7 Things YOU Do During Sex That Drive Him WILD! (that you don’t even know about)
What a man feels when a woman stops performing in bed — the unconscious, involuntary moments that quietly undo him and that he'll never tell you about. 🔥
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Most women think driving a man wild in bed comes down to the right moves, the right body, the right performance. So they end up stuck in their own head — monitoring, managing, quietly holding back the very things that would undo him.
Here's what I want you to see — every one of these 7 things is something you already do on instinct, the moment you stop performing and start actually feeling. This isn't a checklist and it isn't a set of tactics. It's about recognizing what the real, unguarded you does to a man — so you can stop second-guessing yourself and trust that being fully present is more than enough. The thing that drives him wildest isn't the polished version of you. It's the real one.
Whether you're newly dating, deep in a long-term relationship, or stepping back into intimacy after a divorce — this is the insider male perspective most coaches won't give you.
▼ IN THIS VIDEO ▼
→ The way your breathing changes — the one signal he knows you can't fake
→ What it does to him when you pull him closer
→ The sounds you don't mean to make (and why he can't forget them)
→ The moment you hold his eyes instead of looking away
→ How your body answers when he finds the right spot
→ What flips in him when you touch him back like you mean it
→ Plus the climax almost no woman thinks about: the moment you stop watching yourself — and why it ruins him for anyone else
None of these are moves. They're the real, involuntary things that happen when you stop managing the moment and let yourself be in it. Once you see what each one does to a man, you stop hiding them — and start trusting that the realest version of you is the one he can't forget.
If you've been searching for what men really want in bed, male psychology and attraction, how to feel confident and present with a man, or dating and intimacy advice for women over 40 — this is the insider breakdown.
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Mat Shaffer is a former attorney turned dating and relationship coach for women. He helps women understand the way men actually think, feel, and connect — from inside the male mind.
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▼ CHAPTERS ▼
0:00: What he actually feels when you stop performing
2:00 #1: The way your breathing changes
3:40 #2: When you pull him closer
5:10 #3: The sounds you don't mean to make
7:00 #4: The way you look at him
9:30 #5: How your body responds when he finds the right spot
11:39 #6: The way you touch him back
13:58 #7: Letting go of watching yourself
16:56 Final thoughts: the real you is the one he can't forget
💬 Which of these 7 surprised you the most? Drop it below 👇🔥
I wanted to drive him wild but he lives with someone and can’t have romantic guests.
Sorry to hear that! Yeah, that can be difficult!
That’s a real situation and it matters. You deserve someone who has space for you in every part of his life. 🙏
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My partner loves it when I initiate things. It gives me a sense of power. Men get tired of initiating sex. Plus, I’m the one that introduced him to using toys during sex. So, when I take control, he knows it’s about be off the chain.
A woman who knows what she wants and takes the lead, he’s a lucky man. That energy is everything. 🔥
@Mat_ShafferYou better believe it! Like you’ve mentioned in your vid Mat that a lot of men tend to want to go directly to the source the minute you hop in bed. So, it’s our job ladies to show our men there’s more to sex than wham bam, thank you ma’am. Me & my guy have always had good chemistry, even before toys were introduced. He said he couldn’t imagine ever going back to the way it was in the beginning. Why is it that the first time my guy was introduced to the “other side”, he had to go & share it with his buddy? It was a once and done thing but still. STRANGE!
#4 made me laugh bc I am someone who struggles with eye contact even during normal situations! I can do it during intimacy but it really depends on position. I am a good foot (or more) shorter than my partner
I just recently found your channel! Thank you for making these videos. As a women it’s great to hear from a man , what men like . Also I took your quiz. The result is I hold back a bit because I’m in my head to much . How do I get out of my head (performance mode)
I’ve been married to my husband for over 12 years but with him 15 and I’ve been doing the things you recommended and boy he is just in love! We already had a fantastic relationship and love life but it elevated since listening to you! Thanks so much! Love your enthusiasm when you present each topic. 👏