How POWERFUL people EMBOLDEN narcissists
Ever felt dismissed by someone with influence when you tried to explain narcissistic abuse? This video unpacks why powerful, privileged people often don’t understand the damage narcissists cause—and how their disconnect can leave survivors feeling silenced, invalidated, and alone.
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2 minutes in and Dr. Ramani always on point 100%. True Badass she is❤❤
So true 🎉 thank you 🙏
thank u for this important message in today’s climate.
In my experience the ENABLERS can and sometimes are the WORST even among the narcissist themselves. They will defend the Narc and even go to great lengths to prove that it may even be YOU thats the issue; they look PAST the signs that this person isnt normal nor healthy. All of it is some disoriented, insane type sht! 🙄😔🙏
Yep. This right here, 100%. The narcissist’s enablers are the most damage dealing flying monkeys you’ll encounter. Best to just avoid them ALL altogether.
Yes, I agree, totally……
It’s normally a matter of who they have “known” longer. The longer they know the mask, the more likely they are to trust it. It’s the same for safe relationships.
You are so right on this. The ex and her family is this exact way in protecting her. Everything youre stating ive not just been through…ive survived and thrived. Im thankful for going through the toxicness. She gave me a gift in the ability to now help others in their journey and seson of change through the gift/testimony.
“than the average bear,” oh lordy, i get u, yogi.
This was so powerful and hits on for me what’s happening all around my world-thank you for keeping us sane
Where’s there’s money you’ll find a whole lot of narcissism. Narcissism being criminally minded in nature. What a MESS !
I enjoy watching Dr. Ramani’s daily video. It is a consistent reminder for me that I made the right choice to leave a narcissistic husband.
For sure. My forever bride and I have had to go no contact with my adult narcissist daughter, now 30 and trained in the Dark Way of the narcissist by my ex wife. Despite the 25 years of love, support, and kindness I showed to her, she insists on seeing the ugly, distorted, and untrue image of me that my ex (her narcissistic mom) worked so hard to give her. And she treats me the abusive, ugly way her mom did. I poured my heart and soul into raising someone who hates me and treats me like garbage.
Several months of counseling and scores of Dr Ramani’s videos helped me reach the point of radical acceptance. I know there is nothing I can or will do that is going to change her perception or her behavior. I know that going no contact is the only way to prevent more of the toxicity, negativity, and outright abuse from affecting me and my forever bride. We are low drama, loving people and we are done with the heartache of trying to love a narcissist who just wants to hurt us. Daily videos from Dr Ramani help ground and remind me that we are doing the right thing. Going no contact with an adult child is hard. The grief is real and significant. So reminders are absolutely necessary and I cannot thank Dr Ramani enough for her content and continuing support for this community.
For sure. My forever bride and I have had to go no contact with my adult narcissist daughter, now 30 and trained in the Dark Way of the narcissist by my ex wife. Despite the 25 years of love, support, and kindness I showed to her, she insists on seeing the ugly, distorted, and untrue image of me that my ex (her narcissistic mom) worked so hard to give her. And she treats me the abusive, ugly way her mom did. I poured my heart and soul into raising someone who hates me and treats me like garbage.
Several months of counseling and scores of Dr Ramani’s videos helped me reach the point of radical acceptance. I know there is nothing I can or will do that is going to change her perception or her behavior. I know that going no contact is the only way to prevent more of the toxicity, negativity, and outright abuse from affecting me and my forever bride. We are low drama, loving people and we are done with the heartache of trying to love a narcissist who just wants to hurt us. Daily videos from Dr Ramani help ground and remind me that we are doing the right thing. Going no contact with an adult child is hard. The grief is real and significant. So reminders are absolutely necessary and I cannot thank Dr Ramani enough for her content and continuing support for this community.
Spot on dr Ramani. You have nailed it. We live in two different worlds and those with power, privilege and status will never get the struggles of the regular folks and sadly those powerful people, who are often not only narcissistic but also psychopathic, make laws and rules for the majority to follow. And it’s going to get worse.
I had issues with my girlfriend that led to our separation but i have plead with her for reconciliation and she have refused to, I love her very much and wish to have her back, I don’t know what to do
I can feel your pains bro because i had similar problem some months ago but i was able to get my ex girlfriend back with the help of a spiritual guide
Really, I’m so happy for you and can i also get help from the spiritual guide? Letting go of someone you love is very difficult
Absolutely, Father Osoba Salama is the spiritual counselor i used to get my ex girlfriend back
Thank you for this information. I have just looked him up online with his name, impressive
Try to understand why she separated. If you cannot understand enough to not accidentally hurt her, separation might be the most loving action for the both of you (doesn’t mean without pain and sacrifice). If that happens, neither of you has failed. Neither of you is unloved or unlovable. Just incompatible on certain things. You both will always be worthy of being able to be authentic and joyful, whether or not you are with or without each other. People are not “possessions “, but are existences, like oursleves, that we do wish to protect. Relationships are hard and they take compromise from both parties to evolve into their true form over time with authentic effort. I pray for both your healing either way.
