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The man in my life now consistently does things I have never had anyone, man or woman do. Like I have to have oral surgery in the next few weeks, he has already looked up recipes that will be easy for me to eat. I didn’t even think about that. He does this kind of thing all the time. He is the most thoughtful person I have ever met.
God Bless you!
When a man dose nothing for you, he is doing everything for someone else.
@Teri Page Where did you find him ?
@@bernitacenteno1326 the full answer is long and crazy, the short answer is I met him unintentionally through a friend at the start of the quarantine. My friend was here, and had known him for 5 years. He lives in another state. My friend Andrew and I began hanging out more because we had nothing to do being out of work and we got into some fun that he told his friend Jackson about. Upon hearing our shenanigans he told Andrew he wanted to meet me. We met on line, talked all through quarantine, and long story short, he is now moving here next month permanently. I honestly wasn’t even looking for anyone, I hand been divorced 2 years earlier and I was taking time for myself when the universe decided to put him in my path.
Teri Page, does he have a brother ??
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1. If he doesn’t open up about his life.
2. If he doesn’t ask about you and your life.
3. He doesn’t protect you (emotionally); doesn’t have your back or your best interests at heart.
4. You’ve never met his friends or family – he makes excuses.
5. He doesn’t go out of his way to do things for you.
6. Puts off being exclusive or avoids conversation about the future.
@@jenniferreed4889 I feel you on this. Out of all the points above he’s done the 1st in terms of opening up about his life. Hasn’t/doesn’t really ask me deep questions about mine. I’ve seen 1 of his friends only because he is always at his house. Never does anything nice for me or go out of his way like he does for his friends. I feel I have to ask and even then it doesn’t get done for weeks, even months…he’s great with his words but no real concrete actions to back up statements. In the beginning there was a lot of “we” talk. Now it’s very much “I” so no future plans. I often feel like he doesn’t truly desire me as precious relationships of his have been with women very different from me. He admires women on social media who look completely the opposite of me. I just don’t feel safe, loved and cherished. I feel like a place holder and it hurts 💔
@@jenniferreed4889 I feel so sad for you reading your comment. I honestly hope you find the genuine love you deserve ❤️
Thank Gawd someone condensed this
@@thenatural.hygienist193 Place holder is a perfect description. I feel for you as well. ❤
@@jenniferreed4889 You’re too young and important to your happiness not to give it a try!! Or at least talk to him about your joint ideas for the future. Or now?!
Ladies make your inner voice heard! “You can only lose the wrong person. You can’t lose the right person.” This is powerful Jonathon! ❤
Agree with you, four years I scheduled a date but for some reason I began having bad feelings about this date so I made up an excuse to cancel, his response to that “you are such a looser, which man would marry an Uber driver?” , my response “well, your behavior just reinforced my bad feelings about you”, thank you . 🤣 I blocked him.
So true ♥️
Yes exactly trust your gut feeling.
Well said
I like this one
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Enjoy your channel. I’ve noticed in what you’ve mentioned regarding dating sites. I’d rather do the traditional ways of meeting new people. Face to face is the best way for me. I’m of mature age and agree with what you’ve expressed. I use my own formula when taking action in anyone that my intuition tells me. I’m grateful for woken up. I’ve used my past experiences to determine what’s suitable. Reinventing oneself by transforming areas in myself to attract like-minded people on the same page. People that carry fears and harsh criticism, doesn’t do it for me. I take pride in myself not for vanity but who I am, my feminine qualities and and not out to impress others, it’s self respect. Here’s another thing I won’t accept, is someone that is still in their Past connection and haven’t done the steps ….. It’s so important to take the time to discover people right of the bat….
You are so awesome! Love this video so much. Thank you
People meet at grocery store or gas stations
Okay. Understand. Wish you the best. Had a chance to be in. California. Boyfriend did not want me to go. Could have met you. Your advice helps the hurts that has occured.
U right us women do it for our self call it how it is forreal this what I’m talking about
Not every loss is a loss. Sometimes it’s a blessing
Yes
Thank You Lord for some loss!
