SILENT SACRIFICES: the cost of enduring a narcissistic relationship
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if you have to sacrifice your voice, to “keep the peace,” it was never meant to be peaceful. the narcissist is manipulating you into internalizing the chaos instead.
an environment that is not safe to disagree in, is not an environment focused on growth – it’s an environment focused on control.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Very well said and explained, thank you for sharing this point.
That goes for politics as well although I don’t want to get into politics here but yes more and more people are feeling they are not allowed to speak out peacefully
What part? I’m in Niagara Falls
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It’s like a virus that infiltrates us @ our peril while the virus systematically replicates itself
The narcissist like Satan, waits for you to fail or give up.
Satan the father of LIES
Its god whose the narcissist. The greatest and fakes. Justifies all the bs.
And IT NEVER STOPS UNTIL THEY DIE❤❤❤
@@flightmama3191 even after a narc dies they can still leave their slime behind . Reminds me of a slimy snail that leaves a trail.
@@SherryTomlinson-r2y Yes , that’s fantastic thanks it’s a good reminder to keep washing him down the drain 🥰🌟❣️
Those beautiful moments are happening. ⏳️ It doesn’t feel like life is ending at abandonment, it’s beginning when you start to reclaim self.
When your not silent anymore the trouble begins.
Yep,if you give your opinion on anything you get told you’re the one being controlling
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When you start asking how come there’s a double standard..
When you start asking innocent questions because you begin to observe things…
@@cecillebalignasay7358 I made my ex narc a shirt last Christmas (which was also his birthday which he also hated so he ruined the holiday for me and the kids)that read Mr double standards on the front and Mr contradiction in the back,that’s how bad his double standards were,he could do and say things but how dare anyone else
Uh oh just started today
Dr. Ramani.. new subscriber here, thank you for being the blessing that you are to so many! What you say makes so much sense! I’ve had people ask me, ” Why are you always apologizing?” Now i understand exactly why I do this!
Growing up, I felt invisible. As a teen, I didn’t trust my mother to care about my safety. Even being raped by a friend of hers, I turned the blame on me. I never believed myself to be lovable after that. I kept trauma to myself. Getting away from my family of origin at the age of 49, was a godsend. 18 years later I begin to learn about narcissism. Holyf#%k! I have grieved for nearly a year. And I am starting to feel healed, lighter, free. Thanks to this channel and others like it.
Magnificent gratitude beautiful SOUL, thanks 4 sharing Ur beautiful experience, I am only out four months and he’s driving me crazy, trying 2 divorce but it’s crazy expensive, but at least I am safe and away. U R AMAZING, U KEEP ME INSPIRED TO KEEP GOING, IT’S BEEN UGLY & he’s killed my chickens and my cat and moved in another family and destroyed them too. They stole my stuff and he’s blaming me for not taking what I valued….It was my life I did value so I know I’m better off without the stuff, he can never take my memories ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉 UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND HAPPINESS FOREVERMORE 🎉🎉🎉
@@flightmama3191 your life and having the future of your choosing is THE most precious and valuable thing. I had a terrible sense of the appropriate type of person I was so I couldn’t choose a decent person. It was learning to be me and value me AND learning about narcissism that healed me.
I’m so grateful for you, Dr. Ramani. Your work is so appreciated and so helpful for abuse victims. Thanks for all you do. 💖
Christine Albright
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Have a roof over
My head”
“I live with my
Father who I
Beleave is a
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“My mother
I believe was a
Covert narcissist,
She passed away”
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Generational curse
Breaker”
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Thank you once again Dr. Ramani! People need the wisdom inside me and that is going to be my light moving forward♥️♥️
Self censoring only has caused me to have a huge explosion when pushed too far. I have tried to set boundaries all along but sometimes that doesn’t work.
“Power is not alluring to the pure mind.”
-Thomas Jefferson
My negative self-talk would be telling myself that I didn’t deserve love or didn’t deserve to be happy. This was during my worst times, the period following the narcissistic discard.
This really resonated with me. I thought I was doing great with my self-talk, but Dr Ramini said, ” I’m such an idiot that it took me 30 years to figure it out!” That’s me. He’s been gone for 3 years, and I’ve been doing pretty well, but I still do say that to myself. Life is great, but it can really be amazing. It’s time to continue catching myself and stopping the negative (or neutral-feeling) self-talk. Thanks for keeping on this for me!!😘😘❤️❤️
We didn’t know what we didn’t know then because we’re not like them!
Narcissists are like the BORG of the Star Trek Series. For them, “RESISTANCE is FUTILE!”.
I remember one time I made a mistake in front of my daughter and my then 3 yo granddaughter. When I realized my mistake, I called myself an idiot. My daughter then asked me if I wanted my granddaughter to learn to talk about herself that way. It was a wake up call
This one really resonated with me, especially internalizing the punishing voice of the narcissist and thus literally becoming my own worst enemy, pathologizing myself as I have been pathologized my whole life, and coming to the conclusion that I don’t deserve any better. I’m going to check out the work of Dr. Dana Jack, too. But guess what, thanks to you and other warriors in the fight for narcissistic abuse survivors’ recovery, my eyes have been opened and I’m drinking less and less of the Narc Kool-Aid. If I keep putting in the work, I hope to be off the Narc diet completely before long. Thanks as always, Dr. Ramani!
Don’t forget to add “I am so damaged. I’m lucky anybody would want me.” “I am just the most horrible person there is.” Then the narcissist will turn it on you by saying you hate yourself and destroyed yourself while we all stood around and watched. Regardless of who started the ruction the fact that he just stood and watched instead of offering any help. When he ran into his ex from before me, and was ecstatic by her suffering because she is now homeless and toothless. He gloated while implying, he was going to do the same to me
I am the worst critic to myself. After watching your videos Dr. Ramani, I catch myself every time I am tough to myself.
Dr. Ramani, I believe in voicing the truth to everyone regardless, normal and / or narcissist. Yes, that posses off narcissist, so what, I believe in kicking back. That’s who I have evolved into and I am not going to let anyone mess with me regardless of their relationship to me.
Teachers like you make the world a nicer, kinder and more hopeful place. Thank you Dr Ramani, for sharing all your knowledge. 🥰❤️❤️❤️