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Best advice you give , like sacred circle everyone should have there version of it
just a helpful clue that i am learning .Stop . listen . Take Action .
@@rosemariebutler5662 a iv guy
Enjoy listening to your comments. I’m 70s Senior Citizen. Been a widow for 20 yrs. I’m so ready for a relationship. Your comments are so right on for today’s couples. I do hope to find a man that is ready for a nice relationship with me. Most men I know that are single like to spend time with different ladies. I a little afraid of STDs. I’m pretty much independent.
I love Jonathan that you speak the ugly truth lol
When it comes to relationships, it comes down to either you trust him or you don’t.
Most of the guys I talk to can’t even tell me what they’re passionate about. I use that as a good question to see if his life has MEANING. It’s sad to talk to so many people who are drifting at this point in life. Really sad.
Yes I agree. I asked my ex before… What’s your goals in life? What do you want to do in life? I dunno. He was 52 and that’s his answer. He’s nowhere. Bye.
If my spouse or lover got sick I would care for them. That’s who I am. When I make a commitment, I give everything, and I dont give up when things get tough…
As there are so many circumstances, it’s not worth fighting for when a person you have been with doesn’t fully make themselves available cause they can’t face their own reality or be made accountable for their own actions to start a new relationship. It sickens me when a person goes back to their unfinished business, leaving me out in the cold with not ending a situation in the way to be an adult. Games have been played out for me to learn more about their intentions. This person tried to play one person for the other in order to get what they wanted. Not a fair play, but it left me to walk away from this player energy. It’s important to heal and know when the time is right when you truely know self, get back on track and restore your selfworth
Been there done that. Ain’t no good come from that, sorry cause in reality most don’t change. And we are not God we r not supposed to kill our selves over trying to save another. Then what they leave us or go back to their ways. My personal experience it never worked. And if that person loved you they would walk away. So you wouldn’t have to suffer with them. Love is unselfish . I set someone free cause wasn’t happy so I told him if I truly love you and want you to be happy. So I’ll step aside and mabey someone can make you happy. Cause I am not . So I love you enough to let go
@@Satillite1111 Sorry this happens, it’s happening to alot of people as we speak. I too experience it more than once. But we must rise above it and know our worth. It may hurt but the best thing they did was leave. As painful as it seems. Cause we realized how much they were not good enough for us. Adult would formerly break up not throw you to the wolves. But our true closer is within us. Once we start are healing I mean really . Doing the steps to break down the realtionship. We start seeing unhealthy patterns and unhealed trauma still not healed. We see why we allow such toxic people around us. Change behaviors social gathering and even places you work career choices ect. It effects a lot of broken people looking for your senses to become weak and they pounce. Sending lots of support for healing and love to surround you again…
@@samkringle3456 I was elaborating on if my partner was sick. However if theyre not and I’m unhappy, I let them know straight off, and move on. I dont hold any punches.
@@lizzierose007 The problem is people lie sometimes and just drag the realtionship on. For their own selfish needs need a place to stay ect. It’s sad i really wish every a healthy and happy life . And Sending you positive vibes and love
I love how Jonathan is so different to all other coaches. That sit back in your feminine energy, never initiate contact, only reply late is such bullshit. What is feminine energy anyways? So good that you put this to a different direction. Just be yourself and stick to that. Relationships and Dating should be easy and not hard work leading to dead ends.
I have learned to call guys out in the nice way .
Blubb Yes, I also wonder what is meant by “feminine energy?”
Some men present with feminine energy. That makes the men more of a “gal pal” rather than available for a relationship. Confusing to the woman.
It’s not that, when you meet a Narcissist. It takes awhile to heal thoes wounds. When he lied from the Jump 🤔 THEY MURDER OUR SOULS. THOES SCARS ARE DEEP TO VERY CORE OF ARE BEING. SOME PYSCHOPATH SMH… TIME MENDS THOES WOUNDS BUT IT NEVER GOES AWAY…
I agree . A narcissist can destroy you. See that guy in photo with me. He’s a narcissist. Still recovering after 3 years . Can’t even get rid of this picture
Yes it’s took me from 18,and I’m now 64…and I still don’t trust men.😒
Yep I’m 6 months out from a three-year relationship with a narcissist and I understand it cuts deep not like any other thing or relationship I’ve ever been in
@@suzy64 ♥️
Amen!
Jonathan I have found, unless men are stable with their job and finances they are not happy with themself enough to create a happy relationship.
This correlates with what Dr. John Gray says (author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus).
This also matches my experience.
This is 10000% true!
An add on to that… that isn’t a guarantee. I’ve known some women who let that be their end point, that the guy has a stable job and finances & ignore the emotional maturity/availability. My ex is a doctor who is very frugal, wise with money, but cannot show up for a relationship whatsoever. He was diagnosed with Aspergers after our first child was born and it was exceedingly difficult. So lonely, so controlling with money, so non-supportive…not because he’s horrible, but because of complete relational/social/emotional deficits. Does not know how to compromise, communicate, collaborate, cooperate, in the way needed for healthy relating, teamwork.
