The “Delusion” That Controls Narcissists
Why do narcissists insist on things that clearly aren’t true — even when you have proof? It can feel like you’re dealing with someone completely delusional, but the reality is more complex. In this video, we break down why narcissists distort reality, how this toxic pattern keeps you stuck, and why trying to prove the truth rarely works.
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Narcissists live in their Grandoise world they live in their own world
Narcissists are delusional because they gaslight manipulate cheat lie and rig their system to their own advantage
That’s not delusional… Maybe “Evil”, (If evil is a thing), Maybe Sadistic… (And they actually get a degree of duper’s delight at fooling you or tricking you all the time), or perhaps sociopathic…. IN which case, that person cares not about your feelings, or goals, or the results of the manipulations are for the victim…. You simply DON”T matter, because you are not them… Perhaps you are not much more than a cartoon character in their mind? On a level of course, they are not truthful, so they are not seeing things accurately, because they have twisted the fabric of reality to their own advantage… But in my experience with dialoguing with a number of them, I have had them outline quite truthfully and accurately what’s going on…. in a large number of areas. That’s not delusional. Or, If it is? It is delusional in a select few areas. My two cents.
That’s not what delusion is. A person would need to be aware of reality in order to weaponize it that way.
When a narcissist denies their bad behavior it’s darvo
Yeah in my experience it happens every time. No accountability, no remorse and absolutely zero apologies.
DARVO, good call, on point.
Narcissists always believe in things that are not true which is why there’s a book called it’s not you
If they dated themselves, they’d break up with themselves.
When I acted exactly like him back occasionally, he told me he was scared, got stressed out, and called me demonic and a horrible person for the way I spoke.
In an absolute heartbeat, if I did even 1 percent of the things he does and says he would have lost his mind and gone nuts!
Absolutely! In fact, they would never even think about dating someone like themselves. I will keep this in mind… Asking a potential partner, “Why should I be interested in dating you?”. Or, “What would make you a good partner, long term?”. A narcissist would probably respond by becoming defensive, or raising their voice, or flying into a rage, or claiming that you are insulting them. 🚩🚩🚩
If my ex-narcissist dated himself, I wonder who would pick up the tab since he was such a cheapskate.😂😂😂
Thus their lack of self awareness
Narcissists especially the communal narcissist who does things for others to seek out validation is what’s tricky about Narcissism
Like a labyrinth and a maze and a fog and a smog and que parallel twilight zone😅
Humor
Self awareness
Healthy self esteem via indestructible but EVEN MORE STURDY- big old rubber wall that bounces off all of any of the utter chaos that is in form of word but if it’s hitting the head, heart or soul 🆘 SOS 🛟 3:42 THAT HILL 3:46 😢😢 3:51 😢 3:53 ALL WORST PLUS ANXIETY WITH ZERO ORIENTATION OF WHICH WAY IS THE SUN
OOOO (⚆_⚆) 4:58 yes the slither of their own capacities to narrate for another – totally and entirely MISSING MISREADING AND SELF MISLEADING utter madness – bc as they carry on with several sentences before starting to repeat 🔁the same Whackadoo 7:32 – literally become angry at the very same ASSUMPTIONS that they and only they alone have brought to the focus of the spontaneity of the random moment in time… Let em tell ya-
Dont respond dont try to change a word 😮😅its fiction
Don’t defend don’t engage don’t explain don’t personalize Deep
Narcissists always feel shame almost like they always have a stomach ache
They are delusional because they think that other people have absolutely nothing better in the entire universe to do than think about them. They would probably be horrified to learn that most people don’t think about them at all.
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One of the things that helped me heal was realizing there was nothing I could say or do to change their reality. The answer was to disengage.
It is absolutely NOT our words, it is that they want NOTHING to do in ANY way to hear ANY worlds relating to self reflection or accountability of their behavior.
Yes it’s stagnant and delusional no fixing these personalities. It can’t absorb it’s over it’s the final stage financial control.
The worst are the ones that bait us.
That is true. Even with evidence, they will not shift. Instead, from what I have experienced, they will either turn it around on you (DARVO), punish you with silence or rage.
Exactly it is like they are incapable of chasing accountability/self reflection. They are externally centered on needing others for validation and at the same point they hide behind a mirror they use to aim back at you to avoid anything to do with ‘viewing’ their own image’
Narc Survivor said they don’t care about the facts
That is my experience.
The narcissist literally senses with X-ray vision the vulnerabilities of a person who wants to do well and then just completely ramshackles that person.
When the discard comes, you might be as devastated as was I.
However, after some time away from the narcissist, your self will recover.
I hope you find peace in yourself away from the abuser, as did I.
They are legends in their own mind and they need you to realize that and if you don’t, there’s something wrong with you.
I remember telling my narc ex we aint taken a pic in a while, so he pulled up his phone and accidentally went on camera roll where I suddenly see loads of pics of a girl with him. The more he’s trying to hide it the more I see. I start screaming at him who is she?! Bear in mind I’m his wife.
He then forces me to go to another room for 5 mins and promises he will let me see his camera roll in 5 mins.
That of course as ridiculous as it sounds, was his attempt at gaslighting me. He intended to delete the evidence, then convince me I didn’t see it or didn’t care that I saw it as long as I couldnt prove it.
That’s considered doxxing in some states. May want to consult an attorney about that. JMO.
They will deny and rewrite conversations to any length to give themselves credit for something you did. It’s truly astounding. Nothing too big or small.
5:42
“Self righteous, They do believe they are morally superior.” That’s the phrase I’ve been searching for.
Thank you. It’s so true.
This helps.
Like a god like complex.
My narcissist is definitely delusional and serious mentally ill. ALL of your examples I have dealt with. It’s exhausting.
What some people describe as delusional behavior by narcissists, I see as relentless determination to get what they want. It can feel unbelievable in how far they will go to lie, manipulate, gaslight to get their way.