Stop chasing men and have them chase you! Engaged at Any Age
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Ladies, stop chasing men If you want to have men chase you. Nothing is more thrilling in life than having a man chase you. It can be exciting, fun, mysterious, and scary. It just gets all the juices flowing, that’s for sure. You definitely want to give a man a good chase for his money because men want to win. They want to win and they want to win you, and you can’t make it too easy for them because then they’ll lose interest and they’ll find somebody else who will. It’s not a game. Nothing that I teach or the strategies that I talk about are games. These are real-life skills that you need to learn and understand how men aren’t much different than we are. If we cultivate our own feminine qualities in ourselves, then we can show up in a way that is a compliment to the man and that’s what he is looking for. He’s looking for that compliment.
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Jaki Sabourin was voted “Best Female Relationship Expert” by her peers. Jaki is a Coach, Speaker, Author, and the CEO of Engaged at Any Age®. Jaki’s company, Engaged at Any Age, is more than a ‘love brand.’ It is a sanctuary for high-value women who are ready to awaken their feminine power to create the life and relationship of their dreams! Jaki’s wit and no-nonsense attitude have guided thousands of her clients to empower themselves so they can create meaningful, healthy relationships.
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I love watching your videos and love how you express your points. Friendly and straightforward.
Oh wow. You are a blessing I came across today. Subscribed.
From experience, let me tell you that even if a woman lets a man “chase” her, in the beginning, there is no way to tell if he will hit the road AFTER he finally gets her, even if she resists him for an entire year! While one woman decides to hang back and allow a man to chase her, he is getting it on with another woman until that other one finally gives in; again, no matter how long it takes. Most men know that they have other options. You are really simplifying this. I say, let things take their natural course, which is not the same as saying that a woman should do the pursuing. It simply means that we never really know who is sincere and who isn’t. Trust me, a man can play the role of APPEARING to be interested or committed for five years or more. He could simply use a woman as a “place holder” until his next thrill comes along; which only speaks to his need of constant emotional validation. There is no formula. All a woman can is stay in tune with herself and be clear about what she wants and what she will tolerate and what she won’t tolerate.
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Hi there – This was so valuable to me. I’ve just been described by a neighbour as a men chaser. Not sure what she meant as there hasn’t been anyone I was interested in – for so many years – until now. I actually lean forward in a conversation whether I’m talking to a woman or a man! I’ve often been described as having a royal bearing – so perhaps the one cancels out the other. You are so right about the impulse to fall in love never goes. Thank you!
As a guy, who is successful, owns a business, this is a breath of fresh air to hear this dating advice. Her advice is pretty good, she has class, I like it. Dating is not a game, it is like ballroom dancing, when both parties makes the right moves, everyone has a good time. After working 70 hours/week running a crazy stressful business, the last thing any guy wants is to deal with someone unpleasant, or the big pet peeve, lazy. The advice about not being too available, it’s not that we don’t like someone who is available, it’s that when you appear to have no life it really makes me question someones character and are they lazy? And far too many women get it wrong, they think posting pictures of themselves binge drinking or partying it up on social media shows they have a life, quite the opposite. The last thing I want to be bothered with is a alcoholic or drug addict. Again, we businessmen judge a person heavily on character, we have to, it’s how we do business. This lady, she seems well put together, has a good head on her shoulders, and values herself. I don’t see any unsightly tattoos, piercings, and she is in shape. This puts her ahead of 90% of the other women.
Fuzzy Camel Your comments had some great ideas . Some that I had not thought about from a man’s point of view. Good job !!
Fuzzy Camel your name suits you…., don’t work too hard…, breath the fresh air outside
Thanks for your input on this video. I like her advice and your point of view. It makes sense. Cheers!
Fuzzy Camel It’s always great to see a man’s perspective and their side on dating
I am a lady and completely agree with what you say, and the advice that this lady is giving.
