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My two cents: vanish. Plan it and vanish
I wish I could do that I gave you love out and it going to take a while to love my stuff out .
Difficult, but the only way to do it without it being messy.
THIS is how I escaped
I think you’re correct!
It is justice, a tit for a tat. The biggest problem is convincing yourself, that what you want to do is correct. So, if you wait and wait, then you will be so run down, but then you will be sure. So while you have supported them and exhausted yourself, they will be fit for the duel and you won’t. Still, you might eek through the finish line. I did. Wasn’t easy. Was hurtful, but it is ok now, but not what I envisioned. No dreams will be fulfilled by a narcissist. ❤
Thank you for the idea that healthy people break up all the time. Trauma bonded people-like me-experience intense anxiety with separation.
I was able to separate and I’m struggling with grieving the false promised dreams. And, I’m still doing much better than being in the relationship!
I’m having trouble with it and I haven’t left yet
@@aliceroberts1980you can do it. You deserve peace and stability.
@@aliceroberts1980 watching these videos, helped me stay strong and get out of a narcissistic relationship with my daughter.
Flip flopping between the roles of pacifier and punching bag is such a profound topic and ugly experience.
THIS COMMENT RIGHT HERE 👏💯
Definitely
Give them a narc injury and keep them further than arms length. The disordered person/abuser in my life, his career is in shambles. Whenever he becomes grandiose and uses his God voice with me, I remind him of how he is the underdog at work. I know he wants to punish me for this as he is trying to get me to engage with him intimately. I won’t ever give him that opportunity ever again. It’s been two years of setting firm boundaries and not letting him overstep them.
Exactly how it feels. I have to work around the narc and I have to bear all the rage smh. Fully exhausted. I snapped and said so many hurtful things that had built up in me. Hung up. Blocked his number. 😢 it’s no easy way out. You have to just go!! I should’ve left years ago but I waited until I snapped. I feel horrible for going off. But I guess my survival skills kicked in.
@@SMass-j7x you snapped because you reached a breaking point. When the pressure builds to a point the energy has to be released just like volcanoes and earthquakes. Better to explode than implode! Sadly I’m sure your partner still has not done any self reflection on is role in the explosion
Unfortunately, it’s like dealing with the Devil. Do you leave amicably? We all know that answer.
You are so right! We were high school sweethearts. No one saw this coming. I walked away 2 months ago. My son chose to stay. My daughter came with me. His smear campaigns have caused me to lose my own family members. It hasn’t been easy, for sure, but, as Dr. Ramani says we lose too much time in these relationships as it is! Stay strong 💪🏻 ✨️ fellow survivors!!
I’d say get as much of a plan together as you can. But don’t wait forever to leave. You will be hemming and hawing and second guessing, the narc will sense this and start messing some more with everyone. Sometimes it’s just get the hell out and leave what you have to behind.
One of the reasons I stayed for so long was because when I kept saying we should breakup he would RAGE. I knew, deep down, that when I left it was going to be catastrophic – and it was.
To this day I get triggered when people ask me why didn’t I just leave?
@nopereradicator Yep I totally get what you are saying here. These breakups are far from normal breakups.
@@nopereradicator❤❤❤ understand
Leaving a narcissist is the hardest thing i ever did,after being caught up with out knowing what i was dealing with for almost 20 yrs,thank God we didnt uv children together,i left went no contact 9 months ago,it aint easy but its the best thing i ever could of done ,starting all over at 60 yrs old is not easy,but it can happend.
Good for you! Best of luck
Starting over at 76❤
Starting over at 61. Definitely not easy but so much better to have peace.
Leaving and staying out of your life, is the BEST GIFT a narcissist can ever give you!
Then it’s not a narcissist, hello
Exactly 💯 😂.. narcissist may not like you but they won’t let go of you because they love controlling people @@reacting_to_stuff_
There will always be grief when dealing with these narc beings. I need to let this sink in. 😢
When I was moving my stuff into the moving truck I had an armed person down the street watching, in case things turned violent. After I was free, it was no contact. That was 9 years ago. I honestly don’t think I would be alive today if I had stayed.
Yep, I fully understand. I had to literally move continents to get away from this person and I would never be alive if I had stayed. He already tried to unalive me 3 times at that point.
@@DiscordBeingwow! I was threatened by my daughter. Scary stuff.
@@DiscordBeingAww I’m sorry u had to go through all that! 😢
That is so evil n wicked of em!😢
@@beverlyadams7205😮 That would be scary!😢
I lived in a $3000 van in peoples driveways (at 53) for 6 years when I left my 22 year relationship. Found 2 more manipulative men who were abusive – 6 years later I’m finally recovering and though life may be lonely at least it’s not abusive…
My mantra: lonely but not abusive.
Proud of you.
This is so true, it’s painful … but feeling the pain of it is farrrr better than staying in the dark .. Thank you Dr. R., you are a Blessing in the world …
Thanks Dr Ramani for this insight. I didn’t realise all along what I was dealing with. Only wish I had known all this before so I could’ve prepared myself. Nevertheless, with what you have shared, I will try my best to navigate out of it
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge! I left my narcissist (before I found your videos). I knew and felt that things are not going to change for the better. There is still a little spot in me that wants to give up, go back or just be there. Listening and learning makes it easier, step by step, day by day. A little bit at a time…..
You can’t end a relationship that never happened. It wasn’t real from the start. They didn’t have the capacity. So do you want a real life? Is there really any choice ? I made my choices. There weren’t any phychologists or videos or groups. It was bewildering and I just managed to wind up in several relationships with narcissists. The important thing was my breakout from my own tendencies. I was my own jailer. It took a lot. Time, financial loss, friends, family and loneliness. But the work is almost finished. Never completed, but I’m moving and growing.
As someone who’s left both a narcisstic partner and a boss who had full-on NPD (not my diagnosis-I worked with psychologists all day and that was their assessment of her), I can promise you this: YOU WILL NOT REGRET LEAVING. You will, however, beat yourself up about not leaving sooner once you experience the relief of leaving. I’m warning you ahead of time about that. But you will be so, so happy you left.
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@@MzShonuff123 Did the people in charge of hiring know they were hiring a narcissist? To work with a bunch of psychologists? How did they feel about that decision? Was it ever remedied? After what happened? Sorry, I’ve been a victim of this in the workplace and am curious.
I just want to say how much I appreciate the knowledge you share in your videos. It’s been 11 years almost 12 now since my narcissistic ex-husband left me and I’m still dealing with psychological and emotional damage from that. And day by day very slowly, I am piecing myself back together, your videos really help me in that journey. Especially, I am noticing toxic traits that I have picked up in order to deal with the narcissist that made me believe that maybe I was the narcissist. In fact, I was simply attempting to cope with the scary and dangerous situation that I was in. become a better and more whole person Has been challenging and rewarding and again I thank you and your work for your contribution to my healing 🙏
Wow. Every word of this describes what I’m living. Accurate as can be.
I want OUT and it HAS to fall apart.
Hoping anyone that is dealing with leaving stays strong. Videos like this will keep you empowered 💪