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If they’re a friend, boss, coworker or distant relative, you may never even realise they’re a narcissist. You may only hear stories from people who are closer to them. Distance creates an illusion or a mirage that the narcissist is a good person.
See it- feel it- bouncing off it- and so much energy goes it to navigate through and being solely responsibility for my path.
All Narcissists are hiding in plain sight because Narcissists are people who are always seeking attention validation. Narcissists don’t see there’s a problem they think they re special they think they are unique
Yes most of the time that’s almost true. It’s the way it looks. But they are living in a false self illusion. So when the external supply of illusion support gets thin they start seeing the truth. This is a desperate situation for the narcissist. It’s terrifying. The mask support fails. They are nothing without it. This gets dangerous like cornering a animal. And they don’t grow. The mask just
Yes. But the false self fake mask can collapse. This sounds great and maybe validating for you. But that’s not how it works. They have no solid spiritual core. They don’t retreat into their true self. Don’t repent and grow. The narcissist is a spiritually dead shell of a failed incarnation. The inner soul interface was sacrificed! The alter in their temple was given over to a lie. A false god of image and manipulation. Truth is an abyss in them. A pit. A void. You sensed the emptiness in them. You felt strangely lonely while involved. In a sense they are actually zombies.
It’s is lonely when others don’t see it but you do. Communal Narcissists yes Inlobe studying this topic amazing point.
Yes, I have several around me, and they keep doing more and more outrageous things. They behave like children most of the times….
Classic trait of Narcissists who are stuck in Arrested Development << toddler stuck in an adult body
Relatable. Parents were in public service and great neighbors and helpers to extended family when we (rarely) visited. Great at keeping up appearances and as two-faced as they come. I wonder sometimes, did anyone recognize the abused and neglected child, or did they all buy into the ‘problem child’ narrative?
My ex was all this I can totally relate to this
I see it, I feel it, they all think I am off my Rocker, with a wild imagination 💭, the Narcissistic’s one ‘s get the glory, I am the bully , so I am told. ‼️😳😰😡
Best thing to do is to GET AWAY from a narcissist.
Yes!!
Once you learn the traits, it’s like the kid in The Sixth Sense. I see narcs everywhere. At least 3 who have had significant and devastating impacts on me and my well being.
This is why I don’t believe the myth that “only” 1% of people are narcissists. I strongly suspect it is closer to 15-20%, and much higher in men. They are everywhere.
@ToadToss Mine were a MIL, ex-husband and DIL, so 2 female, 1 male. Not necessarily representative but that’s how it was for me. But I do think it is less obvious in women because they are more passive aggressive about it. I think the 1% is based on diagnosis and we know they are not likely to seek help. So it would not surprise me if your statistics are more accurate.
When my MIL’s family doctor suggested she see a mental health professional, she was so insulted. I really wanted her to get help so I gently suggested that it might help her cope with her “sadness”. A few days later she came back to me tell me that the psychologist told her there was nothing wrong with her and that everyone else was the problem.
yeah this is very much true. The unfortunate side effect is once you learn to discern it suddenly clicks why someone behaved or did that thing years ago. it is a shitty feeling.
The problem with parents is that it takes years to see them for who they are.
Yes!!
You are raised with their behavior as your only reference point for what “love” and “family” means.
If there is covert narcissism, a lot of painful moments are passed off as “misunderstandings”, and as a child, of course you would be quick to accept that excuse, to preserve the parental attachment.
I have grown children whom it has taken me years to see. I have seen some doctors with theories that part of this can be genetic. Husband and grandparents had personalities that smacked of narcissism.
I have seen this in many people, home, work and other places, I can sense their fake behavior.
I also agree with Maya Angelou, belief what you see, your first impression are not wrong. 😰😳😡👍
I have or had a handful of very close and important to me friends and family who were stolen by narcissists. This left me without meaningful relationships. I’m still isolated. I’ve of course greatly oversimplified the situation here. But the result is functually accurate.
They ruin everything, they can’t help it. Mind yourself and enjoy your own company, and the company of nice people…there are nice people around.
Really interesting how i am seeing a side or face and the other people close to us are not seeing the same face. I am waking up to the fact that my eldest daughter does not have my best interest at heart.
I watch these videos over 10 times on repeat so i can feel validated and that im not crazy or thin skinned
They are not worth my time or efforts anymore, too much of my energy is wasted. Let others find out, when their time comes. I am done with it, enough !!!
It was my mistake of being too trusting and empathetic, I will leave at that. Thank you Dr. Ramani for taking the time to speak on these matters. 👍🥰❣️
As strange as it may sound, I actually feel grateful that I finally get this. It allows me to realize that I am not the problem. I’ve spent my entire marriage thinking. I am not doing it right at always trying to figure out a way how I can be better. I even lost myself and who I am in the process. I don’t even know what I like or enjoy anymore. So it’s hard as it is to accept it. I am grateful that I finally get it that there is an answer to make me see clarity that it’s not me.
I learned recently how the coping strategies we use with the narcissist can be used with institutions and organizations that I consider self-serving, withholding, using, and deceiving. I learned this in post-traumatic growth coaching, but no need to wait. Think about the corporate agencies you deal with and do a gut check. When I started treating them the way I navigate the narcissists around me it was a game changer for my quality of life.
My narcissistic mother died a few years ago and it was so hard hearing people including friends and family saying what a lovely lady she was. The feeling inside me was indescribable. Recently I got chatting to an old lady I’d never spoken to before and it turned out that she knew my late mother. When she said “I really liked your mother” I waited for that horrid feeling but it never came. I just said “did you” and politely excused myself and walked away. It felt good.
My story resonated with every little detail described. Thank you for the validation and encouragement to make a life after the trauma of a covert narcissistic mother. ❤❤