How narcissists get what they want (and why no one stops them)
Ever wonder why narcissists never seem to face consequences? This video breaks down how narcissistic people push boundaries, manipulate others, and wear everyone down—until giving in feels easier than standing up to them. That’s not charm—it’s exhaustion and enablement.
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I have a few of these as Neighbors….. and as it goes unchecked, it just gets worse
yes – one started hammering this morning between 1:00 and 2:00 a.m. Ridiculous they have all day to hammer – why late at night like that?!? Obviously because they can and because if I complain I can’t prove that it’s them.
I love doctor Ramani she’s spot on
It begins in Childhood. The sibling(s) who wear parents down to get their way. Shopkeepers may give in to get rid of an annoying customer. An empathetic person doesn’t want to make anyone’s life harder.
I used to work with a guy who really knew how to charm his way around the office and get away with so much. Even on his first day, he was already acting like he was the boss. People like him know how to read the room and say all the right things and somehow always get what they want. Even when they make a mistake, they knew how to navigate around it to make it look like they did nothing wrong, and will even blame someone else. Crazy thing was how people believed him. It was so frustrating because I was always the type who showed up, worked hard and always did the right thing, but I still got ignored. I wasn’t the loud or charming type, like I didn’t know how to make people laugh or win them over in a second. Somehow, being caring and respectful to everyone didn’t matter. Just that people seem to like the ones who are loud and charismatic, not the ones who actually do their jobs. I won’t let it change me though. I still show up and do my best. Even if no one notices, I’d rather be true to who I am and continue to keep going.
Felt. I see you
@@applegal3058 I agree on that “genuine peaple make genuine connections”, it is not the case of narcs. With the time you can see their behaviour.
Exactly! I say this exact same thing. Nobody has the power to change who I choose to be or how I handle any situation. It’s a very rare thing to be solid in yourself. I refuse to be fake or to stroke another person’s fake bs. There is all kinds of peace in my solidity.
Totally!!@@applegal3058
My ex husband was like that. He told me straight up “I don’t like to lose.”
I learned early that one reason narcissists get away with things is: they lie, boldfaced lie, convincingly lie to anyone who will give them what they want. I spent a lifetime having my mother blame me for the very things she had done and everyone believed her over me. Honesty is no in their vocabulary.
Me too. Me too. I totally feeel this,
Yep. They lie without conscience. Or compassion for others. And most people aren’t like that, so they have a hard time believing anyone else is that way. So that’s a part of it. But another contributing factor is that it’s just easy to “go along with” the narcissist instead of pushing back on their lies. Because if you do pushback on a narcissist, they punish you for the pushback. Those two things work together to benefit the narcissist.
Yes, I gave in so many times as I was so tired of argueing…and years after I still feel bad about not standing up for myself and stopping this insane connection. I did 3 years ago and still so grateful for the break up. What a wußte of life time.
I totally agree. Sometimes our exhaustion is the reason why narcissists get away with everything. They are relentless at grinding people down. It’s gross and embarrassing.
Oh my gosh, yes! 💯. They’ll also do ANYTHING to win and stoop way lower than most ppl can ever dream of imagining, from my personal experience. SMH.
The constant pressure is exhausting. They’ll keep provoking and prodding and it takes up so much energy to deal with them. Their goal is to exhaust you so you are confused and 2nd guessing yourself.
Winning By Whining – my narcissistic mother’s “go to” strategy. If nagging was an Olympic sport, she’d be a gold medalist.
My narc husband whines, literally.
Dr.Ramani this us one of your most profound videos thank you. You’re a blessing to women going through the worse time in theory life.. you teach us that self respect is key…self-care is key and that sometimes the battle is not worth it
In 12 minutes Dr. Ramani clarified years of my life. Thank you!
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This is EXACTLY the reason why Family Court NEEDS to punish the narcissist for bad behavior and false allegations.
In order for that to work there would have to be no narcissists & personality-disordered “law enforcement” officials & “judges” with no need to pervert the law for their own dominance needs
I’m going through this right now, and it’s overwhelming and exhausting to see my ex get away with *everything* and also successfully direct suspicion at me over his made-up stories. Family court has no idea how common this dynamic is, and our kids unfortunately pay the price.
Yesss! But they won’t! It’s a system based on collective stupidity.
I was also the child who never got away with anything! That’s why I hate these people. 😂 In a way, we envy them, and I think that’s why we want justice so bad. They trigger all the childhood anger we have stored up!!
The sad part is that many times judges don’t know about narcissistic behavior. Even when they do, unless that narc is clinically evaluated to be a narc, the court will not take it into consideration. And, dear God, don’t mention narcissist to the court/judge because they will get on you big time. It is a terrible thing to deal with a narcissist in the court system. Oh, not even talk about the situation when the judge is a huge narcissist.
Years ago I was a camera salesman. This narcissist came into the store and told me what I was going to charge him for a camera. I said no because that price was lower than we had paid for the camera. He got huffy and rude and I kept saying no. He finally left.
I wish I could say we always won such confrontations, but sometimes we did give in. Narcissists are simply awful people.
We value our inner peace and our time beyond their immature argument, so we let them… I totally agree. This is a smart move to know what deserve our energy. 👌✨
The narcissist in my life is my sister. She’s got a domineering personality while I’m more sensitive and easygoing and she’s always getting her way unfortunately no one stands upto her whenever I’ve stood up to her it ended in disaster I was told I was causing problems. She sees no problem with hitting below the belt, but when I hit back, she starts shaming me, calling me evil and saying I don’t deserve anyone in my life . I’ve started ignoring her. I’ve put lots of distance between us because our whole lives, she’s been critical of me, so in order to keep my sanity, I keep distant
I’m the scapegoat. My whole life, I felt as if everyone with some sense of authority over me has held me under a sweltering magnifying glass waiting for me to step out of line. So, they can crush my spirit like an ant. As an adult, I exhaustedly triple check that my i’s are dotted, t’s crossed, and q’s curled. Not because I’m a perfectionist or a “know it all” but because I make sure to acknowledge MY reality before someone tries to bend it for their personal benefit. When they point out the “mistake” I can confidently and definitely defend myself with receipts. It’s an exhausting coping mechanism but it gives me a sense of safety and ownership of my reality.
I am right there with you!!
I can relate and haven’t linked it to my past until I read this comment. ❤
Yes same here lost or hidden child /adult scapegoat
This is truly a clear explanation of what goes on in politics today.
you can’t reason with these people. Its best to pick your battles and concentrate on maintaining your own mental health!
Thank you for this video, though it brings up painful memories. At first i was with an abusive and narc wife for 10 years of my life, then i left when i couldn’t bear it any longer, Bear in mind i only stayed that long because of our kids. After two years of being single, i met the love of my life, and we had a fantastic first 5 months, then my P.T.S.D kicked in and I did a lot of things i am not proud of because i wasn’t properly healed. and she left me. I think of her everyday I realize now and i feel so empty and lonely inside. I love her so much
I am terribly sorry to hear this, and trust me, i know exactly what you are going through. loosing someone you love is always tough, i have been there, and it wasn’t easy, but i did all i could to get her back, so I watched a lot of you tube videos especially coach Corey Wayne, Matthew Hussey and Doctor Ramani. I also used the services of a spiritual guide as well
Really? how did you get a spiritual guide, and how do I reach him or her?
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