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Thanks for posting this today. This is on the world’s mind right now.
Absolutely!
Little Donny Plump and Wee on Mush. Wait. I meant Wee on Plump. He likes it. 😂
I’ve learned so much about narcissism way before I met my ex narc and I really thought I could detect all the red flags and not fall into their trap, but still even with all that knowledge, I fell into their manipulative tactics and ended up becoming their supply. I’m very mad at myself how I could still be easily fooled and allow myself to be pulled into the cycle again hence getting myself retraumatized. This really goes to show how dangerous and cunning these types of people are.
Don’t beat yourself up about it and view it as a lifelong experience. Even the best of the best men, fall, and they get back up.
Thanks for sharing your story. It is never your fault that somebody else harms you
I’m so sorry that happened to you. This is exactly why we end up being hypervigilant after our trauma.
I understand the anger at yourself but as Dr Ramani said, it’s not you. With all the information available on narcissism, to the ones who know they’re narcissistic it’s basically a “how to hide your narcissism” guide. Don’t blame yourself.
Knowledge is one thing.
The gut feeling is the other.
We have to use them both. Sometimes, one more than the other.
After my experience with my ex wife narcissist I’ve chosen not to have a intimate relationship, it’s to much of a risk and i’ve worked to hard climbing out of that very dark pit and my joy today 😊
Same.
Same for me too. But its been years ago now and I am wiser now and can take my time and see it coming. Not a babe in the woods anymore. My advice to myself and to you is to stay open. There are good kind people out there. Look at you! You are good and kind! And you wander this earth too ! Am trying to take my own advice. I get where you are coming from!
I absolutely cherish and devour your videos. At the same time, it’s so triggering. I guess knowledge is power, and awareness is painful.
Downright dangerous is exactly where this country is, geopolitically. We are in a horrific situation as a nation.
Agree with this!!!!
Totally where we are a nation!! School yard bullies running the show!! Pathetic!!
@@Greenwings701 I agree. The world is so horrible right now that I think about how it will be a relief when death comes for me. At least then I can be free and hopefully with God.
The referred country have been this dangerous to the whole world (and particularly LatAm) since forever, _one way or another._
I can see, however, how the perception inside the country may be “that one is better for us”.
Since they became more powerful than the UK, France and the imperialist Europe.
Thank you for this video. I love how you explain what you go through in these relationships. Over two years after separating, it has been hard to accept the realities of what we were living with, and move on. You have helped me get through this.
Psychopaths are born numb. Sociopaths have learned to be numb.
Narcissists are wicked, liars, cowards, thieves, demonic 👿, evil, creepy, cunning, disturbing…… Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150; Proverbs 1-31❤️💚🌹
My father was a malignant narcissit with psychopath traits. He was extremely abusive and violent, he put my life in danger so many times as a child and as a teenager. I’ve been in therapy since I was 18 , I’m 46 now and I can’t get over it, I’m afraid of all men because of him. There’s also the problem that I have absorbed some of his personality and sometimes I speak in threats and have really evil thougths, I don’t want to be like him. Dr. Ramani, would you consider making a video about overcomming being raised by a malignant narcissit or a psychopath. It would be really appreciate it. Thank you for all that you do
Yes please
And put a date of publishing it so that we don’t miss it.
Thanks
It would be a great help
I can relate. Im 47. My Dads dark triad, god knows what my mum is but she was horrendous, she hated me, no idea why, I was a good kid. Years ago, I had episodes with my boyfriend where I would play up and act somewhat like my Mother. I became aware of the detrimental effect it was having and that I would destroy the relationship if I didnt change – that along with really not wanting to be anything like my mother, somehow I fixed it and never behaved like that ever again. So you CAN do it and I think you will because youre self aware and motivated. Mine was triggered by feeling insecure (Ive had body dysmorphia since teens-thought I must be too ugly to love or sth -thnx mother), so I had to rewrite the script when something triggered my insecurity. I stopped allowing myself to spiral with negative self talk that would keep me in a dark place for hours, replaced it with something else more philosophical, wiser, & positive that I could also 100% believe. That stopped the spiralling and allowed me to get past that pique of insecurity much, much quicker. Did that everytime until it became a habit.
