Dr. Ramani’s fawn response
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Thank you for sharing your experience. I wish you a good recovery.
I have had the fawn response and felt frustrated in myself for that.
The best kind of therapist is the one who knows, experiences. Thank you!
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So sorry for your traumas! Can’t recommend enough Gavin de Becker’s “The Gift of Fear”. He is an expert on how to learn to trust your inner feelings and be safe. God bless you.
The “no” found its way through to the “know”. Love this. Thank you.
Remaining calm and emotionally neutral can help diffuse tension and prevent the arguments but we get drained from inside which leads to more trauma within.
So true👍😢
I agree with your comment. Along those same lines, I find that when a person of today’s world, who has endured the onslaught of abuse from one of these NPD sicko’s, may soon start noticing how pervasive this destructive personality style now is, and that can lead to even more avoidance of other people,then missing out on positive interpersonal experience with safe folks. Long story short, in my experience, this situation is plenty challenging. Thank God (and Dr. Ramani plus other wise psychotherapists broadcasting on YouTube) I have a MUCH MORE ATTUNED BS DETECTOR! 💜
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If only it did I did my very best the group practice got snarky I’m not the police chief .. that’s my dad’s cousins husband’s job
So very well said 💜
When your body says “No, no… hell no!” pay attention.
You are a guiding light. Thank you for sharing the painful lessons you endured in order to help others to avoid same. ❤
Finally at age 65 I’ve learned to step out of the nice person fawn response. It was always when someone sees me as a potential target for their narcissism initiates a relationship, love bombs and women can do it to women, as well as men do women, and then the crazy begins.Thanks to Dr. Ramani I was able to step out immediately and cut off the relationship before it got even crazier.
I hear you. Thank you for your testimony. And please, please take good care of yourself !
You’re not alone. Much love 💖
Dr. Ramani, My heart goes out to you. I understand so much about PTSD. I wish you more peaceful,blessed days ahead.
Thank you, Dr. Ramani. I will listen to this a few times. I hope you keep feeling better and better. Much love to you ! ❤
Appreciate
You having the courage
To share this
Hug 💓 So sorry.
The invalidating, minimizing, and disappearing after a trauma is very difficult. The gaslighting and toxic positivity too. Can be a lot of grief. Magnifies the lack of safety and etches the trauma in more deeply 💯 Finding out people don’t care after a trauma does add another layer to it too. I think connection is very important to survival and some sense of safety to hold onto… however limited. I felt it beforehand too. Went anyways. Holding onto that “no” more does seem important. First they put us in danger and then they leave us in danger is so true and upsetting. So sorry you’ve been suffering because of it. You’ve been in my thoughts. Hug.
I wish I could give you a hug and say I understand. I do absolutely understand. Take care of yourself. You are precious to us.
Yes, you are precious. And your community too.
I owe all these women (Dr Ramani, her former students now collaborators, all women contributing in the comments section and even Luna her cat) my sanity and being able to live life and go to work everyday.
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Thank you too!!
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I feel your pain. Thank you for your humanity. Your insights and wisdom have already helped me a lot. I hope you are being helped by others too.
Fawn response is the hardest to get over because to the extent that it has infiltrated your entire being and consciousness you somehow think that NOT having that response makes you disrespectful, bad, or in DANGER.
My changes recently have been excruciating. But WORTH it.
I am glad you are still with us. Please be safe and heal, the community loves you. You are worthy to say “no”. 🎉❤
I have been called selfish difficult and crazy for finally standing up for myself when I was being abused and harassed. Not subjugating to the narcs or the enablers, I know the truth. Focusing on my life. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
We love non-fawn Dr. Ramani. You help so many people and have overcome so much. You deserve to have boundaries that are respected. So if you have to be cold, be cold! We got sweaters 💖