9 Signs He’s Already Chosen You (that he’ll NEVER admit!)
This isn't about waiting to be picked. You're choosing too. Here's how to see what he's already decided, even if he hasn't said a word.
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"Golf Saturday?" "Let me check with her." And every man at that table goes quiet, because they all know what that means.
Men almost never announce that they've chosen you. We give it away in little things: the name we save you under, the questions we ask about your coworker, the show we won't watch without you. In this video I'm sharing nine signs he's already chosen you that he'll never admit, from the name in his phone to the one door he finally closes.
If you watched "15 Tiny Tests He Gives You When He's Falling for You," this is what comes next: not the tests he runs while he's falling, but what changes once he's decided.
▼ IN THIS VIDEO ▼
→ What the name he saved you under says about where you stand
→ Why he suddenly cares whether Brenda at work ever apologized
→ What it means when people you've never met already know all about you
→ The five words his friends hear before you ever do
→ The thing you said once that he quietly took care of
→ Why he won't watch the next episode without you
→ The haircut, the gym, the fixed sink, and why none of it is random
→ "What would you think about Arizona?" and what he's really asking
→ The one door he finally closes, and how to notice when he does
If you've been searching for signs he's serious about you, how to know if he wants a future with you, or how men show love without saying it, this is the insider answer.
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▼ CHAPTERS ▼
0:00 The guys' table
1:26 1. He changed your name in his phone
2:44 2. He gets weirdly invested in your drama
3:43 3. People you've never met already know all about you
5:05 4. He says "let me check with her"
6:26 5. He remembers the thing you said once
8:05 6. He won't watch the next episode without you
9:09 7. He suddenly gets his act together
10:48 8. He asks your opinion on everything
12:09 9. He closes his exit door
14:50 Back at the guys' table
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Be honest… how is HE saved in YOUR phone? 😂 (And if you were ever “Sarah Coffee” in some man’s phone, I apologize on behalf of all of us.)
What’s the quiet sign that told YOU a man had chosen you? Tell me below. I read every single comment. 👇🤍
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But what if he says he don’t want a relationship with you, but he only wants you with out labels and he says he tells everyone about me and will get involved in the drama and has asked if I’d like to see him, if not he’s going riding w the guys, he buys me surprise gifts
If a person tells you who they are, believe them. My husband does not like getting into my drama(he had enough of it growing up), never did save me as anything cute in his phone, but he wanted a ring on it ASAP. You need to know what you really want. Do you want a committed relationship or do you want your guy with his lack of commitment who will probably kick you to the curb when he finds “the one”? What do you really want? If you want him and he doesn’t want to commit then he probably sees you as a place holder until his ideal woman comes around. Don’t let yourself be that place holder. You need to choose a man who chooses you. I would friendzone him, since that is what he has done with you, and start looking for a guy who will commit to you.
If he doesn’t want you to be his girlfriend, leave. He wants you but he wants to keep his options open! I lived that painful life until I got sick of it and left.
Nice haircut!!!! Looking good!!😉😉😀😆🙏💗🌈💐🌹😍😘💖🙃
I’ve experienced signs 1, 2, 3, 6, 7 and 8. But then he confuses me by continuously checking in while he’s out of town visiting with family when prior I have told him that he could take his time being out there with them and we could talk once he got back home, or how he’ll go out of his way to wake me up in the mornings and acts proud that he woke me up. Yet we say we’re just friends. I’m not sure
1) your definitions of just friends coulld be different.
2) Guys dont declare as soon as they progress, they delay.
3) He could WANT but might get a different vibe so he waits
Hi Mat, you know we aren’t youngsters any more and I’m learning a lot from listening to you, thank you.
We are seeing each other tomorrow so really looking forward to a big hug or 2 😂.
Best wishes Cathy from Sussex Uk
Thank you for sharing this video. I am experiencing these things in my relationship.
He’s become increasingly worried about my leaving my bedroom window open a crack, even though I’ve told him that I have a stick placed in there to prevent somebody from fully opening it. He said last night, “There are a lot of creeps out there.” I like the fact that he’s being protective of me.❤
17:10 My boyfriend had me as the same ringtone as his other girlfriend and I’ll never forget the look of horror on his face when she called while we were together. 🥺☃️
Idk why i’m even watching this, my crush (who i confessed to) doesn’t even know if he likes me for sure or not (lore but he’s not a bad guy guys) 😭