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She pulls away for 3 reasons:
She’s not/no longer interested
There’s another guy
She’s messing with your head, seeing if you can be manipulated.
Edit: testing is NEVER ‘unconsvious’, but ALWAYS conscious.
lol
True.
@VladislavBabbitt you are GOAT! THIS IS TRUE
@alfredovazquez4996 No, I am not.
If she pulls away let go of the rope.
Well said.
If she pulls away, I pull out. Simple.
Fair!
No need to pull out once I get my vasectomy. At 27, I’ll feel free to pound away (once I expand my age range to older women). There was one who was disappointed when I wasn’t snipped. Older women love being raw-dogged by younger men, even average freaks like myself.
Energy says everything is it adding subtracting in conversations, presence and responding. It’s simple math
Even when men are doing majority of the right things in relationships and marriages women will punish them because of the actions of the men that are arrogant irresponsible and manipulative.
If she feels the need to test me, it is a sign of distrust and instability, isn’t it? If she isn’t grounded enough to trust me in advance (and I hold myself to the same standard), she isn’t suitable for a long term relationship with me.
If she needs some distance, she can explain and there are valid reasons as mentioned, but they have to be communicated.
You just ignored her explanation at 2:06
But if she knows that you’re not opening to hear it, why even speak to you?
@ethelpeanut4364 What convinces you, that I wouldn’t be open to hear it?
@josesantana770 In that case it would be a lack of self awareness and consciousness, what I would also tend to criticise.
I used to chit chat with a McDonald’s shift manager in my local mall here in Melbourne Oz. At first I thought she liked me, but after we exchanged numbers, she rarely texted back, which is an unmistakable indication that she is not interested. So I deleted her number and moved on. No need to guess why women do this or do that, because very often even they themselves don’t know what they want.😊
At this point women have gone crazy since they have endless options. Just like a company who sells all their products they have the power and they only want Chad’s since they can get them so it’s just tough luck for us.
I think she liked the attention you were giving her, but no more than that.
@VladislavBabbittThis is exactly what I think too
@alanlee8590most women dont actually like men, they think we are disgusting, just like we dont desire other men. Unless you are 10/10 dont ever get your Hope’s up, they are just playing a sick game.
0:43 she is loosing emotional safety
1:54 she is testing the connection not you
3:15 she is overwhelmed / flooded
4:55 she is confused about her feelings
6:17 you changed the dynamic to quicky (make it gradual!)
7:16 she has lost respect or attraction
8:34 she is already gone (her way of closure, don’t waste your resources into something she will just ignore)
*Women never pull away from something they aren’t afraid of losing. So if she pulls away, take it as her way of telling you she sees little value in you and replace with a woman who DOES value your presence and fears your ABSENCE*
Soooo I should aim to resemble GOD in her eyes?
If someone fears your absence, that sets a different precedent than an intimate partnership. That, and it’s more like childcare. Rather say look for someone who appreciates/values you and would strongly rather not be without you.
your comment “I want you but don’t NEED you” – that balance- speaks volumes. Thank you.
Dealt with that recently. Not a sucker for love so I cut her loose. Some just want company from several dudes with the free accommodations cause they can’t handle being alone and might choose one that’ll succumb to their games. Fuhuuuck that 😂
Had an ex about a month ago pull away and end the relationship. It was long distance and I think I got too clingy and overwhelmed her with more “future talk”. She wouldn’t communicate dissatisfaction and has left me. I did beg a little at the beginning (my mistake) but I have been over a week no contact. I do not foresee her reaching out as even her uncle said he thinks I should just move on. I have successfully re-centered my attention to myself and started growing while understanding attachment styles/love/how to be an uncommon man. I’ll be better for the next person, or if she comes back, maybe her. I put no weight in that last sentence regarding a revival of the relationship.
To me, if she pulls away, it’s like saying no. Remember no means no.
… just walk in the opposite direction.
Hmmm….learning something new every time I watch Courtney Ryan’s videos.
When she pulls away, don’t rush to “fix” — reset your frame 👊🔥
Timely video for me, thank you. Validated my approach to the situation.
I am genuinely concerned for some of the guys who comment here. Either they are pessimitic or gave up. (I don’t mean the ones who say the actual truth)
You’re assuming these women are worth a commitment and effort. You’re describing games. When she plays games, walk away.
This is why women in the dating market and relationships need to be mature and responsible to use communication involving honesty respect and their emotional needs. Another reason is some men like to show women that they’re mature to use communication during their relationship s and marriages .
Top video Courtney, well explained in the context of such a nuanced area of relationships.
#3 happened to me recently but using space and silence. Thanks for the video
I always appreciate hearing Courtney’s perspectives on these things! I especially appreciate how she made a note that it’s okay to walk away from these situations too. If you have shown up for a woman in a way that SHOULD provide her genuine emotional connection and stability, and she’s still pulling this kind of behavior with you, you have to ask whether she is the kind of person you want to continue putting time and energy into. I’ve had several times where I was giving women all the consistency in the world, and I was still getting treatment like I hadn’t shown up, like I wasn’t honest, like she was walking on eggshells around me. As though SHE DIDN’T KNOW WHO SHE WAS DEALING WITH.
At that point, you have to wonder if you even want to deal with someone who would still be confused in a situation like that. In the same way that you have to show her that you are emotionally regulated. She has to show you that she’s not a total space cadet either.