7 Things “Nice Guys” Say That Turn Women Off
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Lowkey Courtney us guys all want is a woman who won’t embarrass us in front of our family.😮
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I’ve learned at a pretty early age that I’m not for everyone. I’d even had people tell me that I’m so nice and they can’t believe I’m still single. Of course I knew deep down that being nice isn’t enough, and you definitely don’t want to take being nice too far.
There’s no such thing as taking being “nice too far”
The world would be a better place if people a lot nicer to each other.
@@OneFreeMan17 Well there’s being nice, and then there’s being a doormat. The latter is definitely what you don’t want to do.
@@PRdude Victim blaming.
@@OneFreeMan17 Lol okay buddy. So let a homeless man move into your house, eat your food, and do illegal substances in your house around your kids. That is nice to give him a safe environment, food in his belly, but it took things way to far.
Depends on when you do it. Never do it in your 20s, only when women start losing their shine. Then fake it. Get in and get out.
Overall:
1. If you think you deserve something because you’re nice is entitlement – Don’t. Be yourself, be kind remove the sense of entitlement and live.
2. Don’t be a constant yes man. Communication is clear, don’t be combative/argumentative.
3. Don’t overload on the excessive compliments – example 5:49 – 6:00. Be yourself, be kind and of course give compliments that are genuine like the looking good in with their hair, clothing, etc. Find balance
4. Over-apologising – example: 7:32 to 7:40 apparently gives a sense of insecurity of being unsure, etc. helpful tips 8:45 on wards
5. Putting yourself beneath her – Easy fix personally, you’re human, everyone is human, we are flawed beings its how we are. Own it and understand that there will be people who deem themselves better out of ego never give them that satisfaction. of course listen to Courtney’s advise as well treat each other as equals.
6. Overtexting/overinvesting too soon – with a new relationship go with cruising speed, don’t spam texts/calls let things evolve naturally, live your own lives as well and be respectful as we are all busy.
7. Claiming you’re not like other guys – kinda relates to the first point. it focuses more on the past relationship than the present relationship. Have your actions represent who are you as a person. Be YOU.
8. Be a Good Man your actions and words should be the same don’t give yourself a title – like nice guy, alpha, etc. A Knight doesn’t call himself a knight others do due to that persons mastery of ones self.
You are welcome. (I did add my own input and definitely watch the video as i just did a generalised version)
Thank you
I don’t think that guys who are complaining that women date jerks feel any more entitled to a relationship than a jerk does. They simply are frustrated. Frustrated that women go for qualities they don’t have
It’s perfectly okay to feel that frustration. And it can be dealt with in a number of ways including walking away or just becoming a jerk too. But what is the key point is that you don’t show to a woman that you feel that frustration. Women don’t want honesty. They want strength and confidence.
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Being a doormat, you’re also shielding yourself from any potential red flags.
When I disagreed with my ex on a political opinion, she completely shut down on me, refused to hear my viewpoint and gave me the silent treatment for a whole day.
When I called my ex out on her being rude to a waiter, she dug deep into the past and randomly threw the fact that I had counselling when I was 15 in my face.
Anyway, be assertive.. it’ll save you so much hassle in the long run.
Women go level after level. Once you see, you can not unsee and learn to defuse (stay stoic) at the entry point. After that phase there is usually great opportunity for intimacy
Agreed! Goes for both men and women!
A generally nice person never expect anything in return
And what does that do for you?
Women have been conditioned to label any genuinely nice person has an ulterior motive of expecting sex. There’s no such thing as being a genuinely nice person when it comes to dating in women’s minds
The first point hit pretty close to home, i used to think like this, and i also used to know women who acted like this, but they’d turn on a dime as soon as they didn’t get their way, so i tried to gain some self confidence, and assert more control over my own life, before trying to be as someone else’s.
I stopped the video at 2:12. Much of what you said is true, and I have to disagree on just as much of it. Kindness at the baseline is certainly good. That said, any person has a reasonable expectation of being well met. Dismissing this as transactional is an excuse for takers to justify selfishness and lack of self discipline. How is there to be balance and an avoidance of future resentment without reciprocity?
“You’re so nice.” Often isn’t a compliment. What they really want to say is that you are not attractive, you’re not interesting and something about you feels “off”
As a former nice guy, I’m of the mind that it doesn’t need to be a complement. It’s a neutral way of communicating a boundary. While I never acted out on it, more than once my human rug, willing to do anything for her thoughts and feelings, quickly turned to bitterness when rejected. While I personally used it as feedback to grow, many women have experienced things turning incredibly ugly.
Often, women will not know the difference in Nice and Kind in the dating context. They are synonyms for each other, just like Chase and Pursue. Don’t be the guy she views as supplicant. Often, if she says “You’re so nice”, there will be…”the way you helped the waitress to clean the spill” or ‘the way you treated that homeless man with respect” (good). VS “the way treat me like a queen” (bad).
Alexander grace, a pick-up artist, finally realized that women need to be held responsible for the way they treat men and that the game is whack.
It’s like when guys describe a girl as having a “great personality”. It’s the exact same thing
I wouldn’t read that much into it. You may not be attractive to some particular people but being nice or kind is not inhrently a bad thing.
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I don’t have the attitude that I deserve something just because I’m nice. That’s not how the world works.