Thank you Dr. Ramani for achnowledging that even some therapists “just don’t get it,” and probably never will.
This post so aptly describes, privileged class, who live insulated lives to ever understand narcissism and its effects on the less privileged class.
I love this video. ❤
9:24 – 9:44 This is why my narcissistic abusers refused to defend me against a racist. Because that racist has a well-known business that they still want to be associated with.
The lengths they go to, to protect their fragile ego is sick.
Wow, so Brilliant. By their privileged ignorance and apathy, these Powerful enablers are changing for the worse the way regular people are exposed to narcissists. Powerful video.
Good point about the guru charging all that money. Conflict of interest with the high-level consciousness with all that money.
With the narcissist that I dealt with, it didn’t have to be people of actual power (wealth, status, etc.) It could be a perfect strangers of whom he knew absolutely nothing about. And yet- the power of that stranger laid in how his interactions with them was effected ME. For example, if he gaslit me the entire morning while on vacation… he would later be sure to strike up a jolly conversation with a perfect stranger, giving me the impression that I wasn’t worth talking to but speaking with this person he had just met gave him great joy. So in my case, it wasn’t necessarily people with power but ANYone with whom he could use to wield power over me. It took me awhile to figure out what was happening but with great appreciation for Dr Ramani (as well as others,) I finally got away.
the part about what fools narcissists can be when sucking up to “power,” … they’ll hurt anyone when they’re hoping to make a good impression … it’s so dangerous
THANK YOU DR. RAMANI. I binged watched your videos one year ago and then had an overload. And then couple of months ago it made a click in my head and I figured it out. I was upset because as you rightly said it, we live in a narcissistic world. Especially we in the west. The west that tried everything to erase reciprocity from human encounters and tried everything in order to justify double standards. It just clicked and I could see that double standards are everywhere in our society. It suddenly kicked in why I can’t stomach my academia friends that like to quote Nietzsche and feel smug about themselves AND ABOVE all WHY I CAN’T STAND NIETZSCHE AND ALL THE ANECDOTAL EXCUSES around his unethical non philosophy that was all about declaring one group as slaves and the other as aristocratic artist lovers. We live in his world. He influenced most of western philosophers and we actually wonder why the world is so messed up. It’s all about shallow aesthetic suffering by the aristocracy and declaring that compassion with the depraved slaves is weakness. There are no values in this Nietzschean world. Because principals and values only applied for the benefit of one small aristocratic group ARE NO VALUES, BUT TOOLS OF POWER. The aesthetic emotions produced in order to show the aesthetic suffering of the bleeding narcissist while he is suffering over writing a piece of paper is just shallow and dull self indulgence and self assertion on a massive scale. It’s propaganda and not an emotion. Either something is sad or it’s not. But the deranged narcissist just can’t get it and is full of himself and likes to quote metaphysical esoteric by the prophet of the privileged. For him a family illicitly kicked out of the house isn’t sad, but him facing someone he dislikes getting a better job is the end of the world. And all of us have to dance around them and pity them and tell them that they look great. It’s all about aesthetics. And these guys have the audacity to speak ABOUT RESENTMENT. It’s a nightmare working with them or for them. They actually assume that the surrounding humans have- I repeat- HAVE to be worse than them and nobody should dare break their records or dare do a better job. They will use the most dispicable tricks and even dare to harm you physically. THOSE ARE THE GUYS WHO LIKE TO TALK ABOUT RESENTMENT, IF GOD FORBID SOMEBODY MENTIONS THE INJUSTICE AND DOUBLE STANDARDS OR THE MEAN BEHAVIOUR. Then you will experience such a drama and a meltdown. They don’t get reciprocity and mutual respect. They will tell you that compassion is for the weak and shut you down in a second, only to tell you afterwards for hours how they suffered as they had to wait for fifteen minutes in the store and how a mean woman didn’t greet them politely and how that causedbthem huge mental pain. I mean what do they expect by telling their story of suffering???? Compassion? I thought it is something for the weak. They can’t get it, that you need mutual reciprocity. I visit you when you are sick and try to build you up, then you at least shouldn’t invent mean stories about me. Even that has happened to me.
And honestly eastern societies still value reciprocity and can discern double standards. But western European countries and American are just screwed. It’s the philosophy we implemented, it’s the propaganda we watched and buyed and it was the sweet incentive that we are better than the savages. The narcissists coyed us and made us into indifferent zombies. And many even think that quoting the narcissistic non philosphers is the solution.
Thank you dr Ramani. You are good at entangling societal issues. It just needs some time until it really gets clear.
Power and narcissism go hand in hand, the latter always seek power