First time watching your video. This was really good. I don’t know what I was expecting but this was fresh, intuitive, and really informative. I am an INTJ black woman and I come across to men as aloof. I like your phrasing about not staying in your masculine energy which I am prone to do. I now understand why I get a series of men who enter my life and pursue me like fatal attraction. I naturally don’t initiate messages or texts and it will take me a while before I return a call because I prioritize my friends and clients first. I get more fascinated by my goals, projects, and forward movement rather than the whole process of dating. Actually male relationships are something I do without because they tend to be a distraction. When I am around women, being in a relationship is all they seem to talk about. I am very distinct and I rarely find a man who captures my interest but I also don’t put much energy or expectation in the process. There are so many other areas of my life that need to take precedent.
I enjoyed so much your advise! …
You have a new subscriber! …
Hope many ladies are follow in You, as You are making difference for us! Gracias!
GEEZ! I just want to go out and be myself…..i don’t want to keep track of all these “do’s and don’t”.
Trisha Taylor I hear you Trish 😒
Unfortunately, we’re deemed/viewed as prey even if we don’t know it or want to be…I’m beginning to realise.
welcome to amans life trisha, only difference between me and you is you had all the power once and lost it, men never had it, we do all our complaining when were teenagers and you women tell us to get over it stop moaning and get confident then you reject us, well, now ts your turn, justice is sweet, i used to think all women had it so fucking easy and they do while they are young, when they are older they have it almost half as hard as men, though you have memories of love, wich will keep you saine, i dont, all i got was rejections by all women all the time, now im amiddle aged virgin, life is tough with memories of rejection and frustration and isolation, you wownt have those so your life wil still be a lot easeir than most mens, but it wownt be as easy as a younger woman, that youve lost but dont panick your life is stil alot better than most mens, just because you were ucky enough to be born awoman, but dont complain you have to play the game men have had to play forever that just shows how spoilt you are, and how easy your life is.
Trisha Taylor good girl Trisha. you just might be an honest old fashioned down to earth gal and that is a true prize. Now just avoid all the players and narcissists and DON’T be hooking up with anybody!! Look for the honest decent guy who would die to have you–he is shy and has very little money but he is working. Find him, scoop him up quick and NEVER stab him in the back. Marriage is forever. No divorce!!! Be loyal, devoted, dedicated and honest. This is the recipe for a happy and meaningful life.
Thank you Sally I am very down to earth … no nonsense… no games. It’s ironic how how you described what happened to me a month ago…..I HAD that very man but because of his irresponsible behavior he got himself arrested and i was SO frustrated that i DID “stab him in the back” as far as he’s concerned because i would not go bail him out. and am now “paying” for that choice. ( We broke up) Thing is…i am not an enabler so if he chooses to stay away that is his choice and because i have integrity…i will leave him alone so he can get his life together and get himself in a better position in life. . I believe as time goes by we will be reunited and we will both be in a better place. Thank you for your comment.
I am so sorry you feel such bitterness towards women . I have not had it “easy” at all and i am far from being “spoiled”. Being a man’s “eye candy” is not love. Being used for my excellent credit is not love and having pity on men like yourself is not love. We are all in this life as each other’s teacher so i hope we all pay attention to that fact. People are put in our path to reflect back to us and if you don’t learn from the one…another with a different face and body will come but for the same lesson. Light and love to you.