But it is definitely frustrating as a man to hear from girls that they’ve never been treated so kindly in a relationship just to leave you eventually and continue to date assholes. I think there are some girls out there for sure that don’t know how to deal with being treated with respect and kindness.
Another thing that I’ve seen a lot with nice guys is that they continue to pursue a woman, long after they were rejected, misinterpreting politeness as interest, instead of moving on.
YES!
Important things: 1:02 First Thing ÷ Acting Entitled Because You’re “Nice”; 2:08 Second Thing ÷ Agreeing With Everything That She Says; 5:31 Third Thing ÷ Overloading Her With Compliments; 7.24 Fourth Thing ÷ Over-Apologizing; 9:24 Fifth Thing ÷ Putting Yourself Beneath Her; 11:08 Sixth Thing ÷ Overtexting Or Overinvesting Too Soon; 12:19 Seventh Thing ÷ Claiming That You’re Not Like Other Guys; and 14:47 to summarize all the told here.
The additional things to all told here are these things: Eighth Thing ÷ Lack Of Boundaries Or Showing No Boundaries At All; Ninth Thing ÷ Talking Too Much About The Ex People; Tenth Thing ÷ Don’t Knowing To Say Word NO When It’s Needed (partly can be used at the second thing what you have told there Courtney); Eleventh Thing ÷ Joking Too Much Whole Time, And Not Being Serious (or better told not having balance when being serious, or when to be relaxed).
What you have told here, it can also be used not just by men, but also by women as well, and also to be used in every life situations (for example talking with new people, doing a job interview, etc).
I think that the thing such as “Nice Guy” I wouldn’t call it that. I would rather call it a people pleaser or a person with no dignity at all. I also agree that it’s not to be too nice person (either we talk about men, or women). Cause the too nice persons do attend to be that way so they can achieve their interest in some things and some life segments. But this is a very different topic that we can make a discussion about it.
All in all, you have to be a Normal Person (either is a man or is a woman), cause being a Normal Person shows the following things: understanding, trust, support, respect, dignity and acceptance. These six thing are very important in whole life generally.
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It’s very sad that a video like this is needed. It’s about people who don’t have no idea how to be themselves without being afraid. Thanks for making a good thing.
No, no, no, the ultimate goal is not ‘being confident’. Confidence is the most overrated feature in people. A lot of confident people are confident for all the wrong reasons. Lack of knowledge and/or self-knowledge is a big one. The ultimate goal is being a good person.
People pleaser are beyond frustrating, sometimes you don’t have a strong opinion, but never having one seems fake, it’s okay to say what you want
I remember mentioning to my crush that her skin looks clearer. Her face LIT up as she mentioned how she’s been trying to focus on skincare more so you’re right in the specifics compliment part 😊
Thanks for being here and for the kind comment! I would prefer if we have private discu-ssion
I made the “I don’t want to be like your ex” mistake. After I said it, she told me, “I don’t care about that, I want you to be you.” We are no longer together, but I always remember that.
Not only does that tip her off to the fact that you’re a nice guy, which we all know women don’t like, it also implies that you’re stupid and don’t know any better because when they disparage their exes they’re almost always just lying to make themselves look good.
Thanks for being here and for the kind comment! I would prefer if we have private discu-ssion
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I would get nervous if my date complained about her ex because I have my faults too.
I wish I would have heard the things in this video during my Teenage and 20’s ages. I mistaked being way too nice as being the perfect gentleman. Boy, was I wrong, and friend zoned alot.
Thanks for being here and for the kind comment! I would prefer if we have private discu-ssion
I don’t think anybody should be entitled from anything from another person (save for maybe basic human decency), and “nice guys” (genuinely nice or transactionally nice) shouldn’t be entitled to a girl’s feelings. However, I do think it is more of a statement of truth to say that girls prefer men/boys who create more romantic or dramatic friction; are high in back-bone/self-respect and pride; and are either good risk-takers or incredibly reckless – than to men/boys who are overall agreeable, genuinely loving, kind, polite, giving, selfless, pursuant, etc.
Again, those traits aren’t to be confused with transactional/fake “niceness”. But it’s a sad story when so many girls prefer to choose the guy who can give some quasi-experience of being in a romance novel who’ll more than likely screw her over in the end than the guy (someone who is a TRUE friend) who has the genuine qualifiers of a good, sustainable, long-lasting marriage, simply for the fact that those traits are too “boring”, “predictable”, and not like a romance novel.
In other words, if a relationship is like a house, the foundations of a house can be built on that “romantic flame”. But wanna know what happens with flames? They either burn out or burn the whole house down. The relationship’s spark dies or it becomes utter ash and ruin. But if the foundations of a house are built on stone – the strength, dependability, and solid foundation of a true friendship – then a house can stand. And then, once the house is built, there is room to create a safe fireplace, where that romantic spark never has to die, can always be refueled, and will sustain warmth for the two. But what’s sad is that the girl will almost always choose the flame that dies out than the stone that lasts forever. And though there is no entitlement for the girl to choose otherwise, I think that is a legitimate reason to grieve – and I think men have the right to complain that the genuinely good guy (“the stone” – who has no entitlement) still loses to “the bad boy” (“the flame”).
Nowadays, when women call me a nice guy, I get turn off and get kind of offended by them, because the way things are for a nice guy, those women basically called me a loser.