That must be very difficult if you didn’t know before marriage
Interrogation of men in order to vet them is absolutely ESSENTIAL! It’s life changing. I highly recommend it.
You can’t just “play” hard to get… You actually have to naturally BE hard to get. Personally, I loved “The Rules“ because when I read it, I realized I have always done all of it very naturally…. And when it’s very natural, it always works! You have to have your own interests, your own life, and a sense of self possession and self-assuredness that is naturally magnetizing.
Also… No living together until he puts a ring on it!! NEVER uproot your life for someone who isn’t sure he wants to be your husband.
You’re correct! The Rules do work … Jonathan doesn’t like the game playing .
it’s not PC so it’s not talked about now
Played hard to get works for me well. Happily married for 27 years.
I think Jonathan just moved in with his GF. Unmarried. 😂
IF you want marriage, I want a committed life partner, not marriage. So I will live with my life partner, but we will have that agreement beforehand 😊
Being hard to get is different from playing a game.
Amen! The answer about men (or women) being ready. That 80% of men have serious issues. I’m finding men (and women) to be very unhealthy. I take time getting to know men I date. It’s amazing what comes out over time. I’m so grateful it’s BEFORE intimacy. I’m value myself and will not commit to unhealthy men.
7:35 No having standards.
9:30 women give their power away.
9:50 the relationship is in his terms.
12:28 you afraid to speak your truth.
14:12 you waiting for him to initiate contact.
15:51 you stop doing you pre-relationship life.
16:23 You feel you cant live without him.
17:55 you think this is the only person in the universe that can make you feel this “chemistry”
Thank you for summarising
Thank you 🙂 very helpfull.
Very valuable advice. Thank you very much 🙏
I give away mine and now am a living disaster.
Thank u so much !
Jonathon, I have been following you for over a year, and I can see and say that you are on the journey to being truly healed. The way you talked about your sons, wow! You used to have a hard time taking about Connor, and this time was different. You glowed as you talked about him and I could even feel that energy. How beautiful! You’re an inspiration! Thank you for everything you do! Your work is phenomenal. ♥️💜🙏
Well written, Elizabeth. I noticed as well. 😘
All the points included in the video are valid, and I will add one more: if a guy will not commit, dump him at once. It’s one thing to date casually different people, and it’s another to date the same person and spend a lot of time with them and invest yourself in the relationship and go nowhere. Give it 3 months. By then, you will have a pretty good idea about what your next step should be. Do not put a man on a pedestal, do not put a man above you. You are not an option. You are the prize. If he can’t see that, another guy will. Just make sure you work on yourself and are a quality lady.
I’m not an option….I’m the prize. Thank you! I really needed to hear this today.
OMG, I love your comment!
You are soooo right..
Thank you for this reminder !!!!
Happened to me. I am soooo sorry for all the time and effort spent for nothing😪
@@carcarci Same for me 😪
A nurse & a purse means something different to women than what you described; meeting a man who’s ALREADY broke and/or broken down right out the gate & expects a woman to take care of his broken down self isn’t a healthy commitment – it’s a sentence!
Growing old with a man who becomes infirmed is a commitment – being a nurse to a broken down man for a healthy woman is crazy. They’ve abused their youth, now they’re looking for a safety net… NO!
If he wants to grow old with the woman, he has to still be able to take walks outdoors.
That’s what I just commented! Too many users out there!
I love listening to you Jonathan.
How to speak from your HEART: Speak while hugging or facing him while holding both his hands. Your words will soften, your compassion will be ‘activated’, and your needs and expectations will be communicated in a positive light.
“If it’s sincere and from the heart, you can’t screw it up… you can’t say the wrong thing to the right guy.” This is my new dating mantra. I used to think I screwed it up by doing this. Now I feel affirmed that it’s the right thing to do. Timing it right is the next question.
He’s an only child, and I asked him if he tells everything to his mother, he said, “almost everything “. And I told that’s a huge privacy concern, I told him that I don’t even know if he’s looking for a life partner because he already partnered up with his mother instead.
Jonathan so touching to hear you talk about your boys. My sister was killed in a car accident at 17. I know the pain and to appreciate each moment because you may not have another chance. We are all expendable at any time. We are in the school of life. Live it at your best. Don’t sweat the small things. Nothing stays the same. The world is constantly turning.
Really enjoyed this, wish I had found you earlier. Love your honesty and you don’t sugarcoat it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and advice. 🙏💗👏
I’m so sorry. I lost my sister too. It’s devastating.😢
The most powerful truth you shared was “stop being attached to the outcome with someone“. Thanks, Jonathan for sharing your heart🤗.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I think the “narcissists” are the ones who rush into relationships immediately after a divorce. They have to find their next “supply”. I’ve lived it after just recently divorcing my ex-husband, and now he and his girlfriend are both wearing wedding rings without even being married. We are both 47 years of age. I cant help to feel bad for his girlfriend/fiance for her future.