What NOT to do when divorcing a narcissist

What NOT to do when divorcing a narcissist//If your soon-to-be-ex-husband has narcissistic personality disorder (npd) or has narcissistic traits, then you need to know what not to do! Learn the covert narcissist’s manipulation tactics you must avoid so you can outsmart and negotiate successfully with the narcissist in court then go on to learn how to co-parent using parallel parenting and avoid parental alienation so you can survive your divorce from a malignant narcissist.

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  • @SixFigureBusinessCoaching says:

    Much needed caution for people who are experiencing this! Thank you, Victoria for bringing so much value!

  • @YesToTech says:

    This is so good to know Victoria! You always offer the best advice!

  • @OlympiaSophie says:

    Wonderful advise and something so many of us need to be aware of.

  • @mgu1N1n1 says:

    Thank God I never married my female covert narcissistic partner! Men do not hesitate to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your health and safety is in jeopardy. Men, get ahead of the madness and prepare yourself for a system that is biased against men!

  • @justaconversation3729 says:

    Made mistake #1 … didn’t realize he was a Narcissist… he seemed so vulnerable and caring… the facts don’t support that false projection though.

    Didn’t understand until he did the unthinkable and traumatized the children just to humiliate and shame me, and then used their pain like they were pawns…

    • @VictoriaMcCooey says:

      So sad. They all do this. I’m sorry you and your kids had to endure that 🙁

    • @Freespiritedqueen says:

      ​@VictoriaMcCooey went through this with two different children, different fathers and not married to them, but decades later and met and married ( first time bride in my late 40s) a grandiose AND covert narcissist rolled into one, now divorcing due to DV. I swear they are everywhere you turn, especially the predator males that prey on vulnerable women. You are right about the not playing fair. From parents to narc ex husband, I find myself fighting for survival and my life as I struggled to move away to another state to start fresh beginning from an environment of abusiveness to find myself in another one that I now have escape to involve court, YET AGAIN!😢

  • @rjbennett3448 says:

    NO MORE DRAMA! 💜

  • @chunt7001 says:

    Great information! I’m just starting a divorce NO MORE DRAMA.

  • @ellisburton8733 says:

    Your approach reminds me very much that to thrive in this type of divorce you really need to be the best version of yourself, the most grown up, effective, calm and professional version of yourself. Imagine all those minutes, days weeks, you won’t have to put up with the narcissist and relish it and let ir give you the boost that you need.

  • @smartpowerelectronics8779 says:

    Thank you so much Victoria.
    Tried to go 3 years ago and failed, I now understand it is not me being weak and indeed picture the life of me and my 2 daughters after a divorce. I need to prepare well, as I will not leave my children with her.

  • @danielskyles6184 says:

    I am married to a covert narcissist. She discarded me after 40 years. I wish you would speak for both sides here. ty

    • @fjschneider says:

      Yup.

    • @Silvaack says:

      Hang in there brother! I’m praying for your peace!

    • @mattd8868 says:

      I agree. I was married to a Female Covert narcissist for 25 years. Didn’t realize it until after the separation. The light bulb clicked on & so many things started to make since. Women can be narcissist as well. Especially when they have no accountability.

    • @jaggarcia2600 says:

      I feel your pain… Mine took off after 23 years…. And she has trashed me to her family who now hate me…

    • @musclemouseautospa2592 says:

      How did you not see something off in 40 years. I knew something was off in the 2nd year of my 8 year marriage

  • @zeemarielacey41 says:

    I have mediation next week with a narcissist of a husband and his new girlfriend…I’m praying for it to be over and NO MORE DRAMA

  • @kimasamysargent1769 says:

    I could really use your help, I just came across your video and I’m so excited to hear that you respond to comments.

    • @VictoriaMcCooey says:

      Yes, I respond to every comment! Or you can book an initial session with me (45 minutes) for just $20. And if you purchase any coaching products, we’ll apply that fee 🙂 Here’s the link: https://bit.ly/3lW3QJI

  • @gemmamccabe6964 says:

    Love your content. It is unique, powerful and effective. Never stop.

  • @ambererickson7629 says:

    No more drama!
    Great video.
    To anyone reading this…..
    This lady is very kind and helpful.
    God bless you

  • @carolineblechasseur7131 says:

    Great video! Thank you for this. I am right in the middle of a divorce with a narc. A violent, mean, abusing men. The kids don’t want anything to do with him.

    • @VictoriaMcCooey says:

      So sorry you’re in this spot, but congrats on taking action and getting out!!!

    • @giselef4885 says:

      Imaging that. But just mean to me and kids trap. I dont tell my kids any bad about him. But he does 😢. Kids are still 16 and 10. They will find out on their own

  • @Kinematographer says:

    Hands up who discovered what a narcissist is around the day they left you? Typically destroyed mentally, physically and financially…

  • @anitarivera245 says:

    No more drama!

  • @mattd8868 says:

    Just found your video. You should speak on both sides. I was married to a covert female narcissistic for 25 years. I never suspected it because society seems to think men are the only ppl that are narcissistic. She wanted to separate & left the famiky for 3 months. I had so much peace when she left. She wanted back & I said no. I filed for divorce 2 months later. Shes been begging me to come back. I had forgotten what peace felt like. There are men that suffer abuse as well but we have to do it silently because whos going to believe a woman really gets physically abusive with a man.

    • @VictoriaMcCooey says:

      Hi Matt! Thanks for your comment. I understand your frustration. There ARE many female narcissists. I speak mostly about male narcissists because most of my community is female. But feel free to change out the pronouns. Male and female narcissists behave very similarly in marriage. I’m sorry you had to suffer through that but happy to hear you finally have peace 🙂

  • @marvysimplebudget443 says:

    No more drama😊

  • @solomoncaraway7717 says:

    No more drama

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