How can I HEAL without focusing on the narcissist?
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Personally, I believe that you are going to have to go into that space. The memories that are still hurting you are wounds. They need to be processed and healed.
I take my healing as work arounds and focusing on life outside the relationship. I can focus on and improve my hobbies and other relationships. Therapy is also essential for healing. Building the knowledge in other passions that help erase the reminders of the Narcs and toxicity of the past.
Thank you for all that you do and wish therapy was more like this!
Thank you Dr. Ramani!!!
Dr. Ramani, good luck with your bread making. I hope you achieve your bread making skills as much as you are teaching us healing skills. I know we will eventually get there. Maybe not today or tomorrow but one day we will surprise ourselves! ❤
Thank you for the insight. I still struggle with the constant thoughts of being too incompetent or stupid for much to be worth trying to accomplish, which leads to the typical garbage feelings and hesitation to actually get much done.
Dr. Ramani, you have opened a lot of doors for me with your knowledge. Thank you for putting so much time and effort into studying these topics and making good content. The future seems brighter now.
This is excellent advice. I have tried similar approaches to good effect. This was a reminder I needed. Sometimes the first step forward is scariest. Definitely don’t share it with many or the narcissistic person in your life.
Healing is hard when you don’t have social support
Indeed. In that case, healing will include building a healthy support network from scratch.
True! Because the narc will go on the offensive in and around your social groups to proactively see to it that you are “at fault” for everything that went wrong. The non-narc just doesn’t have that drive; but the narc does! It’s evil.
Add grief from the death without support and it’s more difficult.
@@carolhill8917 Let’s not compare pain on levels of difficulty.
Thats more difficult, when even dont want to come out of cave @@MichaelLee-em4le
Never let your emotions over power your intelligence.
If your glass is empty, remember it is full of air– which you need to breath! Love from the eternal optimist!
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Too fun … “ I’m glass completely empty” – your honesty is so refreshing
“Stop looking to them to be the ones to notice what you’re doing”, thanks Dr. Ramani. I’ll never forget this.
Yes, but it’s so hard when you have nobody else in the world, my narcissit mother isolated me so much that now at 45 I live like a hermit, is impossible for me to form relationships, so I guess I have to keeep to myself anything new that I may be trying. Anybody else out there being alone in the world?
@@Musicandfilms7you can tell me 😊, I like when people reply to any YouTube comment I write. I’m kind of in the same boat, I’m 41 with no “friend group”. So anything I’m into I usually end up doing it alone.
@@tiffanybazemore3058 @Muscanfilms7 – I’m 54 and I lost access to my entire family due to a cheating narcissistic partner. Lies and flying monkeys have isolated me so much to the point where I don’t know who I can trust anymore. I hope you guys heal well, and manage to find an end to the lonliness.
@@tiffanybazemore3058 Thanks for your reply it made me feel less alone in this situation
When we are at home, my husband is not noticing what I am doing. But everytime I leave the house, he wants to know where I am going and when I will be back. That’s so annoying to me.
Laughter is the best medicine, like watching a funny movie or a sitcom helps.
Bec. as Dr. Ramani brilliantly points out that a “narc. relationship is a daily adventure in fear” humor is def. SUPER helpful to release the tension & stress from being consumed by that fear. It is however, more of a coping mechanism, medicinal or, a distraction from a painful reality rather than something that completely heals us and gives us necessary ammunition for the situation. I wish you to keep on smiling and laughing though and that whatever you’re going through never ever ever steals your joy & ability to laugh! 🙏🏼
Agree
We all started off not knowing about narcism and the difficulties of navigating this relationship, but here we are. Soldiering on.. come to the point where we have realised the need for healing irrespective of the status of the said relationship.
I guess nothing in the world must be harder than this to achieve! We all willed our everything to make the relationship to work similarly i think we can put our everything to make our passion or healing work.
Thanks a ton, Doc❤❤
Loads of prayer and good will sent your way🙏
The smear campaign was hurtful. The people who believed it and never asked me for my side was 10x worse. The cult of my family of origin, no longer interested in being a member, but the scar is there.
I took up ukulele. It is so much fun.
It does take a daily toll. It’s my 82 old mother that just moved into an apartment an hour away from me but it is still issues everyday. I manage her bills and healthcare and anything else that arises for her. It’s a lot. Social support is not available here. I only have this site. I feel inept in my job. Today is not a good day. Thanks Dr Ramani for all you do.
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Hey Dr Ramani. Get you a 5 gallon bucket, a long skinny outdoor thermometer, cling wrap and a tea towel.put the.dough in an oiled bowl. Heat water to 95F. Pour water in bucket 2 inch. Place thermometer in water.cover bucket with tea towel. Check every 15 min. Try not to let.water temp get below 90F. Works like a charm. Happy baking.
When I listen to you, I feel like your words and presence are like big large arms hugging around my body taking me to a sense of grounding and calm that can make my bed and get my day started to get out of the house. You are peace to me. I really appreciate you. I can even tear a bit without freaking out. Thank you.
This guidance is particularly good as it points us back to ourselves and we are the ones who need to heal!