How narcissists make YOUR CHRONIC ILLNESS worse
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Headaches, stomach aches, panic attacks, asthma, etc
Sounds similar to mast cell activation syndrome. H1 and H2 blockers are OTC and help so much!
Absolutely. I was In hospital 2 weeks from stress and infections. Horrible.
Now hes gone. HEALTHY!!!
May you now begin your long road to recovery! Now it’s time for all about you!
I’ve had 15 back surgeries – my narc mother made my life a living hell throughout. I could not understand why my chronic pain made her so angry – this makes sense.
We’re always highly anxious and in tense state walking on eggshells eventually leading us to chronic illness
I truly believe my ME is from my family of origin and my ex.
Yes exactly. Self perpetuating cycle.
The only chronic problem I have is hypertension. I’m sure when I finally leave this relationship my hypertension will magically resolve.
Exactly 😢
It’s is already tough when you’re feeling sick, but it’s even worse when you have people dismiss your pain and gaslight you saying that “it’s all in your head.” They’ll even call you lazy. They make it very difficult for you to recover and they’re the real disease.
No get help
General guidelines
Gaslighting: bad.
Constructive criticism or emotional support (with mutually understood humour): good.
Empathy: human.
Yep, and you’ll often find when something like that happens to them, they want sympathy.
Exactly.
You can respond it is in my head. It’s my brain in protection mode.
When you stay in a toxic, emotionally abusive environment and your health is not at its best….Your health will deteriorate rapidly…Period!
I walked away and went No Contact in spite of the hoovering, pull and push backs…I quietly walked away and stayed away…I was above 115kg Obese, after 8 mths, I began to find myself again ..my health improved vastly and I am now at 85kg without doing much but walking and being stress free. So stay away for your own well being. You’re a God sent.❤❤❤🤗 Thank you for saving me Dr Ramani.
@@simplyyyfab_u_lous_3266 Yes, Dr. Ramani is a God-sent. Praying for all people in abusive relationships and situations that are hindered and sickly, because of a narcissistic a**hole in their lives. Answer #1; get away from them, pray, plan, and prepare for the best way to do it, especially, if you have small children that depend on you 🛟
I am so glad for you! You need your body and mind to begin your full self journey. The anxiety had pulled me so low. Exercise and finding happy people and things to do saved me. ❤🥰
@Alison-o9d That’s it, that’s great…I am very happy you found yourself again💞❤️🩹😀🤗..we keep moving forward✊🏾….I had to battle suicide, anxiety, binge eating, self loathing, self blame, getting stuck and hopelessness because of all I’ve endured and allowed time and time again…until I left✊🏾💪🏾😌… Asking for help and engaging with healthy supportive friends and healthy families plus listening to Dr.Ranani helped and saved me. I am here today because of all their help.
Also, thank you Dr. Ramani. And finding the right meds for life. You do you!
So true . The body doesn’t lie, as they say…
@@leilagomulka5690 as it says..
@ yes. My spiritual director shared this truth with me.
This is absolutely true that narcissistic abusers make us sicker. I’ve experienced this and am still experiencing it. When I get away from my abusers, I get almost %100 better. When they come back into my life, I get sicker. I can’t seem to fully escape them. Money is the key to escape. Financial deprivation keeps me trapped in this nightmarish cycle. Lack of high-quality financial opportunities keeps me trapped.
@@frankkazimir9173 so, who is in control?
The stress they put me through made it all much worse.
Exactly.
When I became ill with a chronic illness, My Narcissistic mother became more demanding for my time, became more vunerable and needy. She would try and trump any cause for concern that I had. I was making myself sicker by increasingly helping her. Her contempt of me escalated and I went no contact and I feel alot more at peace and I am able to manage my illness better.
Thank you for acknowledging this. I am in tears. I finally feel seen.
