Inside the mind of a self-aware narcissist
Do narcissists actually know they’re narcissistic? In this video, we unpack the six levels of awareness narcissistic people have—from those who genuinely think they’re the nicest person in the room to the rare unicorns who recognize their behavior and hate it. But don’t be fooled: self-awareness doesn’t mean change, and sometimes it just becomes another excuse for their entitled, manipulative behavior.
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I wish everyone a happy Wednesday!
Its thursday here. Hope you have a happy thursday tomorrow.
@@michellemariejanewalsh5302Happy Thursday❤️
Thank you Dr Ramani for all that you do ❤
Ahh a good Wednesday with a dr. Ramani video let’s go! Thank you so much for making these videos it has helped me majorly!
There are narcissists who are diagnosed NPD that will use their diagnosis as an excuse for everytime they treat people badly and get called out for it. Having a struggle doesn’t give you permission to create more struggle for others.
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The narcissist does so much damage to the psyche of the ones they’re abusing. I just finished a bout with the silent treatment and it is so, so painful especially when you have abandonment issues.
Especially when that narcissist is your therapist that is supposed to be helping with those abandonment issues.🙏✌️
@@stevensawyer5924 I had a wonderful therapist for several years. Unfortunately, she knew nothing about narcissism and tried to help me build a bridge towards my children with kindness and caring. It didn’t work. I walked away from my two narcissistic daughters, the older one two years ago, and the younger one over a year ago. Really really really difficult to restructure my thinking to encompass this radical change in my family situation. However, every day I get stronger and stronger.
I have heard “well, this is just how I am” so many damn times
Bingo. They know something is wrong with them but they expect the world to cater to it because they’re entitled to it. Poor victims.
How about “this is how I fucking talk” 🙄
@@apocalypsticc I get “Dont police my tone” lol
@@rg7122 yeah when I told her I was considering ending things, she admitted she treated me poorly, but also found out in her first therapy session that it was my fault she treated me that way.
@@GregBillings-e1f LOL that is so ridiculous, what does it even mean 🤣
“I didn’t come here for a fight” said the survivor. 😢❤
Can you do a video on how some people diagnosed with NPD or seeking a diagnosis are now claiming content like this is “ableism” and that people who have been abused by narcissists are being “ableist” for calling out toxic behavior? I have seen this sentiment growing on the Internet and I think we need to have a nuanced discussion about balancing compassion for people with mental illness and not excusing certain behaviors. Because I feel like some are co-opting the term ableism and are running the risk of warping its meaning
Extremely astute point! As always, narcissists will weaponize ANYTHING they possibly can to get the upper hand and warp the true meaning of any term they adopt for their purposes. They are not being victimized, they are being exposed, and there is a huge difference.
They know what they are, but they just don’t care who they hurt, once you know you go you get out and you stay out.👍 Dr Ramani.
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Self awareness doesn’t equal accountability and change.
Sometimes it makes it worse: they learn how to hide it better; and learn techniques to exploit others with sophistication
24:29 If a person describes him/herself as narcissistic but is not behaving in a narcissistic manner, the probability is high that a narcissistic person convinced them of this.
As soon as someone shows you that they’re a narcissist is the moment you need to walk away
Agree, assuming that’s an option for you. Not that it’s easy, but that is even an option at all.
If you aren’t a minor child, walking away is always an option, even if it’s a bad one.
@@jacktaylor1801if only it were that simple. In a lot of circumstances in a lot of cultures, you are correct. But there are a lot of cultures where that’s not the extent of it.” Bad ” becomes worse than staying, because the fallout can be more punative with no safety or support to be found. I’m glad you’re not in these systems, and would only advise that you be open to the fact that not everyone is privileged like it may seem on the surface with such options that are admittedly bad but better than staying.
Since I found your videos 2 weeks ago, I feel like someone opened curtains inside my mind and I could finally see a nearly 10 year long relationship with the mother of my child for what it was…
I don’t feel confused anymore.
I know I have played my part… I have acted badly at times too. Though I am starting to see a lot of my actions where acted from a place of duress and not saftey as I thought at the time…
I have been essentially calling her narcissistic this whole time, by describing the way I feel I have been treated or expected to act, but I didn’t know anything about narcissim and just put it down to past trauma.
Thank you Dr Ramani….
You opened the curtains.
If someone said to me, “hi, I’m a narcissist, I would say, “Bye, I gotta go!” and there would be nothing but dust where I had been standing. I don’t care if they are aware, I’ve dealt with too many of them to get sucked into their charisma and misery again.
Yep if you are able to walk away, walk away.
Some may be aware they are narcissists, but they will never understand what a miserable, fake life they lead. They will never know true love and happiness.
I am angry when they ruin the lives of those around them and I cannot forgive their actions, but I genuinely feel sorry for them. Now that I realize I can’t help them, I keep my distance.
For covert, malignant and psychopaths. Self awareness is usually way more dangerous
My daughter used to tell me after she would scream and yell about something insignificant that she had no control over her emotions. I had to just deal with it. I dealt with it all right I haven’t seen her for over two years. I’m finally learning who I am at 76 years old after a lifetime of abuse by narcissists.
Almost 75 and still learning too. Life is more peaceful without the narc’s in it.
This is almost like learning about another species, sub humans…, “for whatever one sows, that will he also reap”!
I can distinctly remember spiting out my coffee and going into a coughing laughing fit when I read a text from my ex telling me how “empathetic” she was. Her lack of self awareness was incredible.
Triangulation is one of the cruelest games narcissists play — they subtly bring in a third person (real or imagined) to make you feel insecure and compete for their attention. It often begins right when the devaluing phase kicks in.
During the love bombing stage, you feel like the center of their world. But then the tone shifts they’re suddenly distant, distracted, cold. Maybe they stop texting as much, sex drops off, they’re harder to please, or they start criticizing you over little things. And worst of all, they might mention “someone else” — a coworker, an ex, even a friend — who seems to be everything you’re not. That’s triangulation. It’s not an accident. It’s a tactic to control you and boost their ego.
You’ll feel the shift deep in your gut. You’ll try to rationalize it, but don’t. That feeling is the truth trying to get through to you.
Silent treatments increase. Arguments become twisted. You feel like you’re always the problem. They gaslight you, then “make up” just enough to keep you hooked. Meanwhile, they might already be grooming new supply behind your back.
Eventually, you’re no longer the perfect fantasy partner in their mind. You’re now a puppet to control, until they discard you.
For me, the biggest turning point was hiring a private investigator. Once I had proof of what the narcissist was actually doing, I didn’t need closure anymore. I got truth instead. If you suspect you’re being played and cheated on by a narcissist, send a request to: MetaspyHub@gmail. com — they helped me take my power back. Best money I ever spent.. .