ARROGANT advice about dealing with the narcissist
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November 1-3, 2024
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You’ve saved my sanity, I’ll never be able to thank you enough for the work you do. Be blessed with the finest the universe has to give.
Yes!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
She is up there with all the greats of our time.
If there is reward in the next life Dr Romani will be very blessed there.
Dr. Ramani is straight out here saving lives :).
Indeed ❤😊
It’s really frustrating to listen to people who don’t get it.
Very.
Do not listen to those who won’t.
My family never got it untill recently just after her outburst. Now they dont what me to stay in the relationship. I have kids and have no alternate. I wish there was another way to move on but there isn’t.
Yes. It starts to feel like a part of the problem!
Yeah like when my friend told me my ex narcissist was just marrying the multi-million dollar rich girl because he must really “love her”, and that its not at all about the money –
I’m pretty sure Sanity Land is a place where people would apologize without making you feel like you’re the problem and gaslighting is something used for fancy cooking.
@@Loneranian 😂 Gaslighting for fancy cooking! 😂
I just wish I could turn it around by going to the past and telling myself what I am dealing with. 12 years of narcissist land and I was told back then its not you who is crazy. My wife became a narcissist because of my mother-in-law. I wish i could keep her away before it went south. Have 2 kids in need of a mother, I will still keep in the relationship, I dont have any alternative option. Have to know how to cope myself and she is in therapy and get better with time. I am not saying a full recovery but atleast to be a good mother for the kids.
You are almost Perfectly describing so many toxic , dysfunctional church settings and relationships . As well as other socially structured settings. You are Spot On Dr. Ramani , again, Thank you !
Oh yes, church people or “spiritual” people ! My entire childhood!😊
Oh, yes! This is my entire church. I reached a point a long time ago where I just despise them. I used to think they were all well-intentioned. I no longer do, after a number of them tried to deliberately obstruct escaping the narcissists and have been instrumental in forcing children into unsupervised clutches of narcissists.
Yes. People from sanity land just don’t get it. I have been in a malignant narcissistic relationship and it really sucks and no one in my family has ever had to deal with someone like this. I am away from it now. All of this advice from sanity land.. I have experienced. Dr Ramani is awesome! She knows what she is talking about. Thank you!
So unless no one in your family ever spent any time with your malignant narcissist, it’s not believable they did not in fact also deal with them. And if that is the case – they never spent any time with your narcissist- then how would they know what you are dealing with? That is of course rhetorical.
I just think saying something here that does not add up, subtracts from what Ramani’s real message and dealing with a real situation, what the real dilemma is here.
Who these days are living in sanity land? If sanity land is real I wonder if it should not be called ostrich land by now.
I just woke up grabbed a coffee and started to listen to this. I was like wtf about spit out my coffee got to laughing until finally I got the jest of wtf? I like this ostrich land explanation, i’m f-ing exhausted! How the f you not see this!
Thank you Dr. Ramani, you totally get it.
Just told, very sternly, “you are advised to just cooperate with him.” Courts and judicial are so unaware and refuse to give way to reason
That is the absolute worst. I remember that period of time like it was yesterday. I left my ex-husband when my youngest was just 3, and had to deal with a legal nightmare for the next 15 years. It was nothing short of hell.
I am so sorry you are having to go through that. As if being a parent wasn’t hard enough… wishing you the strength, resilience, and courage to survive the legal nightmare so you can thrive in the chapters that follow 🫶🙏
Not unaware. Deliberately evil.
Amen, Dr. Ramani. People that don’t deal with these people have no idea what it’s like to live with these kind of personalities.
Sometimes I can’t stomach being with people who have lived these privileged sheltered lives where they have never been harmed, betrayed, or manipulated. They are uninteresting, honestly. Like two dimensional almost. I interact politely with them, but would never, ever let them close to me. 😅
I’ve had this type of situation happen over and over. It’s so frustrating. It’s like another shock wound to hear these normal suggestions from well meaning people. Leaves me sensing that I’m not understood and I am all alone.
Well said ❤
Indeed 💯 Perfect timing on this video. Just this week, I realized that it’s as if an actual language barrier is preventing me from being able to use logic and reason with these folks! The fact is that they will not be reasonable, and for an actual sane person, this can make you feel crazy. And then they call you the crazy one of course. It’s infuriating! I understand why no contact with these people is often the best solution for maintaining one’s own mental health ✨️
This is good! ❤
Thank you for the validation.
& we are not alone. ❤
And most of the time, the Sanity Land people turn into enablers… they just don’t get it…
8:47 this is so true. It’s one of the reasons why I just don’t say anything anymore because at the end of the day, you start to look crazy for even deal with these types of individuals.
Those who know don’t need it explained. Those who don’t know [generally] can’t have it explained.
Much like chronic health conditions that u hav been managing for years, n new people offer suggestions u tried n discarded years prior. Sigh.
Oh and then when you finally tell people about the situation and the abuse they say oh well you chose that person.
The lack of understanding and empathy in sanity land where they blame the victim is even more heartbreaking
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Luckily I had a support system when my relationship started to become a problem. Unfortunately it took people who were understanding of my situation to learn from their own experience as you described.
I’ve never put into words that frustrated feeling I’ve had, but you just nailed it!
This is why I let an old friendship of over 25 years slowly die out.. She grew up extremely sheltered, never experienced violence, manipulation etc., life just … falls into place very easily for her… She knows almost everything that happened in my family, but she doesn’t get it, no matter how or how often I explain things. I just can’t take her well meaning but ignorant advice and comments any more 😓
“Have you talked to them?” This “advice” makes me very frustrated and angry! Thankyou Dr Ramani!