How SMART women divorce a narcissist
How SMART women divorce a narcissist//Want the best advice on divorcing a narcissist? This video will show you how to prepare before leaving a husband or wife with narcissistic personality disorder. If you’re experiencing narcissistic abuse from a malignant or covert narcissist (npd), watch this. You’ll learn sneaky things to outsmart and negotiate with the narcissist even when there is emotional abuse, narcissistic behavior, financial abuse, gaslighting and more that rebecca zung talks about.
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This is good to know thanks for sharing Victoria 😀 New sub here
Welcome and thanks for subscribing! Look forward to hearing more from you 🙂
Thanks for the awesome info Victoria…!
Thanks for watching, Lucy!
Love the video, a wonderful topic thanks for sharing Victoria.!
Thank you! And thanks for watching, Carol!
Hello friend good morning!! how are you doing today!! I’m from Africa love to be your friend if you don’t mind!! Let’s chat private and know each other better🙏
Crazy old toxic bat!
Looking forward to getting SMART and being BOSS
Definitely Boss!! Thank you!!!
Yes, boss!!!! You’re so welcome!
I am in the process of divorcing a malignant narcissist husband I put him out of my place he was a horrible person a demon in disguise I am happy he is gone and I had my own place.
I’m happy for you, too!!!
Thank you for this great video! I have been fantasizing about divorcing my husband. I never really knew what to do or where to start. This past week it was revealed to me that he is cheating and has been for for a long time. What makes this so interesting is him being ordained and reassuring me(without me asking or suspecting) that he has a commitment to God. He would regularly acuse me of cheating out of the blue. I thought that he must have a guilty continuous, not knowing that he did indeed.
I’m so glad this helped! That’s called “projection” and it’s a classic narcissistic trait. If you’d like a free call with me, you can book one here: https://bit.ly/3lW3QJI
Would love to try to help 🙂
Me to I also fantasize about divorcing my husband , my babies is what keeps me hindered and I’m scared of how he will react. Important for us women to do what is best in the selves at some point. I too am figuring this all out .
Me to I also fantasize about divorcing my husband , my babies is what keeps me hindered and I’m scared of how he will react. Important for us women to do what is best in the selves at some point. I too am figuring this all out .
@@reginasmith6188 Good luck to you! Let me know if there’s anything I can do to help 🙂
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Boss ! Thank you for sharing all your info.
Thanks for watching!!!
Thank you so much for this video
I’m starting my SMART
Thanks for watching and for your comment! Good luck 🙂
This is 70 years old woman. I live with narcissistic personality disorder man, 78 years old man.
16 years, till now, I tried divorce from him. But couldn’t. ‘Cause I was weak. NOW have to do. Thank you so much. Please help me go on.
Yes! I am here for you 🙂 Please book a session with me here: https://victoriamccooey.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/dfcbgrdtsbbtfvvcpwbvzxfncgdnfnnf
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Good mam
He started getting his ducks in a row a year before. He’s steps ahead of me. I filed 6 weeks ago!
You’ll catch up! You’re smarter 🙂
@@VictoriaMcCooey looks like the firm he hired specializes in abuse. Not sure what he’s plotting?
Secret side hustle. That’s funny. I get reprimanded if I’m at my mom’s house too long. Too long being more than an hour. Hard to hustle anything when there’s cameras on the house.
Ugh! That is so true. I have found a way of disarming the cameras but I only do it for a very short time so as not to let him notice the cameras went off. But I go through the same. My home is a prison. 😥
Get a P.O. box (hides wherever you move) & safe deposit box at another bank if possible. Never leave location on your phone, search the codes online to find if your phone got hacked, maybe its delusional but I trust What’s App encryption. Get good at playing forgetful your phone is off (when its not) & get a good app for recording by pushing a button with little to no lights turning on so you can catch him in the act or ask him to repeat if you didn’t get it the 1st time. Beware of them taking loans on 401k’s even better if you can get a ROTH 401k to stash money it’s not a bad idea to loan yourself cuz you don’t havta get their signature, it can be used legit for divorce fees & you don’t get in trouble. When you move to a place to get utilities ask for a protected acct requiring a password so no one can call up & pretend to be you to get your current address.
Yes! I agree!!! He gets angry if I go anywhere -even to visit my family!! Constantly calling /texting to reprimand me for being gone, when there’s so much I “should” be doing at home.
He wants to know my whereabouts at all times -who I’m with, what I’m doing, etc. If I don’t answer, he gets very angry! Scolding me, because it “could have been” an emergency!!!