Your advice is perfect for how to attract a boy, not a man. My last boyfriend chased me like crazy, only for me to find out that the only reason he worked so hard to get me, was because I was fresh out of a relationship and unavailable (until he wore me down). I never had a guy work that hard to win me over, in my entire life. I honestly thought he was sincere, but as soon as I reciprocated how he treated me, he put up a wall and all of a sudden, I was the one putting in all this effort to show that I cared and to try and save the relationship, a relationship that I wasn’t ready to get into in the first place. He’s not a mean person and I know that he didn’t intentionally want to hurt me but he did. He even told me that he’s disgusted with himself for how he’s treated me, but the fact is, he still broke my heart. A man does not behave like that but a boy with serious baggage (in his case, fear of intimacy, having an abusive father and having an “addiction to being alone”, as he puts it) does. If I knew that he had all those issues going on when I met him, he would have stayed in the friend zone until he was ready for something real. But with the way he was acting, it seemed like he was emotionally available for a relationship. When we met, there was a lot of mutual flirting between us. We would text back and forth constantly and he made it clear from the beginning that he wanted to be in a relationship with me. Then we started calling each other every day. We went on a couple of dates. Even after the first time we had sex, he insisted that he wanted me to be his woman. I wasn’t the one who chased after him for that because that was a huge step for me, having just gotten out of a serious relationship. The sex alone, was scary for me at first, but to have a relationship would have been even harder, and he knew that. I finally said yes, to a relationship, even though I knew that it was a lot for me to commit to. So I may have gotten a guy to swoon over me, but the fact is that if somebody has baggage, they’re going to ultimately find a way to sabotage the relationship once you actually become a couple. Those methods of yours don’t work long-term, unless you want to forever be playing a game for the rest of your life. You should be able to just be yourself in a relationship. Games are for children.
Andrea Douglas I agree games don’t guarantee a successful relationship
Jeanette L games guarantee and unsuccessful relationship usually a relationship of Lies untruths and deceit. The line from an old song, someone’s going to get hurt before you’re through someone’s going to pay for the things you do how many hearts will break, how many will it take? Just to satisfy you.
If being yourself hasn’t got you a man, then I would listen! She’s MARRIED! You are NOT!!!!
You are either going to get married by playing games or by being yourself and being more authentic. The choice is yours, but I personally dont play games.
A good man will be attracted to your authentic self anyway….
Life is too short for games.
When men chase me, I run a mile in the other direction! If any man worships me, that’s a turn off. I have no need to use men in any way. That’s true freedom!
So much game. I walked to meet for a business appointment at 9 am at a 5-star Hotel which never happened to me before, a guy saw me walking him while he was standing on line to change money since he just arrived the night before fro Italy, therefore he’s an Italian. Chased and followed me across the lobby to where I was walking. Said hi (and me thought it was for that business). Cut the long story short, he dated for 2 months by courting in that old-fashioned way, with him a month later as he came to pick me up to visit his country. He took me all over Italy, restaurants, jewellery etc. and married after 2 years. Laster almost 30 years until he passed on 4 yrs ago. All organic and natural!
My condolences to you but what a wonderful story Meta M.
Engaged At Any Age thank you.
Meta M ~ Wow! Good for you. What a blessing!
Yes it is. I’m forever grateful. Never looked for it, never even imagined and all just materialised on its own accord by nature’s intervention.
What a wonderful life you had with him. Hope you are doing OK. I lost my husband 4 yrs ago and I sure miss him.
We should follow his lead but not necessarily play games. Be wise in our decisions and seek good counsel. Hold firm in our standards and spiritual beliefs. And realize that we each are a half of a whole. It’s not good to be alone. Best wishes!
I totally agree 100% with every single advice you’ve had to say…♥ most people that had negative comments regarding its a game being played don’t understand the concept of what you really mean, but I do you also covered so many great facts during this video… “Stay blessed” ★★★★★
Hi there! I like how you explain everything…
I have men chasing me but not the one I want to. I’m going to be 70, don’t have much time. Your advice is for younger women.
I’m so glad I found your channel!! Keep up the good job.
Even after a good chase and a run for thier money some men still end up being phonies and jerks. My experience.
Hippy(Bboomer) plus i never said all men that i have met. Some of you are just there to read people post n come with negative comments and insults.
Finally!! Thank you so much for your teaching!
I like how you apply laws of energy in your teaching. I was this sassy queen you were talking about without even knowing that…some time passed and I became the chaser ..now am returning to this inner queen 👸 knowledge with your reminder. smile 😃
Stupid, childish games…. NO! If this is how it works, then I will be single for the duration.
Guys over 50 don’t chase after the 3rd date, when you don’t sleep with them.
if he is not chasing, let him go.