If you have a good day with the narcissist, keep THIS in mind!
A few “good days” in a narcissistic relationship can make you second-guess yourself—but they don’t change the bigger picture. Just like weather doesn’t change the climate, those sunny moments don’t erase the long-term patterns of manipulation, gaslighting, and betrayal. In this video, Dr. Ramani explains why paying attention to the climate—not the weather—is the key to truly seeing the relationship for what it is.
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A narcissist message is when you’re happy I’m sad
and when he is sad, you’re guilty🙈
“ one more second chance”. Nope
BRILLIANT as usual!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🤯🤯🤯👍❤ Thank you so so much!!! This really helps!!!! Thank you so much Dr. Ramani❤❤❤❤
Got it. “Some climates are more livable than others”. Thanks for helping me come to the full realization of having the narcissists in my life.
This was really helpful !!
@pattimcnamee234truly!!! took so long to learn this
It’s always one step forward two steps back with narcissists. If things are ever going well with them, expect it to get worse pretty soon.
Except there’s no moving forward with a narcissist. Taking two steps back to get on a healthy path is better than staying on their suboptimal trajectory.
Great parallel I was actually laughing when you described some days, hurricanes, flooding etc totally describes narcissistic behavior.
My narc relationships as described as weather was the south east peninsula……everyday started out sunny and warm ( optimistic) but later in the day at the same time everyday would rain, become muggy and miserable……….
Sooooooo weird!!
This is a great analogy it really explains in a simple way that we should be looking at the whole trends and not the odd few days here and there. Thank you for posting this and explaining it so well, it makes total sense and I will try and remind myself to focus on the whole climate and not individual days.
I love love this metaphor of climate & weather!
Here in N. MS? We can have the heat and air conditioning on in the same day! I love your analogy with the weather/narcissistic and behavior. Brilliant!
As a climatologist, this is an excellent metaphor.
Excellent description of life with a narcissist. Thank you!!!!
Great analogy! It seems like the weather changes according to their needs for supply or support. And the crummy climate is always not their fault.
How beautifully Dr. Ramani explains it with the help of weather – Climate analogy ! God bless you Ma’am ❤ Lots of love from India ❤
Great analogy of weather and climate involving a narcissist’s behavior!
I discovered your channel recently. In the last 12 months I have been imposed with an impossible narcissist of a boss. I don’t know how to explain watching your videos: they hurt in some way. They confirm that I am dealing with a narcissist and I realise there is no winning in the traditional sense of that word.
For the first time in 12 years, I have registered for a course outside my profession with a 2 year plan to leave my current employment.
Thank you!
Perfect analogy. Thank you for sharing it!
Brilliant analogy and examples. “If there is a sunny day in this not very great climate, enjoy it; but don’t burn your umbrellas, because the Climate still sucks, and you’re going to need that umbrella.”
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Absolutely true. Narcisistic climate sucks and I would not wish it to anyone. It’s a terrible place to be and you need suitable clothes to survive those different weather conditions and never burn your umbrellas because you will need them. Escape as soon as you can!
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Well stated and good analogy. A few days of beautiful weather doesn’t mean it’s going to be like that year-round! My mom would be very happily generous to me at times, but a day later was screaming and rolling around on the carpet. I came to learn the generosity was conditional– and like everything with her transactional. If I bucked her, the generosity was weaponized and pointed to as evidence that she was a giving mother. One day of sunny and 65 doesn’t make up for 364 days of sub-zero temps.