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They train you not to rely on them. You can’t ask them for any help. So we shouldn’t depend on them for anything to keep our peace of mind.
I have experienced this for to long. Your positive feelings are not allowed because negative energy is their fuel.
omg Totally!!!!
Yup, that’s why I didn’t invite the narc in my life to my doctoral graduation ceremony.
So draining
They’re demons.
😂 “How dare you be happy!”
A step further, “How dare you be happy about something I can’t take credit for!”
2 step further “how dare you be happy about something I can’t get the credit for and I envy about it and feel insecure 😂
@@mariagill7129 😂 So true!
@@The_Variantgood one!
Well said!!!
I did and I survived. The narc died last February 2023.
Everyone..have a wonderful day ..blessings and much love to you all ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you Dr Ramani for all that you do!
Oh wow! My soon to be ex would always disregard my good news. And the terrible thing is that I’d start responding to him the same way.
But no more. I’m on the path to progress. Love, peace and harmony to all on the receiving end of a narcassist’s disdain!
Don’t be too happy, either. I hid my life from my parents and only showed the personality they approved. I eventually had to go no-contact.
Sending virtual hugs? Need one myself
I’m getting ready to leave my boyfriend.(he’s the scapegoat) I live with him And his twin brother(golden child) I’m just over it. Their mom is too overbearing and she doesn’t even live here. He knows that his mom is toxic and keeps his distance. But her control has made its way in the house.
The definition of insanity is expecting what you will never — EVER — get — with a narcissist!
I believe God sends people to us to help us. That is you, Doctor! You’re a lifesaver and I appreciate it. I’m an authentic, anti narcissist person who see you as someone who helped me so much! Thanks for being a great woman! You are a great woman! Thank you!
I like the analogy of the pollyanna — duped person — putting their fingers in their ears (regarding the narcissist!) and going “la la la la la la la I am clueless!” #GettingReal
One DOESN’T want a therapy which gives one a Bambi-oriented approach.
Thank you, Dr. Ramani It’s the time of year when several of the narcissist s in my past have come sniffing around, hoping for a second chance. Your wise words give me the tool -and the backbone – that I need.
NEVER break no contact plz because there’s a gun trained on your back & you just loaded it!
You are so right! I spent such a lovely Christmas with my big doggie, eating apple/ pear crisp and Facebooking my friends!
My fav is when my husband refuses to ever celebrate anything in my life from birthdays to career achievements, but I overhear him bragging about me to his friends! 😂 I just don’t share anymore and keep my accomplishments to myself. I have a smile on my face and just let him wonder why. It’s all good! God sees my achievements and I give Him the glory! Thank you for your awesome content always, Dr. Ramani! ❤
Double supply from you –
That’s right! The good Lord sees our hard work, our efforts, our sacrifices made to loved ones, etc. He’s the only one that we should be bending over backward to serve.
He’s just using you for the third part of the narcissistic trifecta: sex/cash/show 🤷♀️ you’re mommy supply 🤦♀️ nothing else
My husband also brags about me in public all the time. But in private he devalues everything about me. It’s all show off for his grandiose self and his goal is to make other people jealous of him. He sometimes exaggerate about my accomplishments and social/ career status. In private, he just devalues me entirely.
This was kind of cringey for me, Dr. Ramani, since most of my life I was that Pollyanna. I believed that 90% of humans were good. I looked for the silver lining in every dark cloud. What a burden to carry! Thank you for your insight and for sharing your knowledge. Gaining insight into where I came from, accepting how I behaved, making amends, changing my thinking, throwing out beliefs that are harmful to me, and how I will live the rest of my life is my Recovery.
I wanted to believe the ‘Best’ about everybody too Dr. Ramani. It Cost me dearly too many times. Maya Angelou said it best, ” regardless what somebody Tells you about themselves when you first meet them, Believe them when they SHOW you Who they are the First time ! “
I’m really glad you are in the world Dr. R. … you are validating so many of us.
Absolutely , they make any environment dangerous !
Few people might remember this however at 71 I have a clear memory of it. The “bad people have good in them” started in the 70’s, There was a Catholic nun who befriended an inmate on death row. She saw the “good” in him and started the campaign against the death penalty. They even made a movie about it. The truth of this situation can be summed up by a quote I heard from a corrections officer – “There are no atheists on death row.”
This is so true don’t tell them anything. I have regretted ever time I have told them something good they destroyed it . I remember my daughter showing my husband something she learned in Winter Guard he was so nasty and said well can you do a double?? I felt so bad for her . I remember my whole having to not tell or show my mother anything I had learned or got made fun of her, put it down like it was nothing and I learned through my whole life to hide my light under a basket because if you show too much she thought you were being conceited.