How to Get a Narcissist to Leave (The Truth)
Can you actually get a narcissist to leave you — or is that just wishful thinking? Many people hope for an easier way out of a toxic relationship, especially when leaving feels overwhelming. In this video, we explore why narcissists resist breakups, what keeps them in place, and the reality behind trying to make them walk away.
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Love is a game to a narcissist
Surely,
on a good day of course!
Mostly it’s just a bloody emotional battlefield
1:28
Hi god, are you there ?it’s me and everyone else who is enduring this- can we please have some mercy god ?
Eagerly awaiting your response ❤
Absolutely 👍
God has mercy. Satan has none.
We get to choose which direction to go . ❤
My Dad got an MRI brain scan. I asked him to be honest about the results of his anterior insula (empathy centre) or never see me again. He decided to never see me again.
Wow
@jasontafao6193He tried to act like the most empathetic person whenever he had an audience. He’s a recently retired registered psychologist btw.
He went from obsessive stalker to discard immedietly. There is no way he can spin a story around the Ultimatum I gave him. I let him know there was a witness to my terms. I have zero feelings of guilt or responsibility, the ball is in his court.
Once a relationship that involves a narcissist ends (mostly by them), they will expect to maintain the same level of control as they used to have while in the relationship, no matter how long that relationship was and how long after it ended, especially if you have children with them and especially if legal systems play in their favour.
I feel like I am in a blackmirror episode 😢 going from a narcissistic family to a narcissistic partner. Finally out of it, but every minute my brain goes “what the hell just happened”
Its absolutely normal. Because this is the only familiar thing you know.
Good people and kindness scares you. You not use to that.
It happened to me as well. Not only Narcisistic mother, but all the family and then my ex partner and then ALL my friends ( naturally 🤦♀️) were narcissist as well.
So when i went no contact
I went cold turkey
One by one.
Guess what?
No longer have depression
No longer have anxiety attacks
No longer need a drink.
Good luck
Doesn’t get better. Find the unicorns. I found the family I never had and married a narsassist and we moved away. Biggest regret
Please try not to blame yourself – seems like you’re just now starting to really understand the patterns and how they harmed you.
Sometimes we come to realisations at a later point in life, because we weren’t mentally ready or physically in a safe position to handle it before. You’ve become stronger so your body decided to suddenly drop that insane weight into your consciousness.
It’s probably like waking up sweating with a racing heart from the worst nightmare ever. It’s over but now you’re awake still processing it.
No NARCISSISTIC ABUSERS PREDATORS TOXIC FUCHED UP PEOPLE 🤬 CRIMINALS MAKE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS AT ALL…EVER!!! TRUTH HURTS 😭🤕 AT FIRST RIGHT??? BUT IT WILL SET YOU 🆓🆓🆓🆓🆓🆓🆓
No NARCISSISTIC ABUSERS PREDATORS TOXIC FUCHED UP PEOPLE 🤬 CRIMINALS MAKE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS AT ALL…EVER!!! TRUTH HURTS 😭🤕 AT FIRST RIGHT??? BUT IT WILL SET YOU 🆓🆓🆓🆓🆓🆓🆓
Don’t defend don’t engage don’t explain don’t personalize Deep technique
As soon as I start hoping a partner will die in a car crash, I know I’m with a narcissist…again.
🤦♀️🤷♀️
Exactly.
I used to wish that about my father. I think he was borderline. He was extremely verbally abusive.
I love that she said that! I felt bad feeling that way but it’s so true! They make your life so difficult and unhappy you wish they would…disappear. By whatever means necessary.
Wow, this is giving me a perspective shift….as hard as it was, I think I got off easy.
I’m also very glad that I was a bit younger than him and that I was still living with my Mom at the time…I feel like these things worked in my favor, he probably would have meaner and nastier if not for these factors…
One time (after me repeatedly emailing him telling him to stop calling me) — he left me a message: ” I don’t know if I should come over there?”
— These people are outta their minds, telling him repeatedly to leave me alone and he thought he should ”come over “? He had never even been to my home.
I felt I needed to word my response really carefully so as not to antagonize him.
Called me for 3 years after I broke it off….but now I feel lucky
They will not leave. My ex Covert Narcissistic husband told me I will never divorce you, I don’t believe in divorce, but continued to do everything to cause a divorce; therefore, I divorced him and even then he said “I never wanted a divorce, just a separation.” I said no way this is a straight divorce, he only wanted a separation I believe is because he liked his set up and wanted to continue to gain the benefits out of a marriage without being held accountable like in a marriage. He wanted access to my 401K and Life insurance if I was to pass before him. He was unable to get life insurance due to his health condition he didn’t qualify, He had more to gain from remaining married to me than for me staying married to him.
