Dating a narcissist AGAIN! Here’s why it is NOT your fault
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Thank you for discussing this!
Clarity is the first path to escape…
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After 2 narcissists, overt and covert, my walls are up now. I’m guarding my heart and waiting them out.
I would encourage you to listen to what Dr.Ramani is saying again. Listen to every word carefully.
They’re as unavoidable as the air we breathe. They’re everywhere. Don’t engage emotionally.
That “law of attraction” and “manifesting” stuff is so abusive to survivors of abuse.
My genetic sire kept saying things like, “you chose him – you made your bed, you sleep in it. I can’t help it if you did it again.”
“Genetic Sire” absolutely LOVE that!!!!❤❤❤
You have to make manifesting more about you and what you want versus a relationship.
I went to two narcissistic therapists. They don’t advertise they have a personality disorder, they don’t have a clue. It’s not that you choose a narcissist, they just live in the world.
They want to rule the world. Being a therapist or psychologist is a perfect career for a narcissist because they do have a lot of power to manipulate others emotions and watch them burn
Me too, plus my mother was a therapist. And also happened to be a narcissist (and not a self-aware one, I might add)
Thank you so much for sharing that. Your comment has help me feel validated in the difficulties that I have had with therapist and they’re gaslighting. Smh
Dr.Ramani, I believe that this is the most important YouTube talk I’ve heard. I’m going to listen to it several times. Your clarity is outstanding. What a wonderful and hard-won gift you’ve developed!
Thank you! I completely gave up on dating. I’ve been single and celibate by choice 4 years now and it’s been wonderful and peaceful. I literally have nothing to worry about. I don’t see myself having a partner again because there are way too many narcs out there and I’m just tired of encountering them over and over and over again. My peace is priority now.
@BigHeartNoBS It’s been 6 years for me. I’ll live by myself from now on. No desire to even date.
I did the same. I’m in a roommate situation. Four others here. One I helped out turned out to be a thief and a full blown narc.
Sound so familiar. After my divorce, I tried dating and the selection, even in NYC was horrendous. Single and Celibate by choice for the past 18 years, in order to save my sanity from the self-absorbed narcissists and psychopaths who think relationships should be like reality TV shows. “I’ll pass.”
Having survived the reckless sexual adventures of my youth in the 70s, 80s, and 90s. I know exactly what I am NOT missing.
@@my_freelance_life it’s flaming insanity. But I am learning! I’m not going to even loan a lending hand easily anymore either!!
I see it right away now. They are EVERYWHERE! The worst is at work, I went from working with one narcissist right into another. The thing was I didn’t interview with either, they both had other people interview me then I found out the owner was a narcissist.
To me, the worst are at home. I can get other jobs ,and a job is just a way to earn a living. You can’t just always leave a spouse, child or parent.
@@mightymouse1005You can most definitely leave a partner, parent or child. It might be harder or take longer, but it is possible. And leaving a job can be just as hard.
Same..I’d rather be alone than go through that again
I was terrorized by several narcissist as a child, the walls are a mile high and a mile thick, very few people are allowed inside the circle. Downside, I over protected my daughters to the point they’re oblivious to the ill Will of others and especially the narcissist. Pain is a great teaching tool, better to learn the truth when you’re very young while you can’t screw things up too bad.
I always thought I was too quiet and boring. Narcissists and psychopaths drew me in very easily. Now, I see behind the masks. Better late than never I guess, and there’s still time to educate younger people which I’m now doing in great earnest.
I was told I was closed off by a narc. Yep! He isn’t getting in.
I just stopped dating after the 3rd one.
Cruelty is a act of cowards. Dr Ramani Thankyou for all your work.
The best way to figure them out is to stand your ground. If you stand firm, say NO, and don’t give in…a narcissist will stop wasting time with you. When they try to push a relationship or something, stand your ground and say NO, i don’t want a relationship, not letting anyone move in, happy with my life…..they hate that
Im a home care nurse who, during shutdowns, started working weekends for extra money….i mentioned to my patient that, i couldn’t wait to be off Sundays again to take the grandchildren to church because thats the only time I have with them…her eyes went weird and she said “NO, you BELONG to me now and you’re not allowed ” i was furious and didn’t go back…..i told her, shes not as important as my grandchildren and noone OWNS me
I have learnt to socialize differently, giving myself the freedom to be friendly but keep boundaries and walk away when needed. It takes the pressure off and feels safer for me ❤
Great advice 👍
The world is full of enablers, both conscious and unconscious. Remember that.
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I had many friends encouraging me to date my narcissistic ex, saying how great he was, only to have him turn out to be super toxic, causing me severe stress. Proud of myself for trying and then getting out when I realized how unhealthy it was despite others, including those who encouraged me to date him, shaming me for dating him saying ‘I knew what he was like’, when I really did not. I dated him because they all pushed me to. I then also lost those ‘friends’ thru the process of leaving him. It was awful. Almost worse to see that the ‘friends’ were toxic enablers too. But I learnt a lot. And would rather be single if I sense any red flags like that again. I now choose me and put my health and safety first. So grateful for this community. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
Self focus comes first 😉
No one would ever learn to ski if they couldn’t fall down a hill twice. But with practice, yes, hopefully it happens less often.