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Get Him To Commit Before Sleeping Together (The Dating Vow)
Have you ever heard the saying: Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and men are the gatekeepers of commitment?
The "Dating VOW" Before Sleeping Together
I ___________________ agree to explore the process of getting to know you with the intent to declare something serious in the next 3 to 6 months.
I ___________________ agree to be monogamous sexual while we have regular sex together
I ___________________ agree to not actively seek to meet/date others while we are in this dating process (include taking down dating profile)
I ___________________ agree to speak up if this isn't working for me vs. pulling back, ghosting or disappearing
I ___________________ agree to invest regular time in this process of getting to know you which looks like this _______________
90% of men will bail on this because thousands of women will have sex without any commitment/agreement whatsoever. If all women are banned together (going forward), this will change how men treat/view sex, but in the meantime, if he does agree, you have a better chance of commitment than without it.
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Can you please clarify if anyone has been eligible for a free call that didn’t tick the boxes to say they have $450 for a one off session or were able to gather $3000 toward therapy? As after filling in the questionnaire it was deemed by one of your team a call wouldn’t benefit me at this time. I totally get that. In the name of radical honesty I think the tag is a little misleading.
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@@alicejones2972 Hmmm, he may very well be a scammer. They’re always good looking and in uniform or oil men or spies or something heroic, large, and in charge. However, your kids shouldn’t be treating you like a child. You can talk to him. Tell them that you will not send him any money. Just don’t send him any money, for ANY reason. NOT ONE DOLLAR. NO MATTER WHAT EXCUSE HE COMES UP WITH. If he asks for money from you, even one dollar, dump him.
I’m happy for you 2. We are all just children walking each other home. Kindness is radical 💞 #Jonathon
@@alicejones2972 call the Carrier. you are not the child. that is unlawful.
My boyfriend revealed to me recently that he fell in love with me on our first date. This was 5 years ago. I don’t think he fell in love with me, he was fascinated and attracted sure, but love…that takes much longer in my opinion even though we talked in depth for weeks prior to meeting in person. On a side note: My first husband was very successful and a high earner, I left him due to infidelity. I married exactly what my parent’s raised me to marry, it did not work out regardless of how much money he made. A man with wealth is not all what it’s cracked up to be. I’d much rather have a man who has depth and a true connection like I have now.
I totally agree with your assessment all the way around. Very successful high earners often believe money is the great equalizer — but it’s not. So glad to hear you have found the happiness you and your special someone deserve, and congratulations for not settling. Infidelity is the MAXIMUM DEAL BREAKER! You are blessed with common sense and a great chance at happiness : )
I married a poor man who was all about me. 15 years later he cheated. So it’s all chance. They have to keep choosing you everyday and we don’t get to control that.
@@blueseptember2174 truth!
@@blueseptember2174 Sorry….your Right…you never know what the TRUE person is, till after the wedding, what happens in the dark will come out to the light no one can mock Jeh God, if they loved God and follow his direccion, we would have peace..
limmerence is first.
Funny I said this to my bf last night. We were talking about some dislikes in relationship and I said “even if this relationship sometimes make me feel not so happy, I really like you. A lot! And you know its more than the word “like”. I think its important to let the other person to know that even if things are not always good in relationship, that doesn’t change how you feel about them. Its important to speak about things but never make the other person feels like they suck. Thank you Jonathon 🙏
This was eerily calculated… it was exactly what I needed to hear today. This video came exactly the moment after I received a final farewell from a guy I’ve invested for 9 month. I was sincerely being vulnerable and expressing how I felt because I really cared but knowing the connection was not mutual I decided to say my last words and wish him well. Expressing it was for my own benefit to get closure.
thanks,
i enjoy joining , but i’ m
done. i had enough!!
Good for you. I know how hard that was but you know your own value. You did right. Bless you.
It’s very freeing, isn’t it? That moment you decide you’re done giving to someone without getting anything in return?
Wow, that takes courage. I wish I had done the same. So much I should have said but was afraid to. Well done ❤
Do you mind if I ask you the turning point into knowing when it was the perfect time to let him go?
This is a HUGE issue in relationships now. Too many men admit to not actually liking women—instead, they think of women as providers of sex and as servants (cooking, cleaning). It’s no wonder that less people are dating anymore, never mind getting married.
The best romantic relationships are between couples who are best friends AND lovers.
This 100 percent
Yes, I will never be USED again .
So agree!! Men have taught me that I don’t really “need” them…I can and have been making it on my own even when I was in a relationship…my ex narcissist only wanted me around for cleaning, cooking, taking care of his yard and his house…he had rages, lied, silent treatment, gaslighting, a master manipulator…so, men have taught me, I don’t need ya!!! I would rather be by myself…
It’s hard for me to be both a friend and a lover. If I have friendship with a man I usually never will have feelings for him other than friendship
Hi we need too stop the blame game it starts with your environment father and mother were their love at home communication teaching so if no you had too fine love in all the wrong people maybe their were hunt in those individual you really can not determine any individual only God knows our pain and circumstances in life just be integrity about any situation respect yourself stop finding a solution in SEX Jackson Mississippi Love ✌
So glad I listened to this! I was married for 22 1/2 years and my husband and I were on the same page the moment we met (in person—we were pen pals 😊) He died unexpectedly 16 months ago. I ventured out in the dating world and wow, things are different. I have now met a guy that I really like and has brought the smile back to my face (my daughter has noticed it and so have friends). He even asked me “Have you ever felt such a strong connection?” I asked him if he wanted the truth (he said yes) and I responded “Yes I have, once. And I married him.” Well he didn’t run away.
I want to feed the relationship but not throw the buffet at it 🤣🤣 So I appreciate your openness and great words of advice.
