5 TELLTALE SIGNS someone is in a narcissistic relationship
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They may be afraid to speak out. They may not tell you what is happening to them. But you will see the signs. They will seem unusually stressed, paranoid, exhausted, isolated, depleted of their finances. But they may also seem peaceful and optimistic. So their attitude and personality won’t seem to match their situation. It will seem incongruent. As though they’re being affected by external forces. Because they are being abused by a predator. They’re a victim of narcissistic abuse.
Did you even watch the video? You respond to the title like you already heard what Dr Ramani said. I see you comment minutes after posting talking on the subject like you’re an expert :/
@ I wasn’t even the first commenter. But yes I am a narcissist expert. I have been studying this disorder for 7 years.
@@NarcSurvivori never mentioned being the first commenter, i mentioned talking on the subject without listening to Dr Ramani. Are you a diagnosed narcissist yourself? That is the only logical reasoning behind your behavior
@@mooop348 Maybe looking in the mirror may help you more than I can with my words.
@@NarcSurvivor I don’t see how looking in the mirror correlates with questioning why you believe you’re more than an expert on this than Dr Ramani. To believe you’re an expert in this subject enough to share your insight before listening to hers. I think you might’ve suggested looking in the mirror because it’s something you do quite a lot 🙂
This country needs your voice of reason and sanity more than ever. Thank you for helping us survivors be more informed, prepared and skillful as we work to protect ourselves in a world rife with narcissists. It would be wonderful if you could make some additional videos specifically addressing narcissistic systems (including family systems, governments, and important figureheads).
They don’t care.
Or you could just grow up Karen.
I agree 100%. I’d pay for a private channel that talks about narcissism in govt especially. Many of these narcissists like Dump and Cancun Cruz are making laws that hurt innocent people.
Flying monkeys will flock through the skies in endless droves.
In the meantime…. Reuse recycle https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dmnJnVePyn8…. Go to the end. Very brief.
A lot of times, being in a narcissist relationship means struggling in silence. If someone has never experienced that type of relationship, they just can’t understand what it’s like.
Totally agree and coming from a man, it’s absolute hell. I can’t fathom how a woman can be so cruel and sinister. It just doesn’t compute in my brain.
When you know deep down inside you should end it and can’t understand why you’re staying. When in doubt, throw it out.
❤ perfect sign!
When there’s doubt, there’s no doubt.
THANK YOU for pointing out the energy equation. It is so true.
All my answers to “What do you like about them?” would largely be in the past, something I once thought was true, but has shown itself to be either false, or so seldom that it hurts after it is there and then gone again, like laughing together.
“What do you like about them?” wow, while i was asked this question about few ppl i had in my mind, my brain was stuck coming up with some good answers. excellent question to ask.
I did go into my new therapist saying my mom is a narcissistic b!tch. But you, Dr Ramani, are the one to help me with this realization. You also helped me to realize that my actions were normal, maybe not the best, but normal. A previous therapist did try to diagnosis me with BPD but I just couldn’t see myself in the criteria. My new therapist agreed. It is CPTSD not BPD. We are slowly working through your Core worksheets while implementing EMDR and other modalities. At 52, I am finally finding myself. Thank you!❤
“I’m out with lanterns, looking for myself.” – Emily Dickinson
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I hate how much I can relate to this. I have been blaming myself for so long and so sad and devastating to know that he is not going to change. Nothing I do will change and he won’t understand or care
“I’m out with lanterns, looking for myself.” – Emily Dickinson
Never heard that before, thank you.
1) Self blame. … 2) Self gaslight. … 3) What do you like about the narcissist? You don’t have an answer. … 4) You have to say white lies to people so you don’t have to explain. … 5) You often feel guilty, for the “wrong” things you didn’t do, and no matter what you do or don’t do, say or don’t say, you are “wrong with shame”. … Thank you for your good work Doctor Ramani, I will also add: … 6) Your body is in constant survival mode, at their presence or if you have to talk to them, you plan ahead what to say and what not to say and practice in your head before you dare to speak knowing very well they will interrupt and demean and twist and lie, your heart rate double and triple, your hands sweat, your armpits sweat, you clench your hands, you clench your teeth, your head ache and your temples ache in painful throbbing, pay attention to your body!!! … 7) Self doubt!!! You still self doubt even after you are well educated about narcissism and psychopathy, you think that your self doubt is gone while the voices of the narcissist and their enablers are deep seeded, be aware. … 8) An extreme people pleaser, self reckless, and self sacrifice.
I’m not sure I belong to this channel because I am not nor have ever been in a narcissistic relationship, so that question isn’t exactly for me. Honestly, I don’t go out much, so that’s why I have never dated anyone. I just want to be able to identify narcissists. I’m not subscribed to many channels, I just came across this one and don’t want let go, hehe. My impostor syndrome is like, everytime, “What the heck am I doing here? I don’t fit in here! This is for people who really experience it!” But yeah, this has grown on me, so thank you very much for the work you do, Doctor Ramani!
I feel a little bit of this narcissistic thing around me, but I don’t want to admit it. The people around me who I think might be “narky” (I avoid using terms I’m not familiar with) are always mentioning hell, the devil, so… 😮 The way I see it, if they were close to God, they wouldn’t say it, that’s the way I see it, I have much faith, don’t know about you guys. God forgive me if I said anything I shouldn’t. It is so unpleasant to hear them say those things. 😢 When you are close to God, you might have some “narky” people in your life just to test you, the Devil sends them, I think. Unfortunately.
What do you like about this person…….my therapist asked me to write what I liked about my ex and at first, I thought, that would be easy. But I realized I couldn’t do it because everything I liked was a lie, smoke and mirrors. I was with an empty shell who would put on a mask, or slip into a character. And that is a punch to the gut, realizing the person you loved didn’t actually exist.
Dr Ramani, I just love your role plays, they really make me chuckle because they’re just so good and spot on! Much appreciated. ❤
It’s like we can’t move forward without taking a leap back. Freedom is fleeting in a narcissistic world.
People who are living with and being affected by a narcissist speak a different language. I am fluent in that language. I can feel it and pick it up
Didn’t want to see it for years, though every time I read about narcissistic relationships I would see myself. I’m finally coming around to radical acceptance. The grief and guilt is unbearable. Nobody in their right mind WANTS to be connected to a narcissist. I’ve done everything in my power to explain it away and I just can’t anymore.
Not much after awhile just held on to memories of when I first met him.then realized he will never change his verbal abuse.and I then realized it was hope he would change and that’s never gonna happen.
I wish I was in your area as I can honestly say my husband was diagnosed with NPD in 2019. I had no clue. I didn’t know the impact until someone sent me one of your videos almost 2 years ago. Now I understand but that trauma bond is very strong. Sigh. Efforts to find a counselor versed in narcissism have been fruitless (although I haven’t searched recently). His counselor who made the diagnosis put all the blame on our suffering on us as if we just did THIS or THAT, it would be better for us. So, gray rocking and radical acceptance has been my path to sanity. But my first words would be, “My husband is a narcissist.” 😂
Thank you, Dr. Ramani, for your wisdom
At the beginning of meeting them you gave no idea how things will unfold or how it will affect you. What you take to be normal fall-outs in a relationship are actually calculated tactics on rhe Narcissists side. It’s only when you’re in so deep that something happens where it’s telling us something isn’t right a d we start to question and fight back and learn about Narcissm. That’s when the real battle begins. 🍒