Is the narcissist’s projection making you sick?
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Yes, I feel sick. Like something heavy in my stomach.
It really took a toll and I still feel exhaustion weathering through. I’m hopeful though. Determined!
Real friends lift me up, feel light, joy. Toxic antagonizers make a heavy heart, empty soul, extra work, misery.
Overwhelmed
Their projections tell me EXACTLY who they are and what they’re up to.
You can feel it, as it starts to sour.
Narcissists blame you for things that aren’t your fault and project their faults onto you which can stress you out so much it makes you feel even worse. All that pressure can mess with your health and make it harder to deal with being sick.
That is so true, I was always told I’m empty, I’m two faced, I’m hypocrite , I’m a cheater, Fake, no empathy, emotionally inferior, slutshamed, insecure etc etc when all these words applied on the person more than on me. But constantly telling me these hurtful words slowly started to make me question myself. Although I know that I’m a huge empath, huge giver, nurturing, caring … As Dr.Ramani says all my good parts were taken as though they are for him to use. Healthy people always made me feel happy, whole and always acknowledged my warmth. But i never got this acknowledgment from that CN person. The person demeaned my good characteristics as “fake” so often so that all these peoples opinions about me felt false to my mind .Always felt “not enough” always felt like I’m constantly trying , depressed, depleted and hollow. As she says I felt soulless.
The interactions are unproductive. It’s like whatever they say is BS. It’s overwhelming.
OMG its so the truth. I have everyone telling me I need to communicate with my childs mother, but its exactly as you say and its infuriating. Its like being in a crazy house where nothing makes sense.
Same here…
I was so drained I thought I had chronic fatigue syndrome (nope). Started bleeding in between my periods, which was ultimately diagnosed as stress – which he said was all my fault (but was in fact all down to dealing with him!) He told me incessantly that I was depressed, when actually I think he was the one who was depressed and projecting it all on me. It blows my mind just how deep the physiological impacts of these relationships can be.
I can totally relate to your situation. Mine is very similar. 😢
I hope you both were able to either leave these people and/or find yourselves and strengthen yourselves in the process@annjohnson8437
I had depression before them and it intensified, like he liked me being down. He would also tell me that if I can’t control my depression then he shouldn’t have to control his anger. I just felt so small and helpless. I kept thinking I was the problem. 🙁 Thankful to have others who understand <3
I was told I had M.E/CFS too. I also got an early menopause…now I realised all caused by stress of being in a marriage with a narcissist person x
They have to be large and in charge. Big me and little you is their end game.
The projections aren’t true, of course. It is Big me and Little you. Narcissists have some good acting skills.
As a child when I’d work with my Dad he’d scream and flip out over me turning a screw with a screwdriver. Naturally, I thought there was something wrong with me and that trade work was something that I was just not suited for. Years later, I ended up working as a crane operator at a scrap yard and when my dad came into to scrap I was up in the crane loading a truck and I shouted out the window, “hey dad check that out.” He just ignored me and walked to his truck and drove off. It wasn’t until my coworker said, “maybe he’s jealous” that it started to dawn on me that he’s can’t handle anyone succeeding on any level without becoming conscious of his emptiness and insecurity. It was a pivotal moment in realizing just how much I was manipulated growing up.
Let me say what he should have yelled for all to hear, “way to go, handling a crane is big serious business!” Proud of you and anyone who can operate those things and keep everyone on the ground safe. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
He was totally jealous. My mom’s jealous I’m a nurse. She could never do what I do. Ever
Sounds like my father and Mother.
Bless you tenfold 🙏
Sounds like my elder sister. Also, the drained or emptiness feeling i had after her talking to me. Note: “had” – past tence. I feel so free without that weight. So many thanks, Dr., for making things clear.
I’m so sorry! How sad to have a parent like this who is not in your corner cheering you on.
The answer is yes. Feeling sick, tired, and overwhelmed. It’s like a pile of rotten waste thrown on top of you; you can smell it and feel it, yet forced to carry it and keep walking.🙄
Yes! I use the description of being vomited on.
Healthy people I can be myself, narcissists it’s just the opposite. I’m refusing to take on their negativity. She’s trying to convert me into a dark hole.
That is an excellent description
This video got me to thinking about the class I took many years ago to be a lifeguard (I flunked because I wasn’t physically able to do it). The first rule they taught us was that you never go into the water to save someone unless you are sure that you will come out again. If you aren’t sure, you let them drown, because at least then there is only one person drowning instead of two. I think the same applies here: You can never fill up the narcissist’s emptiness, but they can drain you. With a healthy person, you can fill each other and save each other.
What a great analogy.
You SAID it. Amen.
Their projections make me feel completely flattened and numb
Me too. 😢
Everytime this woman uploads around a time where I’m experiencing confusion, it’s always confirmation for something I was tinkering on. It’s a bittersweet realization of who was actually for me and who wasn’t. (╯︵╰,)
Growing up with a narcissistic mother and her family when i got into healthy environments ,it felt like heaven. There was no chaos and hate.
This has to be serious family issues
We’re not EMPTY. We’ve been SIPHONED. With time (and narcissism education), we learn that our body is a barometer of truth that we should TRUST. It takes unimaginable abuse and grief to get there but once we’re “there”, there can be no going back. Trust that there’s another “you” waiting for you at the end of the road. She’s waiting for you to find her. Peace and strength to all. ❤
The road is endless, though. For me, at least.
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I went no contact with my narcissistic family 14 years ago but they are obsessed with getting into my life and making trouble. I so want to be free of them.
@@MwithieFor all of us. It’s a long recovery but I’m proof there’s a way out. 25 years in. 4 years out. Took me 3 years to recover enough to “make it”. Full recovery, when you’ve been raised by another Narc, is a life-long endeavor…
@@christelleny Yes. Thanks for taking the time to write to me. 🙂
My mom was in constant competition with me growing up. She was even the mean girl with a group of my so called friends and started a smear campaign with them against me. I used to love when she was not home. It felt like the calm before the storm of her return.
That’s really sad. I can completely understand. My mother too is narsistic and they compete with their daughters. I healed my CPTSD watching ” crappy childhood fairy ” videos. Hope you heal too!
Same.
I turn 40 this year and my mum turns 60. Only recently I discovered her jealousy and that she throws a tantrum whenever I am in the spotlight and she is not. She was great at lifelong playing a role and being dishonest toward me ( my uncle told me the truth some weeks ago). I never, ever saw that coming. She was great at manipulating me, playing the victim, portraying herself as a ( self proclaimed )”angel” person. She financially abused me far too long. I feel drained in her presence, like I am bleeding out. Fatigued.
I am free now😊 and the greatest revenge is this: living a happy joyful life, full of love, prosper and satisfactory, keeping her out of it as much as possible. The happier I am, the more it bothers her. 😊😊😊
So true. In my last relationship once I felt whole and content without him, it was over.
After a short conversation I feel light headed, dizzy, confused, exhausted, reduced..
This is totally what I need to hear. My soul is hungry for soul filling people rather than depleting ones. Finding those safe people and protecting myself. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
Healthy people make me feel calm, happy, and free.