Dating Over 60 What Do Single Men Over 60 Really Want

@nanthibert says:

Mike, I have the added stress of having to start over financially. I’m cleaning homes right now at age 61 and living with and helping my 90 year old mom. I just don’t have the money to work with you let alone go travelling with a guy. This makes me feel ashamed that I didn’t set my life up better in the first place. I live in Canada so the exchange rate doesn’t help. I know my shame about lack of money is a huge barrier to being my best self. I need to deal with this before I can even think of attracting the right man. I want to end by saying that I think your videos are superb and I appreciate them very much even though I’ve never acted on them. You make a huge difference in the world!

@koukimonzta says:

Most 60+ men went out overseas to find love

@Dragonfly657 says:

Well I just met 3 men over 60.
Allen is a dreamer he texts no followed through on 3 dates we made.
Neil well we met 6 years ago and reconnected again on my birthday and he’s a serial dater will never change.
Ralph I’ve known for 30 years he got severely burnt on his first marriage and holds a grudge.
So I just moved on and seeing what other crap I can find.
I swear I attract wounded men.

@leslie5139 says:

I am 59 and will be 60 in February. My life partner passed unexpectedly in 2020. He was the best man ever in my life. I will be dating again but scared because I was with my partner for seventeen years. If I don’t meet a man then it wasn’t meant to be. I still miss my partner. Mike your beard is very elegant.

@7027A says:

I really enjoyed this; thank you. I’m a 61-year-old widower this year after 35 years of marriage & children. She went through a three-year, extremely difficult illness with complications and I was there for her throughout. But before that happened, the years working and rearing kids took a toll on the “us” side of the relationship and on emotional and physical intimacy. We woke up to an empty nest and two people sharing a house and a financial life, but not really knowing who “we” were anymore. We had just started to re-engage and do the fun exploring you spoke about, when the illness cut that short. I feel a bit cheated by fate to be this age, and the person who was my lover, best friend, and life partner and whom I expected to grow old with, is gone. The future I always expected was “our” future and what “we” had planned. That’s gone, and now I’m figuring out “my” future and “my” plan. I’m sitting here with time and money and not sure what to do next.

Although I welcome the peace and autonomy that’s mine right now after so much trial and heartache, it’s difficult to visualize myself long-term as a loner, as I’m finding that I crave the feminine spirit in my life. I think men are meant to spend their lives in the company of a woman. But it’s scary at this age to contemplate a new love, because there’s the visualized ideal and of course the reality of taking on someone else’s heavy life baggage, potentially dysfunctional family, and the potential for health crises (which to be honest, I’ve been there and done that, but which I would do again for anyone I deeply loved). What’s needed is someone who pretty much has it together, who’s not a train wreck, and who can bring stability and positive growth rather than chaos, conflict, and atrophy to the relationship.

What you call The Great Love could not be more on target for a stable and mature man my age. The song “Big Love” by Little Village speaks to me the same way. At this age, I am looking for a woman to expose my soul to, to trust, to wrap my arms around, and to melt with. It’s an old cliché, but a man can cling to a woman and their flesh – and souls – become one. Her body is my body and vice versa. I’m looking for that woman who can become the highest value in my life and from whom I feel inseparable.

Regarding the concept of “Super Woman”, or let’s say a can-do, take-charge, independent woman who is out to prove she’s in control of her life and “doesn’t even need a man”: true feminine beauty in a woman to me lies in her innate humility, her ability to respect and honor me as the accomplished and worthwhile man that I am, and to have a sense of grace in her manner toward me that tells me I’m wanted and appreciated for being the man in her life whom she loves. In return I would show love, patience, gentleness, compassion, desire & appreciation, thoughtfulness, and would be at her service. I’m not saying I don’t want an accomplished and intelligent and capable woman, far from it. But I don’t want to be treated like a subordinate to be “managed” or to be treated like a rival for “control” of all decisions. I don’t want to struggle against her intent to control me. If you’re a woman doing it right, I will do what you desire gladly and willingly because I want to please you, as a gesture of my appreciation for what you do for me and mean to me, and will not need to be brow-beaten and driven.

And yes, as a man, I have simple physical wants and needs. I would be happy to have a woman care for and feed me, and to be available for physical intimacy with a reasonable level of frequency, engagement, and enthusiasm. That can be difficult, perhaps, as men’s and women’s libidos differ as they age, particularly post-menopause.

I’m still sorting things out, but I’ve got you bookmarked.

@twofarg0ne763 says:

I’ve been divorced for 20 years. I tried dating for a while after my divorce, but the women I met were so toxic I said the hell with it. I just want peace and quiet. I want to be able to do what I want, when I want, and how I want. I want to be able to play golf, have a few beers with guys, travel around Europe, and enjoy my grand kids. Now, at 75, sex is not a big deal anymore, so I see absolutely no point in having a woman around to muck up my peaceful life. There is no way that I’d be willing to become the retirement plan for any woman.