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Haven’t dated anyone.
I have a lot of women as friends, but I’ve never had a girlfriend.
– I always prefer to take my time. That’s the way people did it before and it’s the safest way to get to know somebody.
Usually, people generally show you their stripes after about a year – and there are usually multiple instances of them being terrible to people or abusing/ manipulating.
Don’t ignore red flags. That’s one of the things I’ve learned.
It’s easy to blame yourself for ending up in toxic relationship after another, and it’s like we tend to miss the red flags because everything seems normal with them. But it’s not about who’s at fault but learning the patterns and to protect yourself and heal from the experiences and find growth.
Yes I did!
And yes, part of it was me.
The more clear I became with my values, MY value and my no no no🙂↔️ ( boundaries) the healthier my relationships became.
Remember early dating is wondering why someone was single and then finding out the why’s 😉
Could some of our behaviors with men, or people in general, be what we learned from our moms? Some moms are incompetent as moms, and their relationships.
@@jeanie5074Yes and dads too but it’s our responsibility to do the work it takes to heal to stop the pattern of abuse. It would not be ok for someone to use their parents as an excuse to abuse someone so why would it be ok to use that as an excuse to stay in a relationship with someone who is repeatedly abusive or to keep getting into relationships with abusive people? It is a lot easier to focus on what’s wrong with other people than to focus on what’s wrong with ourselves but the latter is necessary if we want to stop the pattern.
I’m a narc magnet 🧲.. staying single ❤
Me to. I’m narc magnet also…CPTSD, BPD, ADHD etc. Shiety childhood with father psychopath narcissist sadist and cold Mather narcisst, bleh 🤮 till now my life is broken from every single side. It’s so not fear that one of us can have a normal life and another one shiet.
Me too
Be a narc repellent then market it & take it to the bank
Simple and straightforward. Love it.
@@Wszystko_minie please read the artists way. It really helped me. X
I’ve been detoxing for about 9 years now.. haha
I know that’s right lol
This: “it feels automatic, reflexive.”
What I wouldn’t give to have had that perfect realization at that time.
Dr Ramani is being nice I would suggest 2 years! Being raised by a psychopath father picking narc was the norm. I met a friend at 5 years old let her go after 60 years a full blown narc. I was reading an old journal the other day complaining about how another narc girl was so entitled and just mean! Back then I had no clue she was a covert narc! BUT all the signs were there. At 68 I’m tired of jumping through hoops, just to be liked! Mann I tell you Dr Ramani rocks! Electric guitar hard!
but like, lets say, evil people, do they think they are doing evil? but they still do evil etc, maybe it comes from trauma, humanity is still here soo its not most people
When you notice that most relationships(including platonic) involve some form of dismissive control(related to your own vulnerability), you are indeed a magnet but not just a magnet for narcissistic behaviour patterns.
To burn bright in darkness one will inevitably attract the blood sucking mosquitoes(along with the rest of the spectrum of opportunistic insects) while walking through the swamp.
One must develop their narc mosquito repellent which will taint your supply hopefully at worst poisoning the blood sucker when bitten or at best repelling them entirely.
👏 😂 love the visual metaphor ❤
Nailed it again Dr Ramani! So much truth! ❤
I have noticed I start out feeling sorry for them. I am going to take that as a big red flag now.
Yup
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We keep end up being in narcissistic relationships, because we live in a very narcissistic time.
I’m done with relationships. I was married, 20 years, and he lied/narc the whole time. Now, these men out here lying, gas lighting, trying all these tactics to get you. I’m done. It’s not me, it’s their lying behinds. I’ve gone to 2 different therapists and asked “AM I THE NARC?” Nope.
For what it’s worth, 5 years ago I met a man. Aged, in the park. I wore Croccs, looked shabby…because dog, busy and 0.0 interested in menfolk. This man started talking to me about politics and was charming. Invited me for coffee. I had a very bad feeling about this man. But thought: “That’s mean, the man is lonely and hey, a cup of coffee with a neighbor isn’t bad after all.” Long story short. After 3 months of coffee he started to conquer me and slowly treated me very badly. Feel free to say terrorize. It was after this fling that I finally discovered what Narcissism was at the age of 51. Thanks to my hero Doctor Ramani. May you be blessed and receive much love in your life, in your heart. Thank you beautiful woman.
he is gay? also are u a man or woman?
Mine all started with not having healthy boundaries, ignoring red flags, making excuses for bad behavior. It took the last horrific relationship to need to seek knowledge about the patterns. So if you’re here you are already on the right track. When you know you can start to do better.
I would never date again if I was young again but spend my time on befriending myself… looking back from 66 now I can see they simply got more covert as well as sicker. Sociopathy is everywhere these sad days so learn to discern by getting to know yourself from the inside out. Then you may find that you don’t need to have a partner around because you’re finally happy with who you are
Thank you, Dr. Ramani. So sick of the victim blaming. And thank you for emphasizing a year break when coming out of a narcissistic relationship. So many people just won’t do this. But it’s so crucial. If not, they’ll find themselves back at square one with even more baggage.
Yeahhh love feels good, not shrinkage … knowing myself more intimately through new frequencies. . … major recalibration goin on with most folk it seems ❤❤❤
I did go from malignant narcissists to vulnerable narcissists. And they cheat too. Their constant victimhood is the eaisest early red flag.
But they do end up the same. Every time.
It’s my energy. They know a good source when they see one. That’s why following my gut feeling Immediately is important
I think I do it again because that’s all I’ve known. It is normal for me. It’s all I know. I’ve never had love. My mom and my ex. I don’t trust myself or others