How to Tell If a Narcissist’s Love Is Actually Manipulation
When someone comes on strong with affection, attention, and promises of a future together, it can feel like you've finally found the love you've been looking for. But how can you tell the difference between genuine affection and something more manipulative? In this video, we'll explore the warning signs that intense love may not be quite what it seems.
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Love bombing is often immediately followed by cold emotions and devaluation for no reason. This leaves many in shock and make them addicted to seek validation from narcissists thinking that they could get back to the time where they were valued and loved. In reality, they never loved you, it was a manipulation tactic or at max, conditional love!
this !!! 🎯 and the feeling of devaluation into the abyss and the conditions make feel dirty somehow
Nailed it. But they never made me feel special. Jealousy wouldn’t allow them to make me feel special. I know when someone is love bombing me now. Learned it the hard way. My sister doesn’t realize that I know when she is gratuitously complimenting me etc.
Spot on as always! You are a lifesaver!❤
*genuine interest:* they want to be in your life FOR you
*love bombing:* they want to be in your life to CONTROL you
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Yea but u dont get this message soon, u understand it too late when u are already hooked. Besides that they teach us actions show love, words dont, so u are with this narcissist doing all kind of things for you, with you, giving u everything so u cant doubt his love, u get confused when they start showing their true face, i think we need to see the red flags, when they become controlling and abusive… this duality is so difficult to accept, u justify his bad actions because of the good ones.
This is spot on it’s creepy. My son is completely isolated, she is not anything she pretended to be. One yr after marriage he has gotten rid of our entire family.. she has convinced him we are abusive. It’s heartbreaking. He is not even himself and can’t see it.
It’s never love. You’re welcome.
It’s coordinated. Push/pull. Hot/cold. You never really know where you stand with them. You may even feel worse after an interaction with them. Because it’s just dopamine. There’s no oxytocin because it isn’t a real connection.
Gosh i love u…❤
Love bombing combined with mirroring is how normal, smart people get hooked into the relationship. It’s so hard to see in the beginning, and it really feels good
Love bombing might be gone but it comes back. Its just part of the cycle. She bought me gifts before I even met her. Love bombing hard out of the gate.
Day 20 she flipped the day after sex. I was getting ready to drop her that day it was so bad. I did not know what I was facing. She could cycle through it all in less than 1 hour. Up to 100 texts per day
My mom gaslights me daily. Major narcissist at 91 years old. Not much I can do but avoid and ignore her.
Every bit of this.. probably why I never fully invested in a relationship… my days of romance and movies. BUT, when that real friend comes along. That moment clicked. It wasnt he loves me. I was floored how well he knew me and he cared ! He really cared! That was a game changer and possibly too much of an eye opener? 70 years old and one in a lifetime.
My Narc Ex once discarded me when I didn’t reply to a Text Message he sent me while I was asleep in Bed!! 😱🍒
OMG what’s with the 5-8 minute commercial with no skip option? Can’t wait forever for the actual video.
Getting acknowledgment from the leader of the cult [opportunistic demagogue] is the ultimate solidifying love bomb.
“He smiled at me!”
They keep you confused on purpose.
SO timely thank you, Dr Ramani. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
A healthy relationship shouldn’t leave you constantly doubting your worth. Love is supposed to make room for honest conversations, disagreements, and mutual respect. Losing my marriage taught me that lesson, and even now, I wish my ex-husband and I could have one more opportunity to do things differently.
Letting go of someone you truly love is never easy. I experienced this first hand when my 8-year marriage fell apart. I wasn’t ready to lose him, so I tried everything I could to rebuild our relationship. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counselor for guidance, and with his help, I was able to reconnect with my husband and get our marriage back on track.
Wow, how can I get in touch with your spiritual counselor? I’d really like to learn more about the guidance he offers.
Haven’t you heard of him? His name is Father Obah Eze. He specializes in helping people reconcile and restore broken relationships and marriages.
I’ll look up Father Obah Eze and see what he’s all about. Thanks for sharing his information with me!
I found out he was calling me the backup plan to his friends while I was planning our future together. Then I discovered Make Him Your Pet by Mia Ema Lopez, and reading it was like learning the psychological warfare tactics I should have been using all along. I stopped being his safety net and became his obsession – now hes the one afraid Ill find someone better.
we were 16. i didnt stand a chance. 4 years and 4 kids. out now, happy, free, nvr looked back but u help me validate me.