How narcissists exploit innocent victims
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They were able to exploit you because you were unaware. You weren’t thinking the way they think. You didn’t expect them to take advantage of you. They gave you a false character and you tried to see the best in them. It’s time to start seeing people as who they actually are, rather than who we want or expect them to be.
This sounds a lot like victim blaming. Kind of hard to do when it’s your mom and you’re an infant. Telling people to recognize scapegoats because that way don’t get drawn in avoids the whole topic of narcissistic parents, which is what she’s talking about.
@@margaretwilkinson8188 exactly. I was the scapegoat for my father. The usual mantra I heard from a young age was “if you hadn’t been born”
@ It may sound like victim blaming to those who may want to view themselves as completely pure and innocent. But the reality is that victims must take personal responsibility. No one is coming to save us. We must raise our awareness of the predator’s game plan and what makes us susceptible to their tactics.
@@margaretwilkinson8188 I did not get that take away from @NarcSuvivor at all. No victim blaming.
@@NarcSurvivor I agree. I find myself wondering why I keep going back to my sister that has a very angry and hurtful disposition towards me and frankly everyone around her..
Just like with my last two ex’s I ask myself why I was with them in the first place. If we do not look within ourselves and look for our reasons we will never escape the next narcissist becoming part of our lives. We too need self improvement. But we at least are not harming anyone.
I was the scapegoat of a narcissistic family member. I still feel like I am better off without them
Same opinion 😁
I’m with you.😊🤗… absolutely
Sadly, they still love to exploit us. Mine will not let go, I just stick to my firm boundaries staying away and never engage.
same
I feel the same too:))
You don’t know how this has helped me! I grew up with a narcistic mother and 2 older sisters.
It has taught me to stop in my tracks to STOP GIVING MY EVERYTHING AWAY FOR FREE. BIG FOR ME!
When I stepped away from my narcissist sister I felt my other siblings emotionally distancing themselves from me. My guess is that she filled their heads with all sorts of untruths.
yup, ditto
Most probably
Same. Found out she had been triangulating family members against me for years before I had a clue what was happening. I moved away and unwittingly went no contact. They have all lost their minds.
The scapegoating system can fool everyone into believing one person is the scapegoat (getting lots of attention, often negative) when actually it’s another person (getting none). As soon as the hidden person makes a move, the entire system turns on them, unified.
I was a threat to the narcissists who raised me, simply for having a disability. Unlike my siblings, I was the scapegoat, and the bullying followed me to school, leaving no escape. I fled 20 years ago, but when I used simple logic, they all told me to F off—narcissists can’t handle logic. I just wanted validation that I wasn’t crazy, but instead, everyone defended them, no matter the harm they caused.
You just described my first 32 years of my life. Thank you!
“The wound is where the light gets in.” Thank you for your beautiful words of encouragement near the end. Brought tears to my eyes.
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Guys pls watch this to the end. This is such a powerful and empowering message. Thank you so much Dr. Ramani and the team.
Interestingly enough, I think I was a scapegoat and a golden child at the same time in my childhood family.
As a matter of fact my father used to tell me that I was to become a genius or a bastard, again and again. It became clearer and clearer to me in time that I wasn’t a genius, and under the spell i could only be a bastard. I’m 33 yrs old now and still on the process of unspelling what they have done to me.
Imagine being scapegoated your entire life, and just when you finally get some confidence, the whole world starts using your name as shorthand for “hateful woman no one likes”.
Keep going 😉 freedom lies on the other side of people’s opinions
Thank you, Dr. Ramani! You are beyond gifttd ❤. You have no idea how significant you have been in my healing journey. My deepest gratitude and blessings.
You are the friend I don’t have. Thank you for the compassion.
All so true 👍 I appreciate the bit at the end: ones who have been scapegoated are often “brimming with light”… and become fiercely protective of others 🙏
I was once the scapegoat but it was a long time ago. I had horrible abusive adult relationships for years with men. I’m not that person anymore and I’m aware of narcs and what they’re like and I choose not to let them into my life anymore. I’m free 😊
My narcissistic parent let me know how they really felt about me after years of being their scapegoat and turned the rest of my family against me, even after we all had a loss in the family. I just have to be an adult about it and distance myself from all of them.. it was really disheartening but they all did what was easy for them by staying quiet on the sidelines and letting the abuse continue. Even after asking for help..
It is what it is. They don’t deserve to have a say in what I do with my life anymore and getting myself away from them is day by day process but one day it will all be behind me.
Thank you Dr. If you are experiencing a child who is being scapegoated Please Step In and Protect the child in anyway you can. It shouldn’t hurt like this to be a child or to be any human. Be kind.
I was scapegoated from birth. I think my mom resented me for being born and “ruining her life.” She was a single mom who worked as a nurse. It was a very stressful job but she couldn’t let her rage out on her boss/coworkers/patients, so she went home and released it out on me. I was her literal and emotional punching bag. She’s dead now, thank goodness.
I was under the thumb of another narcissist in adulthood for 15 years, but managed to escape. Now at 36 I feel like I can finally start living my life.
That s pretty much my case as well…and a lot of work to heal myself!
You truly realize the extent to which it’s not you once you watch a narcissist, who suddenly lost their scapegoat, to gear up and immediately try to find a new target.