Divorcing a Narcissist? The Abuse Doesn’t End—It Goes to Court
If you're going through a divorce with a narcissist and it feels like the conflict isn’t ending — just changing form — you’re not imagining it.
For many narcissists, divorce is not the end of the abuse. It’s the next phase.
In this video, I explain how narcissists use the legal system to continue control, why it feels never-ending, and how to stop getting pulled into the cycle.
You’ll learn:
• What legal abuse actually looks like during divorce
• How narcissists use filings, accusations, and delays to stay connected
• Why every new issue feels urgent (and why that’s part of the strategy)
• The biggest mistake people make—reacting to everything
• How over-responding can cost you time, money, and credibility
• The shift from emotional reaction to strategic participation
When a narcissist uses the court system, the goal is not resolution — it’s control, contact, and chaos.
But when you stop reacting to every move and start responding strategically, everything changes. You conserve energy, strengthen your position, and create the kind of consistency that courts actually notice over time.
I’m Victoria McCooey, a high-conflict divorce coach, divorce mediator, and creator of She Breaks Free. I work with women every day who are navigating divorce with narcissistic partners and learning how to stay grounded, strategic, and protected throughout the process.
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