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9:46 AM EST 10:45 hmm it’s really 9:45.. anyhow.. euphoric recall .. having a breakthrough from this by listening to Birdy’s music helps me to stay in the present in a grounding way. Euphoric recall really kept me stuck before .. something about her music helps me to visit the present in a mindful , more balanced fashion and helps me see the situation from more angles than I had before. It’s not as bright and entrancing as some of my memories though it helps me break them down .. and breakthrough to the present moment which is valuable to me.. it’s grounding which is different than the euphoric recall of some of my memories. This way I’m not stuck in the emptiness euphoric recall leaves in the wake of it’s entrancingness and can embrace the mundane or ho hum of life with a peaceful gratitude 🙏 i much prefer this sense of uplifting humility and gratitude i feel to the emptiness and never feeling the earth beneath me that euphoric recall gives that emptiness of euphoric recall.. whatever it is – sure ain’t love .. from experience I understand this now.. before I didn’t understand why love bombing was awful.. now I do. Love bombing 💣 makes one chase a high.
Love.. love is the present moment as it is, however it is.. yet it is fulfilling when we embrace it, and cathartic at times in this cleansing embrace. I’ll take this over all the empty gloss in the world 🌎 that seems great at first.. then leaves one very empty.. “balanced” that’s love..real love..and that , I believe is the message of today in Doctor Ramani Durvasula feedback.. this is our fulfilling meal of love to our senses what you bring to the table Doctor Ramani..it’s fulfilling..it’s balancing.. that’s the real brick and mortar of your gift. It really helps, and I’m really thankful I’ve seen a lot of your shows and now I actually understand. That’s the actualization we’re looking for in your message and as our friend, “Kyle Kittleson, would say: I’ve got this! I understand! I’ve experienced all these states . Balanced is fulfilling it may not be the euphoric gloss, but it certainly doesn’t leave us running on a suicidal emptiness afterwards its expression. It embraces us where we are at, and it grounds us in its insight in the wakeful present moment. This is our big take away from today.. thank you, Doctor Ramani
I hate love bombing. Problem is I love love too much. 🙄😵💫🙂
The worst thing one can do for themselves is get into deep relationships without dealing with and dissecting the damage and experiences In their lives, especially with upbringing.
I was a friggin magnet until I did the deep diving over many years. Now my life is amazing because I can spot these types so quick it’s almost like playing a video game on how high my score is for spotting them out.
This tickles me 😂
When you’re starving, you’ll eat anything.
1000%
SO TRUE!!!!!
Yes, everything tastes good!
unless. you are used to fasting. if that only had a metaphorical equivalence to your sentence, i would be healthier and have less regrets…
. Fasting is not starving
It’s not that we’re unlovable but I think we should question ourselves why will (should) anybody love me?
After 24 years of marriage with an undiagnosed narcissist I finally moved out and have been living on my own for almost two months now. It’s such a relief to my soul, body, and nervous system however I have been ruminating over times where my spouse was testing me throughout our relationship. Getting to the root of it all I realized that I married my mother in male form.
I have the 1 year rule in place where I’m not even thinking about entering a love relationship. This year I am intentional about my healing and rebuilding my life.
Thank you Dr Ramani❤
Keep on breaking that trauma bond & examine that parental model because it’s going to resurface in the next relationship but even more covert or sociopathic 💔❤️🩹♥️
Sounds like a veeeery good plan.
Best wishes on your healing journey.
Talking to someone who understands and having your experience validated decreases the need for rumination dramatically, in my experience. I promise it will pass soon.
The key word is superficial. My psychopath father started on me before the age of two. I believe I have been superficial myself. Choosing about all narc relationships through out my life. And lying to myself feelings like a misfit. My heart goes deeply out to those who have been love bombed. They go into the narc relationship 100 percent. And by God the damage this narcissist does to these people! Yes narcissistic abuse does take us to our knees! Even if we are aware kinda of of what we are getting into. I’ve been talking to this beautiful soul. She had no idea! Heart and soul she put in this narc relationship! And the confusion she felt!! Anyway yea she’s ordered Dr Ramani latest book!! And she talks to me says I’m the only one who gets her. It goes both ways!! ❤
Nope. I know my past plus my present ( having this from you) makes me love bomb resistant. At a better place. Thank you, Dr. Ramani ❤
I listen to Dr. Ramani every morning and I swear she is talking directly to me. When I first found her I felt she was talking Beginning Narcissist Abuse, then it became Intermediate NA and now we are into Advanced NA. I don’t know if that is really the case or I am further along so I can hear it.
I go to bed with Dr Ramani every night. She has saved me on many levels. I share her with so many
She makes perfect sense
My family was not narcissistic, but I grew up with other issues that made me vulnerable. I was a people pleaser, and narcissists and other selfish people took advantage of this. What’s interesting is that the most dangerous narcissists I ever met were those that took advantage of me slowly, over long periods of time. The most malignant narcissist I ever knew was so aggressive and fast that my alarms went off quickly, and scary as it was, I was able to get out. It was because of him that I learned about psychopathy and narcissism. The slow burners used me and mistreated me for decades.
I hope I’ve learned to be more careful and, yes, judgmental if necessary.
I was 17 and came from an abusive home. I didn’t know what hit me until the kids were born. I wish they had taught this in school. But that was the 80s when narcissist wasn’t really a word & we didn’t have easily accessible information.
Having grown up in the Sixties and early Seventies the closest definition of narcissism was Carly Simon’s song “You’re So Vain”.
I was looking at Google streetview of where I grew up last night and got emotional
“The house that built me.” -Miranda Lambert always makes me cry which it never did before my narc relationship.
I finally watched Inside Out 2 last week – I was looking at the decoration on the bookshelf and thought it looked like a sense of self from that movie. Then Doc brings up sense of self in the video. Now I’m smiling.
yes, I’ve been realizing this lately. I’m currently working on it. my second relationship moved very slowly. They were consistent and there was no excitement. It lasted for 12 years, ended with a bang, but a much different experience. I’m finding this pattern in non-romantic relationships now. which is what I’ve been working on.
Such a timely video! Dated a Sikh man the other night. First date in 12 years. Wasn’t ever planning on dating again at 65. He picked me up in his Mercedes and made me a wonderful Indian dish. Treated me with respect and good conversation. No love bombing. Felt so different. 😊
Good luck!
Thank you Thank you Thank you. I needed this. I’m the only child of an abusive alcoholic narcissist father and codependent mother. And just now at 60yrs old beginning to understand the lingering effects.
I watch your videos and for that little bit of time feel like everything makes sense. I feel clarity and feel seen. Then I go back to my life for a couple of days and I’m confused, questioning if I’m the problem and if he really is a narcissist at all. It’s just such a mess and I am so exhausted all the time. Married 20 years and I still can’t figure it out. Thank you for your videos.
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there’s no universal playbook for making them work. What’s effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I’ve come to understand that there’s always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient…
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white…
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now…Thanks..
You wont regret it.
Christine Albright
Brilliant video 🙏….
Spot on 🙏…
Thank you 🙏…