(it never is, however. He calls to ask where the macaroni is, or something like that -every time -and it’s constant!)
On one occasion, I was having lunch with an old friend, catching up for a few hours. He called and texted 18 times!!! It was pathetic, irritating, and ridiculous!! When I pointed this out to him, he shamed me, made himself the victim, saying that I should be happy that he “cares” so much about me, and just wants to stay connected. Then acted all sad, saying that I hurt his feelings.
Omgosh!!!!! The madness!!!!
I think I actually ended up apologizing to him that day!!!
I feel like I’m reading my life. Dang. I hope you have been able to get out away from this. I am working on doing this now. ❤️
Having the hardest time finding time to fill out the paperwork when he’s not around. It’s the homework that you have to hide until you’re done with it.
Don t you have female friends to hide and a safe in a bank?????????
Good job with your video !
Why thank you so much 🙂
It seems impossible to be strong in all of those areas when you’re so weak, emotionally exhausted and depleted from interacting with the narcissist.
It’s hard, but not impossible. Surround yourself with people who understand what it’s like. Book an initial session with me if you’d like some support 🙂
I’m soooo emotionally exhausted. So, so, so….
@@snbleethese people isolate you and I had no one to turn to for help
Sure, I should have “stashed” YEARS ago and now it’s too late. When you are literally under restricted financial control and on disability and no joint accounts and zero resources. That’s MY life and now it’s headed towards divorce after 22 1/2 years of marriage. It’s easy to tell a complete stranger what they should do when you have no clue of their personal circumstances.
Yes! I’m in the same boat!! Should have stashed when I was able. Now, no income, applying for disability, feeling lost, hopeless-beaten. ☹️
38 years of this! Stayed for kids, then for adult mentally handicapped (step)daughter, who I cared for, (her bio mom never invested any interest, time, or financial resources since she was 2 years old), and then for my grandchildren!!!
In retrospect, while I believed that I was doing the right, moral, ethical thing, I totally screwed up! Should have cut losses years ago, and let chips fall where they may.
Now my options are limited. Nobody recognizes, nor cares about, the sacrifices I made, and all the suffering I endured, whilst trying to do the “right things”, for the children’s sake.
Adding insult to injury, his “smear campaign”, and dishonest narrative he’s been spewing out to everyone, has damaged my relationships with my children and grandchildren! And also friends and extended family!!!
He’s somehow managed to wear the mask of the “victim”!
By telling a story-that it’s been sooo difficult having to take care of me all these years, with my depression, migraines, etc. Then, acting like a saint, or hero, makes them believe that it’s because he loves me sooo much, and wants to honor his vows.
What a bunch of crap!!! He’s had so many affairs over the past 3 decades-I lost count at 13!! He conveniently leaves that information out of his “story”. (and his vows he claims to want to honor ).
Feel like I’m living in crazy town over here!!!
In addition, the aforementioned depression and debilitating migraines were and are the result of living day after agonizing day with this manipulative, deceitful, toxic, constantly angry and abusive man!!!!
don’t listen to this “coach” about the stashing part… since later in court, if your partner can prove that you were taking away money from your household and stashing it, it will be reduced from the assets when you’d be splitting em. I am not a coach by I know a few people who got divorced, two of them it was ugly
Gathering financial information is almost impossible when you are married to an emotional, financially abusive narcissist.
Especially nowadays with most things being electronic.
Yes.. he hides all passwords
I agree. He gave me access to a bank account in which he refinanced my vehicle. However, when I went to log in, I needed an authentication step, which goes to his phone. Hmm.. so much for that.
Mine hides everything financial!!! Different banks, huge safe, all information locked up, etc. He’s taken all my cards and debit cards too! Lost my job due to physical and mental illness caused by toxic relationship. I have to beg for gas money, or even to buy food and prescriptions! And I’ll only get a $20 thrown at me if I’m “good”-keep my mouth shut, or perform some “tasks” for him. If I don’t comply, I get nothing. I’m a prisoner in my own home -which doesn’t even feel like “home” to me. I feel like an unloved, unwanted foster child!!! Then, of course, I’ll be “punished” in some way, for not following his rules or instructions.
Yeah, everything was online. Hidden.
I just came out of the dysphoria that comes when you’ve been abused for so long and I’m finding a way out.
So happy you’re finding your way out!
I can’t see way out. I’m scared to lose my daughter I can’t imagine not being without her everyday. Tonight he told me that he will destroy my job next week and if I leave he will destroy me. I’m scared