Proceed with caution because narcissistic people use that line a lot. Go slowly.
Sounds like u r giving breadcrumbs to make him hungry for you. Red flag!
@@sarahhunter8997 yeah, they usually love bomb hard in the beginning.
Go slow
Enjoy
build trust
communicate
enjoy
build a spiritual bond
May Gid bless you. 🙏🏼❤️
The book “Attached” was the catalyst to understanding myself and set me off on a journey to self-discovery. Many reads followed , unveiling layers of trauma, and how to heal from them. Definitly recommend this book to begin understanding your roots.
Absolutely, you have told the truth about relationships and childhood trauma. I spent 24 years in therapy (off and on) and at 72, this is the first time in my life where I feel I can be just the person I like and feel free to be “me”!
Congrats! Better late than never. Why to go! Just be you. You are enough & worthy of what’s best and whatever works for you. And the cool part is that it’s also ok to just do it all your own ways. With an open mind, heart & spirit, I send you positive, healthy, happy vibes! Celibrating your authenticity with you🎉
Hi @lsp1950 I am older than you and just lately realized a childhood trauma that kept creeping into my head and I kept pushing away – I realized it had to do with my feelings towards my father (who sadly is gone so I hope he understands now) and that it was about his not protecting me – and possibly blaming him blaming me (partly), for something that happened to me, when I was preschool – which I can see now that it was because of his father’s treatment probably towards his family…generational sins is what I am calling it – time to change that!! My friend, I shared this with recently, because I felt that he restored my trust in the opposite sex, by being kind and sticking up for me – (and he kissed my in the cloak room in Gr. 4) and led me to have a liking for boys – he is a kind and a loyal life time friend – yes, that I like very much! (too complicated to explain here)Thanks for your sharing…
I stopped dating seven years ago. Never happier in my life. You are correct: Most of us are dysfunctional.
9 here, still happy!
14 years. Lol!!!
its been a little over a year for me. i’ve never felt this free before!
I vowed to stop dating last February and it was the best decision I have made for myself in a long time. I hope I’m saying that I’m happy like you after 7! 🙌🏼
Ten. 😊
Hi Jonathon…I’ve got one for you. My guy is Autistic, and went through a very difficult childhood. He thanked me once for seeing him in a way he can’t see himself, because all I see is his genius and creativity, his sense of humor, spirituality, and responsibility. He is amazing. Love your videos!
I hope my nephew finds someone like you. He has asbergers I would love him to find someone genuine.
@@deniseelsworth7816 I have a nephew with Asbergers too…he is such a sweet man and so intelligent and funny… I wish the same for him ❤
I was seeing a guy with autism for a while and I definitely appreciated his uniqueness and the way he viewed the world. I miss him but he has other issues he needs to address.
Beautiful heart you have.
This is resonating with me! I met my former boyfriend in a book store looking for a new copy of Seat of the Soul. My copy was destroyed in a my home when my ex husband burned our house down.
I dated that man for 3 years, he helped me heal from the pain of divorce. We broke up amicably. And I met my true soul mate after The break up and I couldn’t have loved my Soul mate unless my prior boyfriend taught me to love myself again ❤
@@lisawheelberg6306 maybe he was the blessing sent into your life for that purpose
I lost myself recently trying to make a relationship work. It made all my stuff scream! I finally pulled out as I was tired of crying and being sad ALL THE TIME! My heart is now free to get on with my life!
@@user-kw5dq6pq3g i did the very same in alone now working on my self my home just take my self time
“When Harry Met Sally” is my favorite movie. I once fell in love with a “high maintenance” man. To me, it’s not really high maintenance. It’s the things that make him feel good and secure. Lots of interaction (quality time/quantity time) and yes, that unpacking. It’s his empathy, deep thinking, wicked wit, corny dry humor, creativity, and natural curiosity make him not only him, It makes him incredibly attractive, even when he exasperatingly argues a point (and he is wrong), even when he’s being Eyeore-ish. He’s a beautiful person. He’s a big TeddyBear. Hoping he feels love and peace in his current LD relationship. Those things meant for you, find you. It all works out.
My adult problem is especially after 45. I need to find someone who loves me as much as I love myself.
I felt this in my soul. I’ve done the work, healed my traumas and I genuinely love myself. I didn’t do all that work to allow someone into my life who doesn’t love me the way I love me ❤
IT TAKES A WOMAN FOR A MAN TO CONNECT TO HIS HEART ❤
Save yourself 20 minutes. The answer to the title is in minute 14. The sentence is “I like you.”
Thanks, but some of us want the 20 minutes of the “why” this sentence is 🙂
Thank you legend 😂
Thought about your comment summary and that made me laugh and … I liked you lol
Happy day !
Thank you Dean 🪴
Ya i kept fast forwarding honestly waitimg for the references to the answer of the title
What a good relationship needs:
1. A strong connection early on…an affinity for each other, like you’ve known this person a long time.
2. Intentionality from both people. Use radical honesty when you explain what you want, your past experiences and deficiencies. Be authentic, vulnerable and transparent.
3. Be introspective, do personal development work. Know yourself.
4. Genuinely like someone as a person and TELL them “I like you.” Don’t be afraid to communicate with each other.
As usual, Jonathon, this is all amazing advice! God bless you. Hugs to all who are looking for a life partner, I pray you find what you need.
Thanks…
*It’s incredible how a few well-chosen words can linger in someone’s mind. Let’s remember the impact our words can have and use them to strengthen connections.*
I’m a female divorced @ 53. Dating now is hard. Through my divorce and men after, has brought me to trust no one. I pray I will trust again. I try not to compare my past relationships to current ones, but when I’ve seen these actions or lack of. It’s hard not to compare.