A Lesson vs A Blessing…..recognize the difference 🤔
Explain please
🙏 Amen
6 Things your man is doing if he’s using you:
1. He doesn’t open up to you
2. He doesn’t ask about your life
3. He doesn’t protect you from an emotional level
4. You never met his family or friends
5. He doesn’t go out of his way
6. He avoids the commitment/exclusivity talk
True. Don’t waste your good years on someone that isn’t serious or could be. Want the same. Most men looking for a couch and remote control and a maid. I know how to use my remote control, don’t need couch potatoe, and got better things to enjoy in life than cleaning piss off the toilet.
This is my husband…5/6
Thank you. Saved me 56 minutes
Thank you for the break down of the 6.
@@devong7124 👏👏😃 that ckeaning part.
You can’t loose the right person, you can only loose the wrong person, amen🙏
That is correct.
That’s the biggest line of bs I’ve ever heard. Every woman in these threads has a man whom they will say “lost” her. Was that because those women were the WRONG people? 😏
If so, they need to stop whining every time a man won’t settle down with them or cheats on them.
Lastly, love is what you make it, and whom you make it with.
There’s no such thing as “FINDING” the right person. There’s only a such thing as BEING the right person, and all people are responsible for that.
Why can’t people understand that loose and lose are different words with different meanings?
@@tracygarrett3952
@@tracygarrett3952 pronunciations are different.
My dad used to say “If you give the milk away for free, they will never buy the cow.” God bless my father! I miss you dad. ❤️
we arent cows , what a horrible saying
I know is several men that, “bought the cow.”
Mine too ❤
True
And my Pops told me
A woman loves a man with her body
A man loves a woman with his wallet
I’m old … 81 almost, and I have had two marriages, both were fine men! I am a firm believer that “BEING ALONE IS BETTER THAN BEING WITH JUST ANYONE!!!” Learn to enjoy being alone or with a friend … !!!
50 and alone and loving it
My sentiments exactly! There is nothing more lonely than a bad marriage!
Fully agreed. I am mid 70’s and single by choice. And very happy. A lot of men thinks having a wife is a whole package, wife cleans the house, cooks the meals and clean up, do the laundry… the ‘maid’ and for the their pleasure. And many feel their job is just bring in the money. Abd they expect to be pampered once they come home.
A wife, a husband should be a companion, love each other, be there for each other through the ups and downs…
I am 70 and have been divorced since 1985. I absolutely love being single.
@@shiny2423 Agreed! Marriage is not only a love relationship, but a business relationship as well. Proceed with caution!
This may sound insane, but I am a “get to know the person no matter how long it takes” kind of person. I keep a friendship going, and if they give up, that is their loss. I have made most of my mistakes by allowing a man to decide when is a good time. I have been told “How old are you, you are acting like a child”. I make it clear from the beginning. I will stay at my distance until I feel it is time to go forward. I finally learned that my empathy and kindness attracts Narcissistic Personality Disordered partners.
Sooo true
amen to that! good advice
How is it childish to take your time? That guy was clearly manipulating and gaslighting you. He was a LOSER.
Had a guy do the same thing to me too, BTW. Kicked him to the curb, real quick.
They don’t need empathy they want sex
I might be insane too but I also take my time to get to know the person as well, no matter how long. I am a mother of 2 young men. And I have had men say how long etc and the like yourself the ones who gave up its their loss. Men respect you more and take things more seriously when they have to wait. It makes them also evaluate themselves amd if they are ready for the same type of relationship that the woman is looking for.
“You can only lose the wrong person.” THANK YOU.
I don’t think that’s entirely accurate, because if you are waiting for some arbitrary amount of dates to allow sex, the person you might lose could just want an authentic woman that doesn’t view sex as as a favor.
It’s not about sex being a favour it’s about getting to know someone properly and finding out if your a good fit before you jump into bed. I wouldn’t want to give my body without a relationship first.
But what about them energy/resources leeches!? You CAN’T LOSE THEM! 💁🏻♀️😆🤌🏽
“You should only lose the wrong person”. Unfortunately, some people let good people go because of bad attitude 😢
Amen to that!