That AND they are planning for the right time to make sure they SUCK you DRY! They are “planning “ their escape !
They are rehearsing their exit to EVERYONE that knows them BUT YOU! If you were isolated and abandoned like I was the WHOLE time I was married to him you NEVER KNEW !
My husband would be OUT there spreading out vitriol and HATE that NO ONE ever checked on ME!
His goal was to punish me for not PLEASING HIM!
He destroyed my credit my social security EVERYTHING!
My EDUCATION, my STUDENT LOANS were NEVER paid so they chased me for THAT! He WOULD NOT let me leave the property! He infiltrated every single person I KNEW to start from DAY ONE manipulation against ME!
@j@janettemartin4604s, they will do that, mine also tried to get me to Co-sign for him a car even though he still could get it himself, he still wanted my name on the paperwork to financially destroy me, but I didn’t fall for it I told him if he can get it without my signature than do it! He was so angry at me and cheated on me and emotionally abused me for his revenge towards me. Even had another woman in our home and she messaged me that she knew the colors of my bedsheets and the alarm code to our house.
If one is a covert and the other an overt, they compliment each other like match made in heaven.
My ex got back with his ex wife. I think they’re both narcs
And I quote ‘please oh please, take this person out of my life’. This is me. Every day. I’ve woken up. Found out about the 5th affair, logged everything he’s done; the control over my body my life, the manipulative way he gets his way, his continual criticism of me as a mother. The things that seem small, material, those ‘oh well’ moments that suddenly occur to you as coercive abuse. I want him out of my house and he won’t leave. He threatens me with how I will lose everything, never work again etc. This works. It really works. I’m scared and at the same time I will be contacting a domestic abuse organisation for support this week. 28 years I’ve put up with this.
It took careful planning FOR ME to remove him FAR ENOUGH AWAY I knew he wouldn’t return! This idiot was unable to do a DAMN THING without using someone else!
So brilliant. When you can finally say it out loud, something shifts in you. It may still take years to leave, but something shifts in you.
I find myself wanting to understand who this man truly is at the expense of my own character and happiness. Put me in the group of those that pray everyday he will just leave because I don’t know what to do, I feel like a zombie. I am someone who even has the resources to leave myself but can’t trust him to exit my property or treat it responsibly if I’m away. This is a much appreciated video, the validation of what some of us are going through is priceless. It’s such a confusing state to be in.
You are BLESSED when they LEAVE! They control EVERYTHING so you cannot escape!
When people instinctively ask “why’d you stay”! They aren’t asking themselves “why won’t he LET HER GO? Oh he must be controlling and ABUSING HER”!
Lookup coercive control. Try reading Jane Mockton-Smith. You might be dealing with an issue in other folks that could be deeper than narcissism. And ultimately more dangerous. I hope you get all the support you need to decide and move forward in peace and safety either way.
My mom said she just made it really uncomfortable for the man to stay around.
That almost doesn’t sound like she was in a narcissistic relationship.. she may had had escape door prior to the relationship?
Good for her — The ends justifies the means for sure. Who cares about the man’s feelings or fairness? Nevermind the childrens experience. Nevermind the financial strain. I hope she got what she deserved.
I’m the one who divorced him even though he said he’d never divorce. Affairs were ok. Lying. Stealing. Verbal abuse. All ok. He still wants a relationship. They are so delusional. I can’t wait for the final ability to go no contact.
Nothing is more pathetic than a narcissist, staying in a bad relationship because they are horrified of their comfort being shattered! 😮 🤔
Looking at it from outside, yes I’m sure it does look pathetic, if you are close enough to see what is going on. Being in it, is more like…. hell.
@mats6504 Remove yourself, and in time, the fog fades. You’ll see the pathetic lame person for who they really are.
They enjoy seeing you feeling helpless
The first 1 min is soo soo much applicable to me..😢😢
And whatsoever said in video about narcissist is soo true….
Follow the money! that’s all they care about!
Those narcissists 😒 , you nearly need a degree in psychology to recognize them and another one to get rid of them!!
Like they won’t leave you alone !! Especially when you put a stop ⛔ after finally understanding their game, seeing right through it.
It’s like they stalk you to win your delusional state back!
And when they have flying monkeys to help them… it’s just 😩🤯 !!!
Thank you for your precious advices, there will never be too much.