Yes. I think a malignant narcissist can become psychopathic. I think what makes the difference is who they are around and who is their influence
I escaped a 20 yr friendship that was defined by nuanced and subtle menacing,gaslighting, manipulation and triangulation. She was careful to never lie per se but cleverly used omission of cleverly selected truths to keep me very confused. It was discovered when i realized my confusion consistently connected to mutual friend communication. I have never had this terrifying experience with anyone else, ever!
Robert Greene talks about “selective honesty” in 48 Laws of Power. It’s a power move.
I made so many excuses for his behavior. “He’s in pain…(I knew he was, given the injuries he sustained in a life threatening accident in his teens.). In the beginning I would get apologies for the angry outbursts then it shifted to “you made me angry, don’t do X, Y or Z.”. At the end he excused his cruelty by telling me what a horrid creature I was and that I DESERVED the treatment I received. I saw those tendencies in a couple of our grandchildren. I became convinced the night I saw the narcissist’s father storming off that it’s got to be a genetic trait. The body language was EXACTLY like my 5 yr old grandson whom I had been working with to instill mindfulness. In that moment, it was laughable to see a great grandfather behaving like a 5 yr old. It makes me worry for my grandchildren. They have no one left to help them overcome those traits before adulthood. My ex followed through with EVERY threat he made. I have no contact with my children or grandchildren. I can only imagine the life those children have endured and the horrible things being said about me. The confusion they must’ve experienced at having lost the one person they wanted to be around and being told I was the horrible one. They’re being gaslit and I’m powerless to stop it. HEARTBREAKING doesn’t even begin to describe it. Thank you Dr Ramani!!! I’m 4 years free now. My days are peaceful and that is something I never dreamed I’d have.
Sadly situation when i underwood the father of my daughters is not only narsisist, he is also a psycopath. Thanks so much for sharing, peace and blessings to everyone 🙏🏼
The differentiation of psychopaths from narcissists was very useful and the dark triad/tetrad. I now think my ex was much closer to a psychopath than an narcissist.
My ex was a psychopath. Right from the first day we met he was calculating, and writing the script for my downfall. He was sadistic, predatory, manipulative and mocked my pain. My instincts were screaming at me that something was off, but he was so subtle. I was spotting, had night terrors, rapid heart beat. When I tried to leave he just kept weaselling me back in. He didn’t just manipulate my emotions, but he altered my reality. The absolute most legendary part of it all? The day his mask fully slipped, his big reveal, I walked out without a single word. No reaction, no goodbye. Just vanished into thin air. And now I laugh about it hysterically like I’m the psycho.
Did you have children with him?
Sounds like mine. I remember the penny drop moment when it all fell into place and I started to realise what I had been dealing with.Mine was really good at wearing the mask but still when you observe strange behaviours constantly then you do get to see right through it.
Psychopath most dangerous! Recklessly destroy your life and the lives of the ones you love, simultaneously smirking with pride and joy.
I was constantly accused of being a “gold digger”, and berated brutally, when I never took anything from anyone, lived independently, and never asked for a thing! He also constantly accused me of having ” a bunch of guys” I was cheating with which was absurd. He strong armed me for his phone, which he left in the bathroom. It had LOTS of women’s texts on it. I caught HIM cheating red handed numerous times. and always accused ME of cheating so to ignite a fight so HE could storm off and see someone else for a few days or weeks. They are DEMONIC and dangerous. Thank you for exposing them. Oh, forgot…yes he was extremely successful in commercial real estate…
With plenty of people under cover to deter, block, and / or ruin any possibility of you making any lead way to survive their wrath to ruin you. Gross, ruthless energy you can feel. I believe they want you to know that as well. Cowardly
OH, yes! Wrote about theese highspectrum-narcissists /malignant type in my book and this obsession that is typical for it. And from my observation- often drawn to sexaddiction and powerdynamics.
I bought your book, It’s Not You, and read it carefully; This is one of my favorite books, thank you so much; I thought the least I could do was to buy your book; I’m glad I got a hardcover; it’s a keeper!
me too!!! ditto