My relationship with my mother ended last year after I went into anaphylactic shock (never happened before) following a decade of chronic illness. My body was already exhausted before I ended up in the hospital and I essentially slept for 3 weeks afterward. I had brain fog so bad that I couldn’t communicate and relied on my fiance to handle just about everything. My mother knew how much pain I was in and that I was barely functioning, but me not being able to text her back apparently meant that I hated her and was trying to hurt her on purpose. Once I was somewhat recovered and finally able to communicate again, I reached out to her and everything fell apart. She froze me out and then pretended like I’d made up the hospital visit and accused me of trying to manipulate her. Every time I tried to explain what happened, she interrupted and moved the conversation in a different direction until I was completely lost and the extra stress was making my brain fuzzy again. I tried to bring the conversation back to the beginning and pointed out that my body was recovering from trauma, meaning the anaphylaxis and other things related to the chronic illness, and she got defensive and cut in, telling me to “get over it.” (I later realized she thought I meant her abuse from my childhood.) The dismissal hurt and I realized that I was never going to be able to get through to her. I walked away, which enraged her, and she ended up breaking into my house to hurl her favorite insults at me. I kicked her out of the house and haven’t spoken to her since and my health has done a 180. Pain went from a daily, consistent 7 to an occasional 2. It’s amazing how much constant stress wears us down…
Since age 20 (now 63) I get anaphylactic syndrome with no physical connection. Mast cell activation is one of my dx.
I have been experiencing a very similar thing ! I have been having anaphylactic episodes recently and and just exiting a nightmare family scenario not unlike yours. I have been making leaps and bounds in my health and haven’t had anything serious since my delusional parents are cut out!
Thank you so much for sharing your story, you are stronger than anyone realizes. The fact you have gone thru and can talk about and not become your mother is a miracle. Keep going you deserve all the happiness and love in this world. ❤
People only see the decisions you made, not the choice you had.
Sooo true! I know I’m my situation, people feel, “Oh no, Hun. You MADE THE DECISION to leave your family.” No, I chose to live. Staying with my family was certain death.
My husband wouldn’t call 911 for me while I was having a massive heart attack because he thought I was faking it. I couldn’t call because I didn’t have a phone ( for six years ).
I had a heart attack, and he wouldn’t call 911.
That’s when I woke up and realized he didn’t have my back.
I told him to leave 2 months after I recovered.
I have been no contact for 21 months
❤❤❤thank God for that
Oh my goodness!..thank God for that…never let him back, ever pls!…they suck the good life out of you❤❤❤️🩹🤗
You did good. My dad(82)is a narc&when my mom(75)was having a stroke, he wouldn’t take her to the hospital until he showered&shaved.
She ended up driving herself.
@sweetthang4970 omg…that’s terrifying to hear.
Love ❤️ and healing light ✨️ to you and your mom
Thank you for putting this out there. It’s something you don’t think anyone would do. Even a narcissist, you would think an emergency would shake some empathy into them.
This has been my experience. After ending an 8-year relationship with a narcissist, my Lupus went into remission and the things I was able to accomplish that I couldn’t before were outstanding. So many thanks to Dr. Wallace in LA for seeing the issue and telling me to change my life. 💛
Good for you!
Your body of work is truly brilliant. A genuine breakthrough. And the fact, you don’t victim blame sets you apart from the rest. I’ve learned so much from listening to your videos. Thanks for all your great work!
Even if you don’t “start” with a chronic illness, you WILL develop one (or several). Endure stress long enough and your body WILL shut down. Autoimmune conditions, chronic conditions (including Lyme Disease), cancer, organ failure. The sooner you leave, the better. I left four years ago (after 20+ years) and I’m finally getting my health back (to the extent it’s possible). It’s not too late to start repairing the damage. ❤
This!! Abuse causes damage to the vagus nerve.The vagus nerve affects everything in the body. When it gets damaged, everything can go with it.
@@christelleny yes, that’s why, although I’m on vacation, all of it which was to be spent cleaning out my deceased, narcissistic mother’s hoarder home, I can’t be there everyday. I feel it will be affect my physical and mental health. I need a vacation, without even dealing with this. But, to be there, seeing what she did, building a possible history in my mind, feeling the rage she probably felt because life didn’t go her way, the absolute filth in there, working in the cold. I know it gets worse before it gets better. But, for me, just goes to show that, whether she’s dead or alive, every year, every holiday season, is simply worse. Most would say to just sell, but, I’m also pushed into this, by the economy and needing to escape my rental apartment. So, her issues have been compounded, by what else is going on, including wondering if my former sister will come flying out of nowhere, with a weapon. Vacation. Enough to kill you.
Chronic pain and illness forced me into early retirement.
The narc said, “I want a partner not a dependent”.
Leaving the relationship lifted about 30 % of pain from my body. It is truly amazing how environment plays a factor with health.
Having lupus and working full time… he told me what a disappointment I was since I can’t go and do like I used to… knew at that moment that he just wants a mommy figure to take care of him, so he can do nothing
You just described my life…. My heart literally broke