Why You Feel Emotionally Exhausted After Narcissistic Abuse
Compassion fatigue is usually associated with healthcare workers, caregivers, and people in helping professions. But what if it can happen in other relationships too? If you've been feeling emotionally exhausted, detached, overwhelmed, or like you simply have nothing left to give, there may be a reason for that. In this video, we'll explore compassion fatigue, why it can be so difficult to recognize, and how it may show up in ways you never expected.
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There is nothing is enough for them and since your are a human being and not a super creature, you will reach a point of exhaustion and hopelessness where you are not appreciated and have nothing more to give while they keep demanding, and this point is only a matter of time.
Exactly the spot on topic that needed to be spoken about.
Thank you Dr. Ramani ❤❤❤
Literally going through this with an aging parent and you’re ticking all the boxes….. when you talked about the next level of narcissistic abuse of the caregiver…. Dang…. It at home… and you’re also spot on.
No. Mother and her endless screaming fits eventually led me to a state where I was just done caring with her rants and raving. I just felt too exhausted to get caught up in her latest self-created crisis. That was reason to scream at me, too.
Complete limbo numb, exhausted, can’t sleep mind racing
I’m a person who likes to help out my friends and family. Early on, I had to learn to take care of myself first because I would quickly get run down.
The mind and body are in survival mode. Nothing less, nothing more.
I didn’t recognize it when I was caught up in it. I use to have so much energy. It was expected of me. I’m finally saying No , I can’t and I’m plum exhausted! It’s called self care..
This couldn’t have popped up at a better time. Thank you!
compassion fatigue is to caregivers as a drained battery is to a phone
long term narc relationship. out now. still pretty compasipnate, but never dating again!
The human brain cannot handle constant, compassion and empathy. We are built to survive!
8 yrs post narc and the burnout is real. Just the thought of having an intimate relationship, of caring for and navigating another’s needs, makes me ill. Can’t and won’t.
I can’t bare the thought of being with anyone and being completely trusting and vulnerable since I left my Narc Ex. The anxiety would feel as if it was killing me all over again.
So true and so spot on. When it came to my ex-narcissist, the constant demand for me to meet his needs was bad enough. He took it a step further when it came to his daughter. He would literally repeatedly exploit the fact she lost her mom to breast cancer at a young age and herself carried a risk factor as a way of guilting me into supporting her material needs and wants; but as with any relationship with a narcissist, it’s never enough or good enough. There finally came a point where I more or less said to him (where she was concerned), “I’m done!”.
After a lifetime of effort, my payment is alopecia and generalized anxiety
A narc wants, expects, and will take everything without giving anything.
People who want me to care about them but don’t want to care about me destroy my compassion. I frequently have to stop myself and remember not everyone is a narcissist.
Cynicism to the point that lack of health and autonomy is seen as if narcissism is everywhere.
I cared for my narcissistic father in the last two months of his life at home. That time included what Dr Ramani talks of here. But my father was more than a label. Those two months were very hard but also very precious. His last words were that he loved me and I know he meant it absolutely.
If you are here, you have probably been running on empty for a long time, giving, holding space, showing up for others while quietly falling apart inside. I just want you to know that what you’re feeling is real, it has a name, and you are not broken. You gave so much of yourself because you care deeply. That’s not a weakness. But you matter too. Your exhaustion matters. I hope this video is the beginning of you finally giving yourself some of that same compassion. You deserve it. 💙
I still remember the exact moment when I realized how badly I had humiliated myself. I was checking my phone every 4 minutes like some addicted lab rat waiting for a reward. One unread message from him could change my whole mood, and that’s honestly disgusting to admit now. Then one night, completely drained, I bought The Obedient Boy Protocol. I didn’t expect anything…but the book hiIt me like a psychological brick. It didn’t tell me to heal or be patient. It told me to wake up. To stop begging. To stop over-explaining. I applied the techniques the next day and suddenly HE was the one refreshing the chat, leaving double-texts, asking why I’m “different.” Babe, I’m not different. I’m just done being pathetic
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