This is definitely absolutely right
Years ago my Boss had a staff
Meeting and he said to everyone there “If I can’t trust you
You can’t work for me”
In any relationship “Trust is a major issue”
A smart boss would fire the person if the employee is married, and the boss sees they’re a cheater! Huge red flag that you can’t trust the person working for, because if they’ll cheat and lie the person they married; they will cheat and lie anyone!
I had a relationship where my boyfriend totally took advantage of me doing things for him. I handled it wrong when I realized it and instead of saying “no” I got mad while I was doing his bidding. I’ve come a long way since then. Thanks Johathon!
Yes, I am definitely in agreement AMEN… at almost 60 just learning finally and feels good to feel free and in charge of ME no one else is ever.
Im heading toward same age and putting into practice what Ive known for decades😂🎉
Wow. I just broke off a 3 month relationship that showed all 6 of those signs! I think I made the right decision! Admittedly, it was my own fault for having poor boundaries. Glad I got out relatively unscathed.
Nathon, is it a secret that men prefer a BJ over Sex and why?
i’VE JUST DONE THE SAME THING. Going back into therapy to WORK ON MYSELF. Strengthening one;’s own boundaries & self esteem is something WE CAN ALL DO!
Amen and Amen. Wish I had a brother or father who looked out for me but I have my Daddy Jesus and He is all I need!
Daddy Jesus wants us all virgins until we are married, monogamous. Find someone equally yoked. Easier said than done.
Yes, because of Jesus, my sinsare covered by His blood. But I regret sharing my body. I showed those women that God’s way wasn’t as important to me as putting out for them, which we all know, really, is a comparison contest. Wby pretend otherwise?
Why should a guy who loves God, and respects his body settle for a women who has been a place into whoch other guys have ejaculated and slobbered upin and had their way playing?
Same for a woman. Why sharevthe prize with a guy who stuckbit anywhere?
Many ofbus, including me, have partneted unwisely. But letcus not gloss over it. Le5s putvour cards on the table. We’re used goods. Sex mattered more than any principle that sounds respectable. Now, ketvus get on with what we both require of our union. But no creating confususion.
Unless you were raped, you chose the sex with however many people.
If ya loved it, own it.But BE HONEST.
My new phone makes even more text typos than any other ever. Frustrating.
Started dating my 2nd husband 2 years after a divorce. I was 42 years old and decided that I wasn’t sleeping with him. Told him, can’t do it because it changes everything and I don’t know you. If he walked so be it, he wasn’t the right one. We have been together for 23 years. Actually, I think he saw me as a woman of worth and that I was secure in myself. He is a smart,kind and loving man. Women sell themselves short by being easy.
Talking to a man online and all of these points are 100% on point. All he wanted was to talk about sex all of the time, we chatted late at night, when I tried to change the subject from sex to something else he’d make his excuses and say he was tired and needed to sleep, he’d never tell me anything about himself or his life, this hurt beyond belief and made me question what I was even doing talking to this person, what was my purpose in their life? In a nutshell I ended up hurt, confused, sad, angry, it had a toll,on my physical well-being my immunity was at an all time low and I developed an auto immune illness all because of stress levels.
Ladies please don’t allow your to become someone’s play thing, don’t get into online relationships that become a game.
Hard to believe that you would be affected on an auto immune level. Maybe learn resilience
@@jl2937 Everyone’s experience is valid. Maybe learn compassion.
This should be an EASY lesson for you to learn: A MAN THAT YOU DON’T KNOW TALKING ABOUT SEX NON-STOP is Big RED FLAG WITH sirens gong off. jUST HANG UP NEVER talk to him again. His behavior is totally INAPPROPRIATE (UNLESS YOU’RE A PHONE SEX WORKER!)
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT! WE are Grown-up Ladies ~ WE NEED TO HEAR the Grown-Up Truth❣️
I agree.
Amen !!! I feel very strongly that the Lord directed me towards you. Jonathon, you’ve certainly been a big blessing. This reminds me that a particular person just isn’t the right person. And that I’m above the games and that I am God’s daughter. I deserve a man that’s chasing Jesus, not one that’s chasing cooch. Take care, 🧡 🙏