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Not all harsh people are narcissist, but you gotta be careful of those who never apologize.
My daughter craps on me every 6 months and NEVER apologizes. I’ve had to make the choice to go no contact. I did nothing to deserve this.
Also you have to watch out for the fake apology there are nak’s that have adjusted to the fact that apologies are sometimes required socially so they figured out how to do fake ones with the line well…. I apologized…. I said sorry….. as a form of get out of jail free pass but you end up being well aware of that just because they said it they don’t really mean it and they’re more than likely to do it again.☹️
The apologies – lol – just more bs
Actions not words.
Get that but don’t forget they also need to follow through with a change in behavior… narcs don’t
Im harsh toward narcissists. I went NC with family,Ive been out of relationships for 6 years. I quit narc clients.
My neighbor attacked me. Truly unbelievable. A whole family of them next door. Cost me 10k in 6 months.property damage, extreme threats on myself and my ponies ( in front of a deputy, which was mysteriously not in the police report), threatened w a chainsaw, stalking by the father and A 12 YEAR OLD BOY!YES,i was stalked and bullied by a 12y old boy! The smear campaign included the police and they painted me as a child abuser. I got the charge. So I walk through my property flipping them the bird daily. And I will say ,as I was told after complaining to the police many ,many times ” cant you just ignore it?” F those psychopaths. I was nothing but kind to them EVER. they have no evidence, i have plenty.
I grew up surrounded by harshness, so I try my best to defuse situations before resorting to brutal honesty. I know people don’t like it, but I’m not usually a fighter in any circumstance.
Narcissists like to dish it out but they can’t take it.
Super thin skinned. No one’s feelings matter but theirs.
They hide behind enablers like mad.
Very insightful video indeed Dr. Ramani as always, words make such a lot of difference positively or negatively or something in between/confused/neutral, many thanks 🙏🌷🕊💝🤗
Thank you again for helping us put things in perspective.
I try to give people the benefit of a doubt, but if they continue to display that kind of behavior i distance myself from them & I try to never ever take it personally. If they’re a POS that’s a them issue and not a me issue. I try not to soak up their negativity.
Agreed, I couldn’t have said it better.
I like what you said ‘I like honesty, but it doesn’t have to be brutal’
Some people are just whiners and complainers and even liars.
Doesn’t ever have to be brutal. Never.
I’m a harsh person straight forward and to the point but I have had my fair share of dealing with narcissistic people and I know my harshness is a product of my environment because I was not always so harsh.
Yea my eldest sister is a narcissist. And she’s very mean and harsh.
It says a lot [of good things] about you, Dr. Ramani, that you are more willing to work around the clock with someone who is warm and agreeable. There are those who would be more apt to take advantage of them, or even punish them, because they view warmth and agreeableness as weaknesses. ♥ By the way, I love that mauve tea kettle on your shelf. It coordinates with your outfit (in the beginning of the video).
I can’t stand the harsh snippy comments a sister in law makes under the guise of being ‘honest’. I have told my brother it is rude sometimes, and he makes excuses saying she’s just ‘brutally honest’. I wish he realized the ‘brutal’ part is not ok. It matters how you say things. So tired of it all. Keeping my boundaries. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
Harshness feels yucky in our bodies, not good for our nervous systems no matter who we are, there is no need for it in my opinion. You can be direct and honest without being harsh, it depends how you say things. No need to be harsh in terms of being mean or rude. I have people like this in my life and I avoid them because of how harsh they are. Not what I want in my life. Doesn’t feel healthy. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
Very good advice. Post narcissistic abuse cause one to be judgmental of oneself. Nothing is wrong with wanting to be appreciated but being self righteous narcissist is different and not the same.
Regardless of if a persons narcissistic or not, harshness usually feels unnecessary and unhealthy to me, depending how things are said. It’s one thing to be honest, it’s another thing to be mean or rude. If it feels tense or uncomfortable to me, I don’t want to be around it. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
My Mum used to say she wanted to ‘knock my corners off’ she was brutal with her words. The problem is I never had any corners and I am very sensitive 😢
Did you ever tell her what you’d like to do to her? It works both ways. Some people think they can just say whatever they want and nobody will ever go back at them.
“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou
Amen !!!!
I’m the same way wanting to avoid harsh interactions. But with the help of healing sites like yours, I have become more able to tell people that I don’t appreciate how they’re responding to me. It sometimes surprises them, and leads to better interactions. Otherwise, I just feel better about standing up for myself!😊
Sometimes i feel im harsh because i cant lie, but to adapt i ve learnt to talk around and still being authentic to myself
Dr. Ramani, you made me laugh when you started to list things someone might say about their ex. Some of those things I’d never thought of! 😁