express any vulnerability with most women, she unconsciously loses respect and attraction. The thing is, that doesn’t happen if she’s not your personal partner. It takes a very strong, conscious, emotionally mature woman to stand in a man’s feelings. Such women are rare. Women don’t even know what men actually earn, or how tall they are, much less what men’s genuine feelings are.
Facts
Not true, that’s some red pill BS talking point. It may be your experience, but it hasn’t been mine, and I know others who agree with me.
@@tfpp1 So sayeth you. I understand your point. But I am not a red piller. I’m a socialist. I don’t hate women. I don’t believe that hateful attitudes towards women will somehow make relations between men and women better. Plenty of men might agree with you out loud, but that’s because we know that when we speak… we get responses like yours. And note that I didn’t call you any names or accuse you of being anything. I didn’t call Republican, Democrat, Liberal, Feminist, Conservative, or any other label. I politely responded to your comment.
Vulnerability creates real connection. The emotionally mature get it — no one’s looking to date a robot.
@@LichtGirl24I completely agree. But that doesn’t address my point. I said it takes a *conscious* emotionally mature woman… to stand in the feelings of *HER* primary partner. I will assume that you are able and willing to do that. My point was that most women are not taught how to do so. My experience has been that such women go into fields like psychology, therapy, physical medicine, or some kind of healing work. They’re good souls who believe that there are LOTS of other women out there just like them. I truly wish they were correct. But consciousness is not en vogue right now. This is why you don’t hear more from men, we have learned to be quiet because when we share, our actual thoughts and points that we state get glossed over and circular reasoning takes over.
Obviously sharing builds connection, no one said anything to the contrary. Men want to be able to be vulnerable with their partners. But you’re discounting my lived experience, and the lived experiences of countless other men, and women wonder why we don’t share.
Reread my original comment with an open mind and ask any men in your life who you know will be honest with you, rather than saying what they think will simply keep the peace.
I probably should have stayed silent and just not said anything here, because two responses in and neither one really addressed what I actually said.
As an intelligent man, I can concur.
Now, back to my regularly-scheduled program of working, playing sports, and writing another novel.
Good luck on your novel. I’m writing one as well by putting the energy I would have wasted on dating into my projects.
@@Nabinut Wow! Same just started writing my book. Goal is to finish by November. Godspeed, brothers!
Stay strong
Novel imao, bro thinks he’s intelligent.
Sounds good stuff, although equally missing something.
Sublimation = driving your desires into intellectual pursuits… often ’til it’s too late to do what nature was telling you to do. 😔
I have a PhD, and I’ll start by saying that I don’t have everything in life figured out. If I did, I’d be writing an autobiography. My dating experiences have taught me that there are going to be lots of ups and downs, and that there are always chances to improve each time. A lot of the dates I’ve had so far have been good, but they simply weren’t with the right person. Those women were either incompatible, politely declined to connect further, or in extreme cases, had no serious understanding about what they said they were looking for. Regardless, I continue to look for solutions rather than play the victim. I’m simply navigating my way through life, and doing my best to enjoy the pleasures and opportunities that come along the journey.
Love the attitude! 👍
What is the relevancy of having a PhD? Are you associating that with being intelligent or something?
Orion taraban said it bes:t Women want what other women want. So it’s somewhat the chicken or the egg fallacy.
@@DunnsDayDash Not necessarily. I’m fully aware that there are different forms of intelligence beyond academics (emotional, financial, musical, spatial, etc.) Earning a PhD was one of my life goals, and I’m very proud to have accomplished it. I collected a lot of fascinating knowledge during my time in grad school, and I’m deeply passionate about sharing it with others, as well as using it to make additional contributions in my research field. I may not be an expert in all ways of life. But, I do my best to try to understand things when I can so that I can continue making personal and intellectual progress.
@@CourtneyRyan I enjoyed your video today. Keep encouraging others, Courtney. It’s definitely tough and confusing out there, but here’s a quote I heard the other day that’s given me renewed inspiration: “There’s no growth without first going through the stress!”
I think the issue is that most women put up shields or walls to have deep conversations or meaningful discussions. It is often easier to sleep with them than to talk about something deep.
Very well said
“It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life.” Jean Luc Picard
Data still won in the end though … he busted him up 💪🏾
First part is nuanced + true; second is black-and-white BS.
Well, when making a risk assessment, and the conclusion is that it’s a horrendous proposition with massive liability issues for the abysmally small chance it goes decently, it’s the obvious response to avoid entirely.
With that kind of attitude, you will never play the lotto.
Im dumb and women still dont choose me
Humour needs intelligence 🙂
I find that hard to believe. Most women want dumb guys so they can ‘save’ or ‘change them’
u gotta be dumb & hot.
😂
Best of both worlds. It’s better to be below midwit, and have an uncomplicated life. Being highly intelligent (4 sigmas or more) is a burden.
The word INTELLIGENT said it all
I have more or less stopped expressing my feelings, fears, triggers etc. Because I always get gaslighted, either by dating prospects, parents or work.
I started dance class a year ago and have got to know alot of cool girls. They are really great, but other guys have already figured it out and taken them. So if you actually meet a great girl it is probably safe to assume she is allready taken. I really tried to deepen the connection by asking if they wanted to do anything outside the classes.
I have almost stopped dating apps. It’s not leading anywhere and its mostly just trash on there
Get rid of dating apps. Read the comments when she talked about it. That should help u
One of the best traits of intelligent men is observation. they find connection between one event to another event.
Emotionally unavailable=difficult to manipulate! 😂
Learnt it the hard way
I do not put up with their BS and games
I would like to see a dialogue between her and Casey Zander. She is saying that women crave “emotional connection” with men. That they love when men open up and share their emotions. Zander says its the exact opposite; that once you emote and express vulnerability, the woman loses intererest. You have lost your masculine frame and are seen as just a friend or even a child to be taken care of, instead of a strong, rugged man who can protect her from the big, bad world. Personally I really dont know what to think. But in my experiance I have found you must be really, really careful what you say to women. They are not like men, guys at all, but radically different.
Women to me: “You’re smart, why are you single?” Me: “You just answered your own question”.
In short we are Introverts
Don’t imply you are intelligent – 90% of men are not intelligent, but yeah while they’re drunk they are more intelligent than three women with PhD’s